Anyone else going through a divorce??

Good luck to you, I hope you get through this soon. You seem like a pretty strong woman who wants nothing but the best for you and your son. I know you will be OK! I am not divorced but I do come from a broken home and it was difficult growing up however my mom protected us and loved us like none other! I consider myself a very well rounded person and it's all thanks to my beautiful mother

Divorce has been final for three months; and, our kids are 9, 3, 2. Unfortunate about how my kids will experience life without both biological parents but my mental health is just as important as everything else.

I forgot to add, I went through a class called DivorceCare (Google it, they have a website). They really shed a lot of light on the feelings I was having, the situation I found myself in, and I really understood that I wasn't the only person feeling what I was feeling. I found myself watching the videos and thinking, "that's how I feel!"

Be careful who you trust, friends choose sides unfortunately. Be careful the words that come out of your mouth-hole. Things have a way of getting back to the other party and ultimately to their lawyer.

Unfortunatly you find out who your true friends are during this time too.

It does get better. I never married my daughter's dad, but separated when she was 2. He was worthless & a horrible father to her (she's now 19) Luckily he lived 3 hrs away & rarely bothered to see her. I met my fiance (of 11 years) when she was 8 & he has been a perfect step-dad to her. I'm so glad she was able to have a positive male role model in her life. He has 2 kids of his own (now 18 & 15) so it was challenging to be a step mom too. It is very difficult to raise kids in these 'broken' home situations, but after all these years of trial & error, it has really paid off! The kids are all great & they don't 'hate' me anymore! If you think divorce is difficult, wait til you start a new family!! It's wonderful in so many ways, but challenging too. Read books, talk to friends, the more you know, the better. The trick is to always put aside your personal feelings & keep what is best for your son your priorty. I hope that your ex is atleast a good dad, if he is, don't deny your son time with him. If he's not, well, do what you can. It's hard to explain to a kid why their dad is such a %$#^*. Just make sure he knows you both love him very much & keep everything positive in his eyes. Good luck on your journey & enjoy this time to get to know yourself & be good to yourself.