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  • J3Ramos23
    J3Ramos23 Posts: 43 Member
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    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    J3Ramos23 wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    Not much to say: I've been married to the same person for the last 11 years. It's had its ups and downs and there was a patch where I honestly thought were weren't going to make it, but we did and here we are.

    Relationships in the past?? Oh, there are some stories I could tell, lol.

    Glad to hear your relationship is good. I been with my girlfriend for 5 years. It's amazing, every relationship has its ups and downs but take a strong relation to get through it together

    It helps that I spend half of my year alone so just when I get sick and tired of him (or him of me), we get time alone, lol. I'm also extremely solitary by nature, so it works just fine for us, but I wouldn't expect it to work for everyone.

    Why do you spend half the year alone?
  • km8907
    km8907 Posts: 3,861 Member
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    peaceout_aly wrote: »
    J3Ramos23 wrote: »
    I dont know If you have been in this situation. But I have a great relationship but sometime we dont as much "fun" as I want. If you know what I'm trying to say with "fun"

    ^^ Literally my #1 issue. My relationship is awesome. We travel a ton, have a gorgeous home, two amazing pups, and I tell my man everything...he's my best friend & I'm his. But he's lazy. Not at his job, he's very productive at that. But when he gets home he just wants to sleep or watch TV and "decompress." My idea of decompressing is NOT watching the TV. LOL. I've tried everything. Even have made him start incorporating vitamins, try to get him in the gym to up his energy, nothing works. So frustrating and it's really putting a dent in an otherwise dream worthy relationship. He gets aggravated when I bring up the needing to have more "fun" aspect too. He says that I'm being ungrateful for all we have, etc. But he is actually like a woman sometimes..he will say, "I'm too tired, my belly hurts, I had a long day" - something along those lines. I'm not ungrateful, at all. I am so thankful for what I have and how hard he works, I just feel like 15-30 minutes of "us time" isn't too much to ask out of a 24-hour day.

    Slip a viagra into his dinner.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
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    J3Ramos23 wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    J3Ramos23 wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    Not much to say: I've been married to the same person for the last 11 years. It's had its ups and downs and there was a patch where I honestly thought were weren't going to make it, but we did and here we are.

    Relationships in the past?? Oh, there are some stories I could tell, lol.

    Glad to hear your relationship is good. I been with my girlfriend for 5 years. It's amazing, every relationship has its ups and downs but take a strong relation to get through it together

    It helps that I spend half of my year alone so just when I get sick and tired of him (or him of me), we get time alone, lol. I'm also extremely solitary by nature, so it works just fine for us, but I wouldn't expect it to work for everyone.

    Why do you spend half the year alone?

    One of us is a parent and works from home; the other is a parent and is the military's dog (I jest, but one of us is employed by the military and is often gone).
  • cfgreear
    cfgreear Posts: 189 Member
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    Been with my wife for 8 years and have 2 kids. Things have ups and downs but now its mostly just ups cause we know how to deal with the downs in a more constructive way than we used to. Life is good and continues to be good as long as I remember to walk away and go on a jog or walk when I start to argue something that can become bigger. Its better to be wrong than to be alone, pick your battles wisely.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
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    What do you mean by "fun". Like lickin' fun dip together? They sell fun dip at any concession stand.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
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    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    What do you mean by "fun". Like lickin' fun dip together? They sell fun dip at any concession stand.

    Fun dip used to be called lick’em sticks.
    Little fun trivia fact for you. You’re welcome.

    I love your brilliant mind. Full of filth and factoids. :wink:
  • sniper300_Rum
    sniper300_Rum Posts: 1,073 Member
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    Im single
  • mybassfishingirl
    mybassfishingirl Posts: 195 Member
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    You need to work hard in a relationship, both ways 50-50...I met my husband, I was 17, he was 19, we were total strangers when we met, we married 4 months later, & this year will be 42 years for us, we grew together, had our ups & downs like most, but still worked things out, were the best of friends, and do everything together, I couldn't imagine life without him, it's hard work, but worth it in the long run...

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