help help help!

hiimshadoe
hiimshadoe Posts: 122
edited October 1 in Motivation and Support
so..im not so skinny..and along with that bringing me down..i also have like zero friends...and sometimes i feel its because of my appearance!
i need friends to text..or fb to help keep me motivated and just talk to once in a while!!!around my age!20-22..it sucks being overweight and not having any girlfriends around for help

i have a wonderful boyfriend but it just isnt quite the same as having girlfriendsss!

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  • aimeeturner
    aimeeturner Posts: 225 Member
    I am definitely not your age, but you are welcome to "friend" me on MFP if you would like :)
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    I do understand. Im 24 (at the end of the month) and all my real friends are in other states so I have no real support. It gets totally depressing. Having a great "virtual friend world" really does help! Even some people I have never met know more about whats going on with me and my body then any one else... and relationships... and offer great advice!
  • kimziebaby
    kimziebaby Posts: 133 Member
    you have my number girl, all you have to do is text mee. :P
  • hphm420
    hphm420 Posts: 34 Member
    I'm 35, but feel free to add me as a friend. Good Luck :-)
  • michaelabridezilla
    michaelabridezilla Posts: 80
    I live in the UK but my name on facebook is michaela melaney (soon to be withnall-james) xx
  • loubulou2209
    loubulou2209 Posts: 62
    I'm 23 but feel free to add me if you need some support!

    I love my mates, but they are all lucky skinnies, so I've found it SO lovely to have people to talk to who understand! :)

    Lottie
  • o0Amanda0o
    o0Amanda0o Posts: 41 Member
    Hi there! I don't see what the issue is with your appearance as you are pretty, but anyway feel free to add me I am a little older than you but I am still in my twenties!! :o)
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
    People have a tendency to blame a whole myriad of problems on being overweight. Some like health issues, hold more validity. Others like lack of friends, failed relationships, or inablility to land a job, are seated in a deeper issue.

    In the vast majority of cases, being overweight is not the cause, but rather the symptom of a larger issue... You. Even in the short post here, your words point to a lack of self confidence and negative thought patterns.

    Yes, losing weight can help your self esteem, but it is going to take more more work that just exercise and diet to create a happy, healthy person that others want to create bonds with. Some people can make these changes on their own, and physical activity not only helps, but offers you time to reflect. Others find that professional help is necessary.

    I truly hope you find a path that leads you to happiness, but I would encourage you to look deeper than your weight. Our outward appearance is most often a reflection of what is going on inside, they change together.
  • sandy2006
    sandy2006 Posts: 483 Member
    too bad for me I'm 39 soon.
  • 1drea1
    1drea1 Posts: 3
    hey i'm 22 and i aswell feel just like you do the only support i have is my bf i have no friends whom i can talk to about losing weight i have 2 friends and they're always inviting me out to eat as if they dont want me to lose weight =[ feel free to add me :)
  • Sa2ah
    Sa2ah Posts: 45 Member
    feel free to add me :) im 25 so a little older than you but all of my friends i physically see live in another state (moved out of state 8 months ago) so i kinda understand what your going through. my support system is through the computer :)
  • Jamcnair
    Jamcnair Posts: 586 Member
    I'm 22. You can add me if you'd like!
  • hollym29
    hollym29 Posts: 2
    I'm a little bit younger (I turn 19 in September) but I definitely get what you're saying! Everyone around me is either already skinny or isn't worried about losing weight. I'd love someone to talk to when I need motivation, because they all just say "It's no big deal, skip a workout, cheat one meal," etc.
  • Kristi1228
    Kristi1228 Posts: 8
    Hey girl, I know how you feel. I'm always free to talk. I love making new friends when I can. =)
    **Facebook.com/Kitti1228**
  • Stephhhy1910
    Stephhhy1910 Posts: 11
    I know excatly what your saying :( I have like zero friends, or friends who want to go out and party all the time, which is not me. I'm 22, We are already MFP friends, Feel Free to Inbox me & I will send you my facebook username!
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    People have a tendency to blame a whole myriad of problems on being overweight. Some like health issues, hold more validity. Others like lack of friends, failed relationships, or inablility to land a job, are seated in a deeper issue.

    In the vast majority of cases, being overweight is not the cause, but rather the symptom of a larger issue... You. Even in the short post here, your words point to a lack of self confidence and negative thought patterns.

    Yes, losing weight can help your self esteem, but it is going to take more more work that just exercise and diet to create a happy, healthy person that others want to create bonds with. Some people can make these changes on their own, and physical activity not only helps, but offers you time to reflect. Others find that professional help is necessary.

    I truly hope you find a path that leads you to happiness, but I would encourage you to look deeper than your weight. Our outward appearance is most often a reflection of what is going on inside, they change together.

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    NOT HELPFUL!

    Given I am sure there are the typically people on here who have not dealt with self-esteem issues. Where as I agree there is a deeper problem, finding supportive friends is the FIRST step to finding what the root of certain problems may be and turning life around. Its really hard to start new when there is no one to catch you when you fall, even just emotionally
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