HELP! Off track for two days I need motivation

arilukaszewicz1 · May 2018

It seems like whenever my husband has a day off I go off track and don’t count calories and I also eat bad foods! I feel hopeless because I know every week I will have another set back it feels like

Last night we ordered dominos and through the day I had iced coffee twice which adds up with the calories! Then today I had a burger and fries for dinner and a taco bowl for lunch along with the iced coffee!!!

I’m on my 15 day with mfp and had lost 5 pounds the first week along with every other day strength training and walking. Now it feels like I’m giving up again I’m so upset

HarryPro · May 2018

One or two bad days aren't going to kill you or your diet. It seems to me like you are better off just getting back on track than abandoning the diet altogether, no? Everyone stumbles, you just gotta keep progressing forward.

erjones11 · May 2018

You can't change what happened 1 minute or one day ago. You can only control now and tomorrow.

Figure out what trigged you going off plan so you can prepare for it next time. Make a meal plan for those days your husband has off and work his day off in to your plan.

If he wants to go out for a burger, make it a wrap and skip the fries. Eat slowly and enjoy his company!

You can't expect to never have a set back. What matters is what you do next. 15 Days 5 pounds down, focus on the next 15 and 5.

You can do this.

arilukaszewicz1 · May 2018

HarryPro wrote: »

One or two bad days aren't going to kill you or your diet. It seems to me like you are better off just getting back on track than abandoning the diet altogether, no? Everyone stumbles, you just gotta keep progressing forward.

Thank you that’s true, I just hate my that my husband eats bad in front of me. Guess I need more self control

pinggolfer96 · May 2018

You’re human, enjoy your life cause you only get one. 2 days won’t derail overall consistency

serindipte · May 2018

You can work your calories to fit pizza and burgers in without wrecking anything. I eat that almost weekly.

elisa123gal · May 2018

/it takes work to break that cycle of eating whatever you want. There is always the weekends...lots of holidays ..birthdays ..and vacations. If you don't come up with a strategy for having fun and staying on your plan it will be a long road. Having one thing off is one matter..but eating all day long for a few days of what you want will set you back.

move on...just jump back on your plan and get it under control.

serindipte · May 2018

I was on my phone earlier, and just put a quick response. Back on the computer, so I can add more detail to what I meant~

Burger and fries, especially home cooked, is really easy to fit in my calories for the day. I don't have to do anything special for that. I do bake the fries instead of dropping them in oil and that helps a lot.

As far as pizza, I usually have a salad with it so I only eat a couple pieces instead of a half a pizza. Even a half a pizza can fit in my daily calorie goal, though. If I know I'm going to be eating pizza for dinner, I eat lighter earlier in the day to allow for it.

If I'm going to have a splurge meal, one I know would never fit within my daily calorie goal, I save up a couple hundred per day leading up to that day so I don't go over my weekly average.

There are many ways to eat what you want without damaging your goals. As far as "Bad" food, that doesn't exist in my book. I eat what I want. This morning, I ate 1,000+ calories at iHop. Still didn't wreck anything and I had room for this margarita pouch I have melting beside me waiting for it to be soft enough I can slush it.

My diary is open if you want to see how I've done what I'm doing.

ETA: The ONLY thing you may be doing to wreck your goal is not logging. Log it all, whether you go over or not. You're only cheating yourself by not keeping track and you may be pleasantly surprised.

NovusDies · May 2018

Try not to think of food as good or bad. Calories are calories. I had pizza on Friday myself and I made it fit into my normal diet. Instead of thinking of it as food as you can't have all think of it is food you can have if you plan ahead.

I can't tell you what is right or wrong for you because it is your diet but I do think that you should log it all. Depending on what you selected as your weekly lose rate you may not have even done as bad as you are imagining. You have to eat 3500 calories above your maintenance calories to gain a pound of fat. It is probably also a good idea to know what your maintenance calories are.

There is a rule I live by now that might help you. I do not expect myself to be perfect and lose weight everyday. I just expect myself to lose weight most days. For me taking the stress off actually helps me to be better.

HarryPro · May 2018

arilukaszewicz1 wrote: »

HarryPro wrote: »

One or two bad days aren't going to kill you or your diet. It seems to me like you are better off just getting back on track than abandoning the diet altogether, no? Everyone stumbles, you just gotta keep progressing forward.

Thank you that’s true, I just hate my that my husband eats bad in front of me. Guess I need more self control

I hear you. I feel like we dieters are more often stuck with stubborn spouses than not. Especially us guys who tend to be a touch or two (or ten) more stubborn than women. Really, tho, the only thing that is going to wreck your diet is getting off of it. A trip up here and there isn't going to matter as long as you keep working toward your goal.

Keep the faith, Sister. You'll be alright.

kommodevaran · May 2018

I think you should understand what motivation is - your wish to weigh less along with the drive to do what it takes.

Then stop dividing foods into good and bad. Demonizing foods sounds like a good strategy to put you off, but it has the opposite effect - and you will feel weak and stupid when you can't resist anymore. If you eat to stave off bad emotions, and rely solely on self control, you're setting yourself up for failure.

Don't blame your husband for your food choices. You can eat whatever you want, independently from him. But it's also nice to share a meal. If you don't do it too often and/or not overeat, you can eat anything.

Don't blow things out of proportion, and be kind to yourself. Look at how you eat and live over time. Find reasonable strategies and boundaries. Those can include cooking more at home, and not aiming for a too large calorie deficit.

callsitlikeiseeit · May 2018

i lost 100 pounds and all my ex did was eat out, eat high calorie foods, and be an all around prick (thats not really relevant, but it is true lol). he was also 300 pounds, diabetic, high BP and heart issues, had had a stroke, yadda yadda yada .

anyways, i lost the majority of my weight when i was with him. i PLANNED my food. id ask him where /what he wanted to eat that day, and work around it.

be accountable for your own choices.

Siran12001 · May 2018

If you know you're going to eat more calories, whenever your husband has a day off, try preplanning. Your body doesn't reset at midnight. Eat 50-100 kcal a day less over the week and you can eat 300-600 kcals more on the day off, without ruining your diet.

xbowhunter · May 2018

I don't watch what my spouse is eating. I have my own eating goals & what she does has no affect on me.

Just yesterday we attended a party & it was time for the high calorie & sugar cake. I said no thanks because I don't eat that garbage anymore. The guests at the party were on me for not giving in to there peer pressure tactics...lol

I simply said if one of you can tell me the calories in that cake I'll eat it. They had no idea & that my friends is why your all obese & i'm not...

briscogun · May 2018

serindipte wrote: »

You can work your calories to fit pizza and burgers in without wrecking anything. I eat that almost weekly.

Absolutely. You can have a slice of pizza and fit that in no problem, its when you have the whole pizza that it becomes an issue, right? Burgers are fine (I try to skip the fries because they are generally more calorie dense than the burger sometimes!). If you know your hubby is going to be off and your eating is going to get funky, just plan for it. Eat at more of a deficit the day before and/or the day after, make breakfast light if you know lunch and dinner will be heavier, etc.

There's no reason to feel bad about eating foods you enjoy, you just need to figure out how to work it in to your goals. This will be a lifelong issue so might as well learn to figure it out now!

kshama2001 · May 2018

arilukaszewicz1 wrote: »

HarryPro wrote: »

One or two bad days aren't going to kill you or your diet. It seems to me like you are better off just getting back on track than abandoning the diet altogether, no? Everyone stumbles, you just gotta keep progressing forward.

Thank you that’s true, I just hate my that my husband eats bad in front of me. Guess I need more self control.

This time of year we have burgers all the time. Having pizza tonight. I don't need self control or motivation - I need new habits.

When we grill burgers, mine is 4 oz and his is considerably larger. I have a big salad with mine. My bun is only 110 calories. His buns are a lot more.

He gets 5/8 of the pizza. I get 3/8. He's a foot taller than me so splitting food would be silly. (However, we did split pizza for a long time before the light bulb went off.) I have a big salad with pizza and chew the pizza really really slowly.

When we go out to eat, I know I will be satisfied with a half entree so plan ahead to just eat half and bring the rest home.

If I were going out to eat twice in one day I'd pick lighter meals.

Calliope610 · May 2018

1. There are no bad foods.
2. Just get back on that horse and ride. You are not going to get to your destination if you just stare at the damn horse. So what if it threw you; get back in the saddle, take firm grip of the reins and let that pony run.

RAinWA · May 2018

xbowhunter wrote: »

I don't watch what my spouse is eating. I have my own eating goals & what she does has no affect on me.

Just yesterday we attended a party & it was time for the high calorie & sugar cake. I said no thanks because I don't eat that garbage anymore. The guests at the party were on me for not giving in to there peer pressure tactics...lol

I simply said if one of you can tell me the calories in that cake I'll eat it. They had no idea & that my friends is why your all obese & i'm not...

Smug much?

Cake is not "garbage" and can be part of a healthy diet. Separating foods into "good" and "bad" is what leads so many people into failure - they think they can only eat the "good" foods and they are a failure if they eat the "bad" foods.

Learning to eat food you like in quantities appropriate for your goals is something that takes planning and practice. People will need to eat for the rest of their lives, including navigating social situations. Lumping foods into categories like "garbage" isn't really going to help in reaching goals.

jo_nz · May 2018

It can be so frustrating. My DH eats LOTS and it is really tempting to eat the same as him sometimes.

What helped me was actually putting in his stats into MFP and seeing what his calorie target should be a day - at 6ft6, in an active job, I already knew he needed "more" than I do at 5ft4, but actually seeing that number (about 2.5x my intake goal) put it into perspective for me.

Now I say no more often, take smaller serves, or leave a few things off my plate.
Usually.

jennifer_417 · May 2018

It would be helpful to figure out how to work those things into your daily calories. There really are no "bad" foods, and you seem to be losing weight like a champ, so there's really no problem here.

_piaffe · May 2018

arilukaszewicz1 wrote: »

HarryPro wrote: »

One or two bad days aren't going to kill you or your diet. It seems to me like you are better off just getting back on track than abandoning the diet altogether, no? Everyone stumbles, you just gotta keep progressing forward.

Thank you that’s true, I just hate my that my husband eats bad in front of me. Guess I need more self control

Discipline > Motivation

You do need more self control. Honestly, motivation ebbs, flows and fades. It won't sustain you for months and months, through hormonal cycles and holidays, through seasonal changes and moods.

Agree though: don't be so hard on yourself. Learn and move forward. 2 days is really nothing in the big picture!

beccapax · May 2018

I was lamenting this same thing. Over the weekend, I went to a Memorial Day BBQ and a birthday party. I've decided to focus on the fun I had with the people I love, rather than beat myself up for indulging in some treats. I'm just going to be more vigilant this week and it will all even out.

HELP! Off track for two days I need motivation

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