How fat would you let your spouse get?

pshhh after 5lbs id tell that fatty to shape up!
(joke.) id only say sumthin if i were worried.

I wouldn't care what weight he was as long as I could get him to eat his darn vegetables!

My husband admits he is a bit overweight but is too lazy to do anything about it. I would only say anything if I noticed it really taking a toll on his daily life.

I do however wish he would have said something to me sooner. I actually told him a couple weeks ago that I wish he did not love me no matter what. Of course he though that wa crazy but I explained I meant that if he had a problem with my size I would have changed sooner.

this is a tough one for me....

my husband isn't overweight but has a tendency at times to be lazy. i have a problem with lazy.....

i also have a problem with double standards (eg. expecting women to keep/maintain their nice-fit figures while the men don't really think twice about theirs).

i will just keep it at i don't like laziness. and call me judgmental, but i would say something at a 50 lb gain. he is only 5'7.5"....he would be pretty darn unhealthy.

I think being silent while they get FAT, would be no different than ignoring them taking up drug use or destructive behavior.

I believe that saying 'their body, their life' is cowardice, and selfish.

I'm perfectly aware that I'm overweight, and get extremely angry when someone tells me that I am, as if I didn't already know. I refuse to treat my husband like that. If he's overweight, he knows it. Not my job to clean him up.

THIS. They already know. When they are ready, they will lose weight. I wouldn't want my husband pointing out how much weight I've gained (duh... I already know) and I'm pretty sure he would feel the same way.

I don't think you can "let" your spouse get fat...you don't own them. You are their partner and should support them in everything, through thick and thin ;-). My husband and I both let ourselves go a bit too much but that was never a deal breaker for either of us and while we both knew that we needed to lose weight and get in shape, sometimes life gets in the way. In between working and raising kids, along with all of the other activities, sometimes you are just plain tired and you get pushed to the bottom of the list. I'm not saying that's the best way to do things but you also have to be ready to make the change yourself, not because someone else tells you to. If you don't do it for you then it will never truly work and the weight will come back. I am happy to say that now that our kids are more self sufficient, we have both found the time and put the energy into making ourselves look and feel better! I am DEFINITELY glad I stuck it out with him because he is even hotter now than when we first met in high school, lol!!

I wouldn't want him to say anything to me -- I know how much I weigh! -- so, the Golden Rule applies, I think.

Howesomever, I'm the one who does the meal planning in the household, and buys the groceries, and I can/have changed our diets without anybody else noticing.

I've never said anything to my SO (significant other) cuz of his weight, but his health habits bother me, and that I do mention (CONDIMENTS DO NOT EQUAL VEGETABLES... KETCHUP IS NOT A TOMATO!!!!)...

to all the people saying their SO's weight is their problem.... I want mine to live as long as, if not longer than me... it is my problem if I lose him to a heart attack/diabetes/the myriad other issues that come up with being overweight.

Regarding his weight, I wouldn't really care as long as it wasn't physically hindering him and causing him pain.

I had a bf who had so many health related issues because he was very overweight. Bad knees, bad back, and he even had gout (even if it is or isn't related by weight he continued to eat things he shouldnt have that caused him to swell up from it). He was very unhealthy and didn't do anything about his problems. I left him because of how inconsiderate he was about himself, and how mean he was to me. He had issues.. haha.

My current bf (1 year anni today), is obsessed with his weight. I wouldn't want him to ever get fat, but ONLY because I know how he would try to lose it, and it is one of the worst ways. I would help keep him on track, and he is my motivation for me to get thinner. He was around 50 pounds heavier before I met him.

Wow, I didn't even know people got gout anymore. I don't mean that to sound mean - I just thought it was one of those 1700s diseases that had been eradicated with modern health/hygiene, like scurvy.

On a related note, I asked my husband the other night if being a woman's becoming morbidly obese was an excuse for her husband to cheat, and his response (I am totally not kidding) was a ten minute freestyle rap he titled, "Keep Her on the Track".

As for me, I wouldn't tell him to change for cosmetic reasons. I love who he is inside first, outside secondarily. But I would (and have, even when he isn't overweight) point out things like, "Maybe it would be better to drink a liter of water instead of a liter of orange soda" or "Since you've mentioned being concerned about your weight, do you know that cup of ceasar dressing adds a lot of calories you may not want to your salad?"