Anyone have saboteur’s at home?

My husband knows how hard I have worked to lose weight and get in shape. Why does he continually bring home pie, cake, ice cream and cookies? At first I thought by sheer willpower I could just not eat those things but I start craving them. Even though I know they are bad and certainly not FOOD. It’s easy to get over a craving when you have to get in the car and go get it. Or even ordering a pizza. But when it’s right there...in my kitchen.

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  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,568 Member
    Why are those foods bad? I fit in some form of dessert, usually ice cream, nearly every night. It's just one portion, weighed out to fit my calories.
  • Xerogs
    Xerogs Posts: 325 Member
    Yeah the wife still does that to me. I just try to ignore it as much as possible and concentrate on my own path. I will try to find something that fits within my program that I eat and curb those cravings. Sometimes a low carb protein shake or protein bar will satisfy. It's difficult needless to say. Learned a hard lesson this last weekend and had a very small portion of lasagna my wife baked, it did not settle with me for almost 24 hours and while it tasted great it was a reminder that I just can't do those types of carbs anymore. I will admit I sometimes give in to temptation but then get back on plan the next day or even next meal. It's just getting back on plan that is the most important part or it's way to easy to fall back into old bad eating habits.
  • dsboohead
    dsboohead Posts: 1,900 Member
    Fit it in according to weight....measurement....calories. your frame of reference is DENIAL. Not a success bound place to be in.
    Keep what is not finished in back of fridge and cupboard. After a few days throw it away!
    If you demonstrate you don't loooove the stuff he brings home or smash it beyond recognition with the back of a fry pan.....he will stop bringing it home.
  • wannabesexymama
    wannabesexymama Posts: 367 Member
    My husband just yesterday suggested we buy chocolate chip cookies stuff and make some... I feel you however, feeling as though he is doing it on purpose remember you have loved these things and probably him too. Having it is not awful just remember moderation is always key. When mine brings home stuff like this I usually have a bite when I am craving it but make myself walk away and get the kids to eat it up or let him get what he wants and throw out the rest.
  • lisabinco
    lisabinco Posts: 1,016 Member
    Maybe not assume malice first. Maybe he wants to show that he loves you, and those things are something you've always eaten and enjoyed?
    This. Hubby used to bring me two of my favorite weaknesses, Fritos and Peppermint Patties. You know, the "foods" to which I had no resistance whatsoever. He did it to please me, not with malice. I totally get what you're saying. I had to explain to him that he had to stop doing that, stop bringing in certain (for me) "trigger" foods. I wanted my home to be the one safe haven where I didn't have to police myself constantly. Bless him, he did quit bringing in certain things, and other snacks were tucked away so they weren't the first thing I saw when I opened the pantry. Nowadays I'm much more secure in my weight-loss journey and I find those "trigger" foods don't have the same allure anymore.

  • robinbrooksparker
    robinbrooksparker Posts: 20 Member
    edited June 2018
    Have you talked with him about it? Asked him to support you in your weight loss?

    An honest conversation saying, "Honey, I'm trying hard to lose weight and I'm struggling. It's very hard for me to moderate (whatever type of food). Can you think of a way that will help me?" Let him come up with a solution (that hopefully works for both of you). People will commit better to their own idea, rather than someone else's.

    Side note: Pie, cake, ice cream and cookies certainly ARE food. They are a more caloric food, but they are food. And if you can moderate them, you can have some as long as they fit in your daily calorie goal.


    reading back my original post and have to apologize. It’s me that’s trying to change me. Everyone else should be free to do what they want. I need to be accountable for food I put in my mouth. I think I’m mad at myself for not being able to control myself when this stuff is easily accessible. Damn the Publix cakes!!!
  • Vonny198334
    Vonny198334 Posts: 178 Member
    Know you have had a change of heart, but it can still be super difficult to resist "goodies" that are RIGHT THERE!

    My husband & I are now on different routes with regards to weight. He had a lot less to lose than me & now he's actually having to have lots of lovely cakes, crisps & biccies to keep his calorie count up(He just kept losing weight eating more of what he's usually eats & he doesn't want/need that). Meanwhile I've at least 30lbs left to lose!

    As a result, there are ALWAYS treats around...always always! At first it was really difficult to stick with my 70 calorie oat bar while he tucked into a 300cal apple pie or something!

    Time has helped an awful lot but initially, I had a bit of what I fancied within my calorie range...even so far as just to have a bite of whatever he was having, 50cals or so. It was a taste & it was enough. Today if I REALLY fancy something he has in the house, I will factor myself in a full portion...but it's surprising how little that happens, quite amazing how much I've come to favour my carefully honed substitutes!

    Be kind to yourself, have a wee bit of what you fancy....even if it really IS just a wee bit!

    Best luck! :smiley:

  • robinbrooksparker
    robinbrooksparker Posts: 20 Member
    I think what originally got me was my husband wanting to go kayaking for Father’s Day and then saying I had earned the cake and ice cream. Only he had bought a whole cake and a gallon on ice cream. Neither are gone yet. It’s just sitting in the fridge mocking me!!!
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,145 Member
    I think what originally got me was my husband wanting to go kayaking for Father’s Day and then saying I had earned the cake and ice cream. Only he had bought a whole cake and a gallon on ice cream. Neither are gone yet. It’s just sitting in the fridge mocking me!!!

    We had ribs, potato salad, corn on the cob, pie and ice cream for Father's Day. It was delicious. It was one day and we celebrated without tracking.

    We also only bought half a pie, so it was gone that day. We always have ice cream in the house, and I have some pretty much every night within my calorie allowance.

    The best thing you can do with this situation is learn from it, and do it differently next time. However that would work best for you. Get dessert at a restaurant so there's no leftovers. Get something he loves but you don't. Don't get anything. Live and learn!