Is there something wrong with me?
walking2running
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I was in my gym clothes when I ran into a coffee shop today. Some teenagers were gathered and messing around and a few teen boys were staring at me and exchanging whispers. I can't figure out what about me is so hideous. I was wearing a baseball cap and big sunglasses so it couldn't have been my face. Was it my body? Were my clothes too tight for my size? Probably. I don't know what it is that brings me back decades ago to being a teen. I know I have pounds to lose, but I am working on it. I don't know why validation from strangers is important either way. But in a way, it is.
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You look absolutely normal and fine. I wouldn’t say fat or ugly or anything. You may just be super self conscious and paranoid others are talking about you. I am the SAME way and I found out 99% of the time they weren’t even referencing me. Don’t let it bother you, you look great. I would say fit. Definitely not too tight.4
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They are teenagers, and their brains are only partially functional right now. I wouldn't be worried about what they may have or may not have been saying.
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You look great! Teenage boys are weird. I have two at home and their various assorted friends around all the time and I don't even try to understand them6
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Maybe it was positive whispers! Teenage boys have hormones raging and you are a woman.9
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If you were wearing a cap and big glasses, maybe they were trying to work out if you were a celebrity in hiding7
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yes this also so true.funjen1972 wrote: »Maybe it was positive whispers! Teenage boys have hormones raging and you are a woman.
That’s also what I was going to say maybe they were wondering if they knew you like “hey is that...”livingleanlivingclean wrote: »If you were wearing a cap and big glasses, maybe they were trying to work out if you were a celebrity in hiding
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Hey... I am not a teenage boy but.... hubba, hubba! Lol3
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psychod787 wrote: »Hey... I am not a teenage boy but.... hubba, hubba! Lol
Yeah, I'm also not a teenage boy, but you are looking good! Most teenage boys, in my experience, are all about the boobies, and you has dem going on in that pic, so I'd guess that's what they were talking about.
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You look awesome! It’s possible their attention was on something behind you too. Regardless, I wouldn’t let questions of what might have been happening ruin your day. You look good!0
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walking2running wrote: »I was in my gym clothes when I ran into a coffee shop today. Some teenagers were gathered and messing around and a few teen boys were staring at me and exchanging whispers. I can't figure out what about me is so hideous. I was wearing a baseball cap and big sunglasses so it couldn't have been my face. Was it my body? Were my clothes too tight for my size? Probably. I don't know what it is that brings me back decades ago to being a teen. I know I have pounds to lose, but I am working on it. I don't know why validation from strangers is important either way. But in a way, it is.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Hideous. Tight clothing. How you're attired and your looks says - "Mission Fit-tastic."1 -
psychod787 wrote: »Hey... I am not a teenage boy but.... hubba, hubba! Lol
Yeah, I'm also not a teenage boy, but you are looking good! Most teenage boys, in my experience, are all about the boobies, and you has dem going on in that pic, so I'd guess that's what they were talking about.
Shoot the male secret is out. You could be the milf from American pie. But i agree with other that it wasn't bad talk or they would of been obnoxious
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yea like others said, given that it was teenage boys, they were probably saying something dirty-minded about your body, lol0
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A general rule for teenage boys (at least where I live): if they're being negative, they'll let you know. You would have heard a negative comment spoken in a loud enough voice for you to hear. If they're whispering, it's usually something else.7
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You're either too sensitive or too self absorbed for your own good, both are completely normal.0
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There is nothing in your photo that sticks out in a negative way. You look good.0
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You need to stop giving a ****5
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Honestly, I think you need to get out of your own head a little. There is nothing you need to feel self conscious about...they were probably talking about some girls or something and didn't want you to hear.1
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thank you for the positive comments! I am grateful for the support. It truly brought me back to high school, where I was 240 pounds and quite obese at 5'4", and I associate any attention from teenage boys with that time. I know it's kind of pathetic to still have those thoughts in my 30's, but those feelings never truly go away!5
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I don't know why validation from strangers is important either way. But in a way, it is.
You look pretty normal. Your clothes are no tighter than they should be for that type.
My experience in life is that people are fairly self absorbed and don't notice us as much as we think they do.
You don't know that they were talking about you for sure or if they were saying positive or negative things to each other. Your clothes were pretty form fitting in style so maybe they were noticing your butt or breasts. Maybe they were guess the breast size of every female in the coffee shop that day. They are teenage boys so who knows.
Are you looking for external validation a bit too much? Are you projecting your feelings about your body onto other people?
Were you feeling good before going into the coffee shop or a bit self conscious? Is it unusual for you to wear your gym clothes into stores?
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You look great.
Seems like you had a flashback.0 -
I think your body looks great teenagers are dumb anyway0
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I’m the queen of teen embarrassment. I once heard a “moo” from a gaggle of teens lounging at the subway. I did a 180, put on a big grin, hand extended, and introduced myself. Got all their names. Waved them a cheery goodbye.
Teens are humans at their most insecure. With brains and chutzpah you should always be able to turn the tables on them.
Another pet peeve is seat hogging on the transit. My “cure” was to invade their space just enough so they moved their bag. Making space for me always earned them a gracious “Thank you”, modelling civil behaviour. Always a good skill to exercise.0 -
So... I work in a coffee shop, and honestly teenagers will stare and laugh at anything! If I ask them what they would like I'm looked at like I'm an alien! Please don't take it to heart, you look wonderful and just keep doing you!1
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You have no worries.0
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body! You are a strong, beautiful woman! Do not ever forget it! From a woman to a woman💪1
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My guess is that they were whispering about something they didn't want an adult to hear, and you were a grown up in the area. They were probably up to something shady or just teenage-boy ornery, and didn't want to get caught. They were probably checking to see if you could hear them, and once they saw you looking at them, they got nervous that an adult was on to them.
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You are beautiful! Who knows what they could've been talking about. It was probably something like "She looks a lot like our teacher _____!" "Is that her?" "No man her hair is too short" "IDK man sure looks like her!" "Seeing our teachers in the wild is funny!" when i was a teenager we had many conversations like this. Nothing malicious. Assume the best, and if its the worst, who cares what random strangers think?0
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Ignore all idiots.0
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I have only read the first post.
If a group of hormone driven teenage boys were looking at you it was probably more horny bravado, yoga pants on your figure + teenage boys = perving and frustration lol.
Sorry for being crude, I blame the hormones0
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