Should I regift??

quichebradford
quichebradford Posts: 327 Member
edited October 1 in Chit-Chat
Tomorrow is my co-worker's birthday. I want to give her a purse that someone gave me that I don't particularly like. (I got the purse from my sister a few months ago and she was going to throw it away..not even sure why I took it in the first place)
The thing is just sitting in my closet, so in an effort to save money I am considering giving it to her. The issue I'm having is that I feel bad for wanting to give it to her. It's her style and she would probably love it, but I feel bad for not "buying" her something. What are your thoughts?

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  • bauerluv3
    bauerluv3 Posts: 9
    Give it to her. She doesn't have to know and if you know it's something she'd love, why not? Everybody wins.
  • ambie35
    ambie35 Posts: 853 Member
    give it to her with a giftcard inside?
  • lizdavis07
    lizdavis07 Posts: 766 Member
    i say give it to her. there are no "rules" on gift giving...
  • Krull_the_WarriorKing
    Krull_the_WarriorKing Posts: 650 Member
    The only person that knows is you... plus keeping unused in your closet is wasteful. Save the Planet - Recycle. The cost doesn't make the gift.
  • Elle_Jamaicangirl81
    Elle_Jamaicangirl81 Posts: 418 Member
    meh, jus clean it off good (in case of dust), wrap it up nicely and give away.... shoot, she doesnt have to know
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    The "rule" for regifting is that it must be new, still has tags/in packaging, and the two people (your sister and the co-worker) do not know each other. It sounds to me that this situation would be fine. The added knowledge that it's something you're sure she'd love makes me think that you have nothing to worry about in this situation and you'll make your co-worker happy with the gift.
  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
    Does it have a tag on it still? If it hasnt been used then go for it but for a birthday gift dont give a person a used bag.
  • Kristhin
    Kristhin Posts: 442 Member
    I like the idea about putting a gift card inside of it.
  • greeneyed84
    greeneyed84 Posts: 427 Member
    Is it a new purse or used. If it's never been used then I wouldn't mind. Put it in a nice gift bag with paper, buy her a card, viola
  • teri1956
    teri1956 Posts: 221 Member
    If it is a gift that will suit her, I would do it.

    But I hope your sister isn't a MFP :laugh:
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I wouldn't. If I don't like the gift, I can't give it to someone else. But I might ask her if she wants it. I've done that before. But I don't make it their gift.
  • monkeydharma
    monkeydharma Posts: 599 Member
    One does not have to 'buy' a gift in order for it to be legit. Some of the best gifts are made by the giver; others are items one owns that would be cherished by another.

    Your idea falls into the later category. Present it with a smile and well wishes.
  • MarandaPanda86
    MarandaPanda86 Posts: 112
    Is it new or used? If it's used, don't do it. But if it's new, why not? If you truly think she would like it, no harm.
  • msmandyjo
    msmandyjo Posts: 95 Member
    If it's new, w/ tags, give it to her, she doesn't have to know that it is a regift. If it's not, offer it too her, just say "my sister gave me this bag, it's not really 'me' but I thought it looked more your style" but don't make it her gift.
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    A purse only needs to have a dollar in it to get them started. Grandma always said to never give someone an empty purse, unless it is a Coach Purse then all rules are off.
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    remember: "it's the thought that counts" give it to her!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,990 Member
    Tomorrow is my co-worker's birthday. I want to give her a purse that someone gave me that I don't particularly like. (I got the purse from my sister a few months ago and she was going to throw it away..not even sure why I took it in the first place)
    The thing is just sitting in my closet, so in an effort to save money I am considering giving it to her. The issue I'm having is that I feel bad for wanting to give it to her. It's her style and she would probably love it, but I feel bad for not "buying" her something. What are your thoughts?
    Don't get why people feel obligated to have to "buy" something as a gift. My aunt, who doesn't have much money, gave and my wife a rice cooker that she used a couple of times. We received lots of lavish gifts, with many of them being things like frames, wine glasses, etc.
    The rice cooker is the only thing we've used constantly. I thought it was the best gift we got.
  • amelia_atlantic
    amelia_atlantic Posts: 926 Member
    A purse only needs to have a dollar in it to get them started. Grandma always said to never give someone an empty purse, unless it is a Coach Purse then all rules are off.

    I think that's cute!

    I would say something like "Saw this and thought it was your style!" in the card. That way she'll appreciate the sentiment first before the material aspect of the gift.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,990 Member
    I still don't get it. Don't give a gift if it's used even if it's in excellent condition? But I bet if it was a car, people would jump on it.
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    I still don't get it. Don't give a gift if it's used even if it's in excellent condition? But I bet if it was a car, people would jump on it.

    if my purse would get me from once place to another.. then helzzz yaa! LOL
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
    A gift isn't about how much or how little money you spend. If it would suit her, then give it to her!!
  • JustRobert1
    JustRobert1 Posts: 15
    when in doubt, re-gift.
  • Shawnda1730
    Shawnda1730 Posts: 38
    I'd give it to her, why not! don't feel bad at all, you thought abt her....right? That is all that matters!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,990 Member
    I don't think it's about etiquette. I believe it's more about being thought as a "cheap skate" more than etiquette. Sad that people would worry more about how people think about them then how they feel about themselves.
  • Sbmtx
    Sbmtx Posts: 18 Member
    I agree it's ok to re-gift. If it were something spent big bucks on because it was an antique/vintage item it would be ok. Like ninerbuff said, if it was a used car it would be ok. So why not a purse.
    I think as long as it looks nice and does not have any strange odors or anything why not. Stick a note inside that says "I saw this and thought of you." Then wrap it in a pretty bag.
    Oh and I think it's an old superstition or something. My grandma and my aunt would always put at least a few coins if not a couple of dollars in a purse before giving it as a gift.
  • bauerluv3
    bauerluv3 Posts: 9
    Another point...isn't it the same idea as buying something at a vintage shop? People love vintage clothing, jewelry and such and that has been used before too.
  • ket_the_jet
    ket_the_jet Posts: 1,257 Member
    Point of interest: I'm not sure if the 'Wallet Rules' apply to purses, but you never give someone an empty wallet as a gift. Always put at least a dollar bill in it.
    -wtk
  • ncgatorfan
    ncgatorfan Posts: 517
    Hell, I'll take it if you decide not to give it to her! I'm a purse addict!! But, where are my manners?? Re-gift. Trust me, she'll be happy with it.
  • smelius22
    smelius22 Posts: 334 Member
    i would definitely gift it to her. clean it up really nice, maybe spray the inside with febreeze.. stuff it with nice tissue gift paper to shape it, and wrap it! :)
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    Follow the "rules of regifting" like someone else already posted. If it's still got the tags and the two people don't know each other, it's okay. Otherwise, buy her something and donate the purse elsewhere.
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