Toxic relationship?

Support is important in any relationship. You shouldn't have to cope. If its not working out, Its best to leave.

I am, my kids, thats what keeps me going, and good anti depressants

eurotrashcc wrote: »

Is anyone else in a rough relationship that for one reason or another, you are still staying in it?
What helps you cope? How do you stay on track health wise without your other half's support?

Tough gig man. I don't know what defines toxic. I understand one where one person is the giver and the other is seemingly just a taker. Usually the giver suffers while the other acts oblivious to everything. Makes you feel alone. I feel you. Probably hanging in there because you hope the tide will turn. I read that when attention is not given in return, remove your attention....perhaps the only solution. I don't know. Trying that approach next week.

I was in an abusive marriage 9 years ago but I left and never looked back. Life is too short to be hurt by someone and you're worth more than having to be in a toxic relationship. And if its for "the kids", seeing a toxic relationship is NOT A GOOD example for them either

The relationship I had with my sons father was extremely toxic. He was abusive. He’s was beyond controlling. He had managed to isolate me from my entire family. We lived states away. Didn’t have a cell phone and he screened my calls. He convinced me they didn’t care about me and he was the only one hat did. I was so depressed that it just sat there and let it happen. (The reason for the depression is a whole other story). One day I just snapped. We got into a big fight. I took my son and a handful of my stuff and left. We had to live in our car for a little while. That was until I was able to get ahold of my family and move back with them. It was the hardest time of my life. But I am grateful everyday for it. Because it has very much taught me to be a stronger person. I pulled myself up by my boot straps and got my act together. So, to answer your question with another question, is it worth it to try and cope through it? If it’s that toxic, then it probably best to get away from it. If it’s more spats and arguments that are minor. Maybe try and talk it out with the other person. Do couples therapy. But don’t put yourself or you kids (if you have any) in harms way. You’ll thank yourself later for getting out of there!

Divorce. That's my answer. 😀

CanesGalactica wrote: »

81Katz wrote: »

Divorce. That's my answer. 😀

Is divorce your answer for all relationships?

I imagine you saying these things in a Grumpy Cat voice, btw.

Right now, it's my go to advice. Lol
Life's too short to be unhappy.

hpurtee1hp wrote: »

I don't know your exact issues, but personally I am married to a man who doesn't want me to be fat, yet he is not supportive of my weight loss efforts. I typically have to make 2 sets if meals, because he doesn't like "healthy food". He's just never had any kind of struggle when it comes to weight or appearance. It is kinda tough, not gonna lie.. But how I stay on track is by being an active part of this community. I do not have loads of friends on here, but the ones I do have, have been very motivational and helpful. If there's any support I can lend feel free to add me!!

Forgive me for prying, but you say these things.. does this person actually love you? He doesn't sound very loving or supportive if he's harsh on you for gaining weight or not supporting you in your efforts to be healthy.

Again, not trying to be rude, I'm just an introspective person and am curious. Feel free to not answer this if you so choose.

Being single is really liberating. Toxic people suck. That being said, some things are worth fighting for. Listen to your gut.

My ex was a narcissist. Very toxic relationship. I am lucky to be alive actually. Never again .