Losing Weight When Your Spouse Isnt

I'm in exactly the same boat as you are girlie!!! Luckily my husband agrees to compromise. As far as pizza nights go I'll make a huge Italian salad , Olive Garden style! And I'll only take one slice of pizza and then eat my huge salad. Funny enough it rubbed off on my husband too, the salad looks so great he started eating more salad than pizza too. Now every Friday night we order 1 medium pizza instead of two large, saving money and eating healthy it's a win win! My hubby also isn't a big sweets eater but I am, so I buy fiber one brownies (which are delicious by the way, you should try them) and low cal high protein ice cream. I've started incorporating a lot more veggies into our regular meals which has helped tremendously, and I've cut down on my portion sizes. So no need to buy seperate groceries. I also now drink a protein shake for lunch, i didn't even realize I wasn't getting enough protein in the past now I feel so much better! Shorter recovery times from exercising and I don't get hungry as much or have those bad sugar cravings. I've also started working out (thank god I have a dog, he's my running buddy) even though my hubby won't.

My husband will eat whatever I cook, he just eats a lot more than me.
There are a lot of recipes and websites with that you can get tips and recipes for making things that are lower calorie, but taste great. No need to purchase different groceries.

I will often cook the same meal for us both but tweak mine.

So if chickens on the menu i cook that both the same, except he will have potatoes and veg and I will have salad
All things we buy in our normal shop so not split groceries.

And sometimes I will just eat less of a meal, for example I don’t want a chicken curry salad 😂 so I will have chicken and rice, but we’ll both eat brown rice because that’s atleast lower in calories.

There are ways to tweak it.

How’s your water intake.
Whenever I’m hungry even when I’ve ate a meal I just drink drink drink drink!

My husband is 6'3",and has always been a healthy weight. I'm 5'3" and at my heaviest weighed more than he did. We generally only eat our evening meal together, but we eat the same stuff (the main difference being that if salad is involved, he gets to drown his in olive oil and I have a splash of balsamic vinegar). I have a set number of calories for breakfast and lunch and usually have about 700 left over for our evening meal, so I just have a smaller, measured portion plus a snack later or small glass of wine. e.g. If we cook a chilli together we'll generally do enough for a couple of days, and I know exactly what goes into it, so it's easy to split it into the right portion sizes. His portions are generally 1.5-2x the size of mine. Ditto if I make pizza dough - I split it into his n hers portions and we deal with our own toppings. I drink loads of water (which I genuinely prefer to most things), he drinks fruit juice (which I barely touch). I hover around 1500-1550 cals/day when I'm losing, so hunger is rarely an issue.

Same. Hubs & I both need to loose. I'm the cook at our house. So I literally make the hubs/kids a meal and a separate meal for myself. It's hard! I've only been doing this for 2 weeks & I honestly don't know if I can keep it up! My problem is 1) sometimes he eats with us and other times not (I think it's meal dependent 😂, he says it's cuz he had a big lunch at work).. anyway my other problem is 2) what I make for them smells soo good, I want some too! 3) he'll want to go out to eat and where we go, the healthy options aren't that good..so I cave and go back to old habits.

I also workout with the kids (long walks) and/or by myself early in the a.m. (P90X/circuit)- it's like I'm working out "in secret"" so not to disrupt being available for the hubs/kids..
I've lost 3lbs so I know what I'm doing is working & I've got to stick with it! But dang it's HARD when not everyone is on the same page.

He jokes about his weight but I know it bothers him but he's not ready yet (as I am) to make a change. I think if I can somehow lead by example then he'll get on board and it'll get easier. Plus it's summertime and our routine is off. I think once the school year starts back up it'll get easier (for me) because I have 3 kids in sports so the meals are healthier and I prep on the weekend for the week..

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My fiance is 6'2" and 155lbs, he cooks healthy meals for me and just eats 3x as much so that we don't have to buy different groceries. I do not know how to cook at all so it is much easier on him to just prepare the same things for both of us. He does, however, usually have quite a few snacks throughout the day that I cannot have.

I've been using MFP for over a year now and I've lost 70lbs. My husband is overweight and hasn't tried to lose a pound the entire time I've been working for it. You have to make yourself a priority and hope that he'll follow and do the same whenever he gets the desire to.

My husband and I only eat supper together due to work schedules, and we eat the same thing - I just eat less! I do 90% of the cooking, so I'll make a recipe that fits my goals for the day and he can eat it or tweak it however he wants. If we make tacos, I make a taco salad for me and he has a giant burrito so we're both satisfied. He eats a lot of snacks, and I stay out of the kitchen. Over time, you'll come up with a routine that works for both of you. A pizza night now and then won't ruin anything, but you just have to be careful and make sure that you stay in your goals.

It takes a lot of self-discipline, but over time it gets a lot easier!

My husband eats probably at least double the amount that I eat. He has never counted a calorie in his life so I can't say for sure. This is what helps me: I try to make a lot of vegetables or a big salad to go with our meals, so I can load up on that and eat less of the other stuff, and I include other filler foods for him, like rolls, pasta salad etc.