Any women out there over 40 with the metabolism of a speeding sloth?
aurora1borealis
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Hi there,
Would like to connect with anyone who has been able to make progress with their weight loss despite being over 40 and despite a slow metabolism.
And feel free to add me as a friend!
Would like to connect with anyone who has been able to make progress with their weight loss despite being over 40 and despite a slow metabolism.
And feel free to add me as a friend!
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How slow is your metabolism, why, and how did you find out?
Wouldn't you rather connect with people over 40 who have figured out that age and slow metabolism only are excuses14 -
No idea about "slow metabolism", never had it measured. But I do know that it is possible to lose weight, if in a calorie deficit.
Age, in itself does not affect weight loss.
Using mfp as a tool it was designed for, I have successfully lost 52lb. Now entering maintenance, for life. So, well worth taking time to adjust my diet in a way that I can live with for ever. Eating fewer calories than your body burns will result in weight loss. Mfp helped me find that correct balance.
It's simple,although not always easy, but it works.
I am female, 50 years old, with a couple of health conditions. Plus I am physically disabled, unable to "exercise" and still lost weight through diet alone. It has taken hard work at times, consistency and patience, but it was definitely worth it!14 -
Hi there, I’m new here so I’m not sure if you’re still active on the boards. I’m turning 43 next month and was lucky enough to start having menopausal issues at 39. My metabolism pretty much laughs at me on a daily basis. I went from being skinny my whole life to, WTH. I have successfully lost 50lbs on a ketogenic diet. I gained it all back as soon as I stopped it. It doesn’t help that I love food. Being skinny my whole life, I never needed to learn self control when it came to food.
Thanks menopause.....
😊 Jessica3 -
Strength training has been key for me since turning 40, along with nutrition.3
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Wendyanneroberts wrote: »No idea about "slow metabolism", never had it measured. But I do know that it is possible to lose weight, if in a calorie deficit.
Age, in itself does not affect weight loss.
Using mfp as a tool it was designed for, I have successfully lost 52lb. Now entering maintenance, for life. So, well worth taking time to adjust my diet in a way that I can live with for ever. Eating fewer calories than your body burns will result in weight loss. Mfp helped me find that correct balance.
It's simple,although not always easy, but it works.
I am female, 50 years old, with a couple of health conditions. Plus I am physically disabled, unable to "exercise" and still lost weight through diet alone. It has taken hard work at times, consistency and patience, but it was definitely worth it!
Good for you but myself, I'm on a 1100 calorie diet and still struggle. I must fit in nutrition and energy so aside from starvation, I can't lose weight so maybe you could be a bit more open to the fact that not everyone is as awesome as you15 -
Here's something that might be of some help ...
How Does Fat Leave the Body?
Learn What Happens During Fat Metabolism
https://www.verywellfit.com/how-does-fat-leave-the-body-41651324 -
Bachataera wrote: »...maybe you could be a bit more open to the fact that not everyone is as awesome as you
Thank you for this. Not to pick on the individual poster you responded to, but I am surprised that most questions here about slow weight loss or low metabolism get so many responses that seem to amount to "You're dumb, you're lazy, and if you're not losing weight as fast as I am, you're doing it wrong."
Sheesh, don't we have the whole rest of the internet for that? I would have thought that MFP would be a supportive environment for people struggling with their fitness issues, not for telling people that they only have themselves to blame.
[What follows is a rant. It may or may not deserve to be in this thread, but here it is.]
Have these people ever had trouble getting their shoes to fit properly? Then they should all wear Women's Size 11 Narrow, because that's what fits me. Do they need glasses? They should get a 20/40 lenses with a correction for astigmatism in the right eye, because that's my prescription. And they all should delete their tip calculator apps, because I can do simple percentages in my head. And they should all turn off their spellcheckers, because it's just a nuisance whenever I want to use a word like "arithmetical" or "catabolism" and the stupid spellchecker doesn't recognize it.
...What, people have feet in sizes other than mine? And some are far-sighted, or have perfect refraction? And I shouldn't boast about my arithmetical abilities, or the grossly corpulent excesses of my vocabulary? Well, then, maybe they shouldn't boast about how easy is for them to lose weight, and how I could lose weight just as easily if I would only modify myself to become exactly like them.
[End of full-on rant. Semi-rant-ish stuff follows.]
And I don't think that very many of these people actually understand the metabolic chemistry of fatty acid catabolism in humans. That's because I don't think very many people in the world understand the chemistry of fatty acid catabolism at all. I'm not especially dumb, but I think I'd need at least a few college-level courses in biochemistry before I could even begin to grasp it.
And seriously, folks, if anyone out there understood how most chronically overweight people could successfully achieve and maintain a healthy weight, the 40% of Americans who are obese, and the $70 billion dollars that Americans spent (mostly unsuccessfully) on weight loss in 2017, would long since have beaten a path to their door.
So, here's an idea: what if we tried to say something supportive, or maybe even constructive, to the OP and posters like her?15 -
Evelyn, here's a "like", "woo", AND "hug"8
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I'm 42, a mom, and so far I'm down 185lbs. (Took me 3 years). I used to think I had a slow metabolism, turns out I was eating more that I should have been, and moving less. Now that I'm moving more and eating less, the weight is coming right off. Using a food scale religiously taught me how much I was actually eating and helps me understand how much I should eat.8
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Bachataera wrote: »Wendyanneroberts wrote: »No idea about "slow metabolism", never had it measured. But I do know that it is possible to lose weight, if in a calorie deficit.
Age, in itself does not affect weight loss.
Using mfp as a tool it was designed for, I have successfully lost 52lb. Now entering maintenance, for life. So, well worth taking time to adjust my diet in a way that I can live with for ever. Eating fewer calories than your body burns will result in weight loss. Mfp helped me find that correct balance.
It's simple,although not always easy, but it works.
I am female, 50 years old, with a couple of health conditions. Plus I am physically disabled, unable to "exercise" and still lost weight through diet alone. It has taken hard work at times, consistency and patience, but it was definitely worth it!
Good for you but myself, I'm on a 1100 calorie diet and still struggle. I must fit in nutrition and energy so aside from starvation, I can't lose weight so maybe you could be a bit more open to the fact that not everyone is as awesome as you
In all seriousness, if you are using a food scale for all solids, double checking that the entries you are using in the database are accurate, and not losing weight on 1100 calories you should get some extensive bloodwork done. You must have a medical condition affecting your body's calorie usage.
Unless you recently lost a large amount of weight quickly, or are unusually short and sedentary, a healthy adult woman's tdee simply should not be that low.6 -
And I think it's very supportive to tell OP that she has it within her own power to lose the weight and get healthy, rather than pat her on the head and confirm that her age means she is destined to struggle and fail. But maybe that's just me.11
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The op clearly said she would like to connect with "anyone who has been able to make progress despite..." Then was quickly dismissed as if there was no such thing as a lower metabolism. No patting on the head happening anywhere.8
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aurora1borealis wrote: »Hi there,
Would like to connect with anyone who has been able to make progress with their weight loss despite being over 40 and despite a slow metabolism.
And feel free to add me as a friend!
Welcome I lost 20 lbs from 41-43. I thought I had been doing everything right and was destined to be dumpy. But once I started logging accurately and consistently and worked on becoming more active, I lost weight just like anyone else would.
When you get a moment, read the Most Helpful Posts threads pinned to the top of each board - lots of great beginner info there. Most of the veterans who stick around here to help out others are in their 40s, 50s, and 60s and finally figured out the numbers by using the food log and a food scale. Good luck!4 -
Thunderous applause to Evelyn for that perfect rant.
I'm 40 and disabled with systemic disease. Losing weight is very difficult. Bodies aren't perfect machines run by flawless formulas. We all do what we have to do to make ours work as best as possible, with varying results for a truckload of valid reasons. Welcome to reality, folks.
Best wishes on your goals!7 -
I do not wish to derail this thread but would like to leave a response in reply to those who feel like I was attacking OP. When nothing could be further from the truth. I am responding to the direct posts. Just wish to leave an explanation to those who are following this thread.
Before finding mfp I had been obese, bordering severely obese for years. I had managed to lose a few pounds here and there, but always "stopped dieting" and rapidly gained weight & more. I have been physically disabled for 20 years, spending most of my time in a wheelchair. Extremely limited movement, on 2 crutches. In severe pain, most of the time. Without adding further details on an open forum, I went from fit and active to wheelchair bound overnight. For several months/year in the early stages I was bed bound.
Fast forward 20 years (spent continuously dieting/regaining), by this time I have also been diagnosed with a heart condition and in more recent years an autoimmune disease. Believe me I understand how difficult life can be. Now I needed to track certain nutrition as well as "try to lose weight" yet again. Believe me I had tried and failed many times and didn't believe this time would be any different. Even though know it could be the difference between life and death.
I used to feel weight loss was impossible, after all every where I turned; I was told
"Your in your late 40's now and post menopausal"
"Disabled, and can't go to a gym"
"Couch to 5k" would work but "you can't walk"
"You must have a slow metabolism, otherwise you would have lost weight by now"
"You eat to late in the evening to lose weight"
"If only you could follow the keto diet, that would guarantee weight loss. But cardiologist wants you on a low fat diet"
Plus many others, every time I followed a diet or attended weight loss classes for a few weeks. But then a flare up with my health, or time spent back in hospital. Then I was straight back to square 1.
But finding mfp and reaching out to the forums, reading hours of posts, acting on help from veterans I have finally changed my health and weight for the better. So I reached out in a brief post saying "weight loss was possible" as I hoped to show that if I had managed to take control of my health, then it was possible for others. Meant as a beacon of hope, not bragging. I apologise if it came across that way. Believe me I've spent enough money in the past "trying to diet".
I only mentioned that I had
"No idea about "slow metabolism", never had it measured." Because of the times that had been said to me over the past, when it did not affect it at all.
The rest to show it was possible, despite age/metabolism
"Using mfp as a tool it was designed for, I have successfully lost 52lb. Now entering maintenance, for life. So, well worth taking time to adjust my diet in a way that I can live with for ever. Eating fewer calories than your body burns will result in weight loss. Mfp helped me find that correct balance.
It's simple,although not always easy, but it works."
Time & Patience, Persistentance. It has been about 4 years since I first found mfp and I currently have a streak of 870 days of accurate logs. Not to show off or because I think I'm awesome, but it is the continued daily logging, no matter what, that has made all the difference to a continued success.
Sorry for the length of my post and just wanted to explain where I was coming from, when trying to help.
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Bachataera wrote: »Wendyanneroberts wrote: »No idea about "slow metabolism", never had it measured. But I do know that it is possible to lose weight, if in a calorie deficit.
Age, in itself does not affect weight loss.
Using mfp as a tool it was designed for, I have successfully lost 52lb. Now entering maintenance, for life. So, well worth taking time to adjust my diet in a way that I can live with for ever. Eating fewer calories than your body burns will result in weight loss. Mfp helped me find that correct balance.
It's simple,although not always easy, but it works.
I am female, 50 years old, with a couple of health conditions. Plus I am physically disabled, unable to "exercise" and still lost weight through diet alone. It has taken hard work at times, consistency and patience, but it was definitely worth it!
Good for you but myself, I'm on a 1100 calorie diet and still struggle. I must fit in nutrition and energy so aside from starvation, I can't lose weight so maybe you could be a bit more open to the fact that not everyone is as awesome as you
Was trying to help OP, by explaining how mfp helped me. I now how hard it can be and was trying to help. The only reason I listed how much I lost was not to brag but show where I had started.
Yet
You state on this thread, how impossible it has been for you to lose weight. (Therefore understanding op better than me). Yet on your post a couple of days ago, you stated that you are not overweight, just use mfp to track and maintain a healthy diet.4 -
Gosh @wendyanneroberts, I'm so sorry that you felt you had to defend your initial post.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with it.
There was no bragging read by me, just a person saying how they succeeded despite obstacles.
You received no 'woo's' and 9 positive reactions- that should tell you something.
I hope this doesn't stop you from sharing your experiences and methods (CICO) that led to your success in the future.
(((( ))))
Cheers, h.5 -
ugottafriend wrote: »Thunderous applause to Evelyn for that perfect rant.Bachataera wrote: »The op clearly said she would like to connect with "anyone who has been able to make progress despite..." Then was quickly dismissed as if there was no such thing as a lower metabolism. No patting on the head happening anywhere.kommodevaran wrote: »Wouldn't you rather connect with people over 40 who have figured out that age and slow metabolism only are excusesAnd I think it's very supportive to tell OP that she has it within her own power to lose the weight and get healthy,rather than pat her on the head and confirm that her age means she is destined to struggle and fail. But maybe that's just me.
Accusing OP of going about her weight loss wrong and making excuses for herself is just plain bad manners, and we've seen that it pushes some of my most angry buttons. But the point to be made about it is that I don't think it's helpful to the OP. It's very difficult to respond well to being accused and contradicted, and most people find it almost impossible to learn anything or make constructive change under those circumstances.
And all of us posting on this thread are doing so because we want to help the OP and others in her situation, right?5 -
Wendyanneroberts wrote: »I do not wish to derail this thread but would like to leave a response in reply to those who feel like I was attacking OP.
I was writing out of a more general frustration with the apparent tone of the thread, with several other less-than-supportive postings I had just read here on MFP, and with the amount of criticism and insult I feel from the world at large regarding my weight and my my efforts to control it. And this thread may not have been the right place to let all that spill out, so my apologies for that as well.
Thank you for going into such detail about your struggle and your success. I am sorry to hear of your disability, delighted to hear of your weight loss success, and glad that you are posting here on these boards.0 -
I am 47 and started experiencing the symptoms of perimenopause about a year and a half ago, which seemed to make losing weight much harder than it had been. Around a year ago, I decided it was time to get very serious about weight loss (I have a young family I would like to be around for). I lost about 35 pounds on keto (but a much lower fat version than typical) over the next 4 months, just doing keto and maintaining my fairly sedentary lifestyle. After I had lost that 35 pounds, I recognized that it was becoming pretty difficult to maintain a loss of 1-2 pounds a week, even though I adjusted my macros for my new weight. I fought very hard for each pound (cals never over 1100/day; P approx 80, C < 20, F 30-80). I got myself a Fitbit for my birthday this past January, and since that time, have transformed my cardiac fitness and have lost another 30 pounds. I am still following the same basic eating plan, but the increased activity really has made a difference for me. My resting HR went from 80 to 61 and I have gotten off of my statin and antihypertensive. I don't go to the gym or have any kind of gym equipment at home. I just walk, run, Zumba, play volleyball with my kids, go for hikes, etc. Perhaps just working in more movement will help you as it did me. I am sure that CICO is part of the reason this has kept me losing.... I burn more calories now and don't eat them back. But beyond that, I do believe there are differences in people's metabolism that make weight loss much more complex individually than can be condensed into a simple formula. I wish you the very best of luck. Don't give up! What really matters is that you are moving forward, not the speed at which you are doing it.0
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Just an awareness note
The OP aroura1borealis hasn't checked into the forums since 22 June, 5 days after she made this post.
Don't let this deter you if you wish to talk about being in your 40's, menopause, or metabolism, or disabilities/illnesses, just know that she isn't listening.
Cheers, h.1 -
aurora1borealis wrote: »Hi there,
Would like to connect with anyone who has been able to make progress with their weight loss despite being over 40 and despite a slow metabolism.
And feel free to add me as a friend!
I know how you feel ,I have lost 45 lbs in the last 5 years but gained back like 10. Im 44 and have several health issues. most BMR calculators tell me my BMR is 1400-1500,its not after a few years of data its 1272 calories. I lose very slowly eating 1500 or less even though I can burn over 2300+ a day.when I mean slow I mean less than a lb a month. no joke. Ive had all kinds of blood tests and so on and there is nothing that comes up that answers why its so slow. I have no thyroid issues or anything that should slow it down that much. I also never dieted either before so its not from that.Im told I should maintain on 2300 or more and with my TDEE being 2300+ you would think I would lose eating more than 1000 calories less. Nope doesnt happen that way for me. Im maintaining at 1900-2000 calories and thats around 1500-1600 net most days.
I know people will say oh you have to have something showing up in blood work. or you arent weighing everything or blah blah blah. nope I weigh everything on a food scale and with what Im burning in a day I still should lose at least half a lb a week. I have 40lbs to go and I cant eat less than 1300 or Im so hungry its not funny. even my hormones are in the normal ranges. I have had many other tests run and all come back normal.
so yeah my loss is at a snails pace. I even had a friend suggest eating 1500 calories a day and not eat back exercise calories. Ive done that and still nothing.I cant get my TDEE/BMR tested because no where around me does it and I couldnt afford it if they did. I am however losing fat right now so I cant complain too much.But it does get frustrating so I gave up trying to lose weight. Im staying in a range where my body is maintaining my weight.1
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