Work drama and not sure what to do

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glassyo
glassyo Posts: 7,596 Member
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People are going to say this is none of my business and they'd be essentially right but I've been a ventee for one of the people involved for close to a year so I sorta am involved too.

In a nutshell, my boss and his girlfriend broke up but never really acted on it. They live together and she also works here.

It turned out he was taking trips to see someone else. The actual girl friend suspected and did some things to confirm because he sure as hell wasn't being honest with her but didn't do much about it except drop hints she knew and stuff.

Fast forward through some work related drama that's really messing with our company and how we've been trying to find out who started it.

Y'all see what's coming altho this part is more supposition.

I wasn't completely eavesdropping. I was in the bathroom and you can hear everything in there and the boss was on the phone talking about how devastated he was and mentioned the girl friend by name and was asking the person he was talking to what he would do, etc. Personally I wouldn't take advice from this guy but whatever.

I don't know if he was told the work related drama was partly her but it's easy to assume.

If that *is* it, I reeeeeeeeally don't see how she could be a part of it. She still loves the guy enough not to want to hurt him or the business. Plus it just makes more work for her.

I don't know if I should say anything to her. Or to him because I really want to tell him to actually see any evidence before believing what he's told.

I feel loyal to both of them. Also, my cushy job will be affected if he ends up getting rid of her. Yes, I'm selfish but not THAT selfish. I haven't told her half the stuff I've overheard in the past (he talks LOUD, ok) because I think it would hurt her or piss her off.

Someone give me some guidance, please.
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  • 100_PROOF_
    100_PROOF_ Posts: 1,168 Member
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    I wouldn't say a word. Just try to stay out of it.
  • shaf238
    shaf238 Posts: 4,021 Member
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    Keep schtum, you know nothing.
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,596 Member
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    TavistockToad wrote: »
    You think you might know something that might not be true and you're not really sure who was talking to whom about what but should you tell someone you might know something about something...

    I'll go with, no.

    No, I know who he was talking to. Just not sure what he found out the gf did.

    I know it sounds like gossip but we're a 5 person office. There really aren't many secrets.
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,596 Member
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    Wow, unanimous. :) Not that I was looking for an answer I wanted to hear. It's just hard to keep quiet.

    And you guys are fast! Do you know how long it took to type that out?! But I'm on a tablet doing an exercise dvd so... :)
  • Pour_Decisions
    Pour_Decisions Posts: 1,053 Member
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    glassyo wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    You think you might know something that might not be true and you're not really sure who was talking to whom about what but should you tell someone you might know something about something...

    I'll go with, no.

    No, I know who he was talking to. Just not sure what he found out the gf did.

    I know it sounds like gossip but we're a 5 person office. There really aren't many secrets.

    It is gossip if you get involved. Stay out of it. Like you said, it's none of your business.
  • solieco1
    solieco1 Posts: 1,559 Member
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    There is no scenario here where you make it better by getting involved. Stay far far out of it.
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
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    Stay out of it.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
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    how would your job be affected? if he gets rid of her? if they truly broke up then why is she still living there? thats nuts. just do your job and stay out of it sounds like they are dysfunctional and anything you say to either one of them could cause even more trouble for you and for your job. They may be able to even use it against you in some way if you do lose your current job and go and get another job. is that worth it to you? now if they were doing something illegal(like tax fraud,money laundering,etc) and it was hurting others and the company then I might find someone legal to talk to about it. but as for their personal business its personal and between them. it shouldnt be brought to work though.
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,325 Member
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    I hear nothing. I see nothing. I say nothing. I KNOW nothing. gufbp3ei9g0r.gif
  • elsie6hickman
    elsie6hickman Posts: 3,864 Member
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    There is nothing to be gained by you getting involved. They'll get back together and then both will be mad at you. Even though it is only a 5 person office and "everyone knows everything", stay clear of personal relationships.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,864 Member
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    Ignore everything these cowards have told you. They are sheep! You are clearly a sheepdog. Or maybe a wolf. Possibly a caterpillar. Let's not get hung up on labels here.

    The first thing you need to do is compose a series of anonymous notes each one containing a few of the facts that you have mixed with your intuition. Over the course of a few days, drop these notes at various places around the office - preferably bear the trash so it looks like someone was going to leave them for someone, but chickened out like all of these gutless wimpadelics in here.

    Once they start to be discovered, you have to feign complete surprise. But now...NOW you are in control. You are driving this bus now. A word here or there. A question. A nudge and a wink.

    Suddenly this goes however you want it to.

    Report back after the first note is discovered.

    We'll be here.

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