Goal weight criticized
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That should wake people up, that's not a healthy BMI.
If they're here, reading your charming fat shaming bs, they're probably aware of that already.23 -
That should wake people up, that's not a healthy BMI.
And people already know that. No one's claiming it's healthy or a normal weight. It's *average*.
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Yes, I got the same things as @collectingblues got.collectingblues wrote: »
It was weird -- my organization's IT graphics came up, but I didn't get a warning. I didn't see any source for the data in the graphic, though -- like, there's normal BMI, but it didn't say where the "ideal" column came from -- and the bottom text wasn't well thought out, so I just figured it was a junk science site.
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(I guess you Edited To Add the bolded after I posted my initial response.)
I said for ME personally. Don't be so touchy lol. Saying that all 5'4 women should be around 170 pounds is ridiculous. I would not be healthy at that weight or comfortable. That was in response to someone saying 130 is the average for a 5'4 women, which is much more realistic! Get offended if you want, it is a diet forum.
Thank you. I accept your invitation. (aside to anyone who hasn't already guessed: Rant Follows.)
*Kitten* yeah, I'm offended.
Sure, this is a diet forum, but it's meant to be a helpful and supportive one. It is not meant to be a place where someone who's never had a BMI higher than 26 gets to parrot the sort of fat-shaming slurs yelled out of car windows, chanted on school playgrounds, and stage-whispered over shoulders in Middle School Girls' Restrooms without the risk of someone suggesting that she might have been a bit tactless.
You used a phrase commonly invoked to insult fat people, but that's not what offended me. What's offensive is that, when I used every grain of tact at my disposal to suggest that your remark may itself have been tactless, you did not do what a reasonable person might and post something like: "Oh, dear. I didn't realize that. I'm sorry if I seemed insensitive."
Those are not hard words to type. They're all fairly easy to spell. They don't cost you anything monetarily, and none of them have any Calories.
But you chose instead to tell me not to be so touchy, to defend your statement in a way that would only make sense if "average" meant the same thing as "normal," and to dismiss your responsibility for any offense you might have caused.
I found your earlier remark slightly insensitive, but not offensive. I said so as tactfully as I could, and it is your defensive and dismissive response that offends the *kitten* out of me.
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Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »(I guess you Edited To Add the bolded after I posted my initial response.)
Thank you. I accept your invitation. (aside to anyone who hasn't already guessed: Rant Follows.)
*Kitten* yeah, I'm offended.
Sure, this is a diet forum, but it's meant to be a helpful and supportive one. It is not meant to be a place where someone who's never had a BMI higher than 26 gets to parrot the sort of fat-shaming slurs yelled out of car windows, chanted on school playgrounds, and stage-whispered over shoulders in Middle School Girls' Restrooms without the risk of someone suggesting that she might have been a bit tactless.
You used a phrase commonly invoked to insult fat people, but that's not what offended me. What's offensive is that, when I used every grain of tact at my disposal to suggest that your remark may itself have been tactless, you did not do what a reasonable person might and post something like: "Oh, dear. I didn't realize that. I'm sorry if I seemed insensitive."
Those are not hard words to type. They're all fairly easy to spell. They don't cost you anything monetarily, and none of them have any Calories.
But you chose instead to tell me not to be so touchy, to defend your statement in a way that would only make sense if "average" meant the same thing as "normal," and to dismiss your responsibility for any offense you might have caused.
I found your earlier remark slightly insensitive, but not offensive. I said so as tactfully as I could, and it is your defensive and dismissive response that offends the *kitten* out of me.
Q.F.T.
Y'know, in my younger days, when I was more prone to showing my mean girl streak and being completely oblivious to the fact I was being an insensitive *kitten* (or just not caring), I used to say and think things like that too. Then I actually got overweight. It was humbling...18
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