What is your "Petty" Reason to Lose Weight?

My petty reason is I am recently married and so many people had the nerve to say the cliches like "now you'll get fat" or "now the sex will stop" etc to both my husband and I. I don't know why people insist on saying such negative things at the happiest time in our lives but I like the thought of showing that I instead got even hotter and we are just as happy as ever!

I want to be more successful at weight loss (mostly at maintenance) than the friend I started losing weight with in 2013... She loves to make her losses very public and loud, and I want my body to do the talking... and... I actually do feel like I'm winning (even though I'm the only one thinking of any competition, she has no idea).

I want guys AND girls to check me out as I walk by hahaha

I want to be the pretty/good looking/thin girl for a change

I want to look like my bf & i belong together (he is tall and cut/muscular, and I'm tall & soft in spots)

I want people to look at me and say "body goals"

CCgal2018 wrote: »

To look good in a swimsuit at the beach. To buy clothing investment pieces and not worry about growing out of them.

^ This.

I would really like to be able to buy a few really nice pieces of clothing that I could rely on to class things up from time to time, and to know that they're still going to fit five or ten years from now.

My reason...can there be only one petty reason?😳😅 I not only wanna look good naked but I also want to be proud of myself. I’ve lost 80lbs on my own and now these last 30-40 lbs are trying to stay forever I think 🤔🤷🏼‍♀️.

I want to buy new skimpy underwear and look good in it.

To look hotter than my sister in law who everyone thinks is so hot and pretty. (She is very pretty, I just want to be on the same level lol)

I want to a rocking body like I did before my two boys. I want to turn heads like other women turn my husband's head. I know he loves me but I'm insecure in the way I look now. I know it's natural for men to look at other women but damn it man! I want that too!

Because I want everyone to text him like “yo, your ex girl hella hot. What you screw her over for again?” Eat your heart out!

HDBKLM wrote: »

I've never been ugly but never been quite pretty enough. Always the one who had a crush on someone only to find that that person has a crush on my best friend, flatmate, coworker, etc. I spent my 20s and 30s playing it off, like I didn't notice or wasn't hurt by being passed up (and of course there was always the additional layer of bitterness for believing myself to be funny and interesting while my prettier friends were more dull). I think there was a piece of me that let myself get fat because it gave me an alternative explanation/excuse for not to be picked, one that was theoretically in my control rather than simply 'what God gave me was not good enough', so to speak.

Now that I'm in my 40s and seem to be ageing relatively gracefully, there is also a subconscious piece of me that seems to have decided that now was the 'right time' to drop the weight. Like now it's finally MY turn to be the pretty one. I had absolutely no idea this internal battle was happening in the back of my mind all this time until after I came out the other side of it, 50 pounds down (10-ish more to go), at the top of the normal range of the BMI chart and starting to get a bit of attention. I'm not proud of this reasoning and I wish I'd seen my issues many years sooner. Not only that but even when I DO get attention I still have a paranoia that I'm imagining the attention and what I interpret as a flirty interaction will still end with him saying, "Oh actually you're not my type," or more ironically, "You're a bit old for me." I. am. messed. up.

I'm quoting myself because this post relates to the last one, albeit indirectly, in the sense of painting the psychological backdrop for my issues and insecurities:

I'm a woman in my 40s and by funny twist of fate, my best friend is a guy in his 20s who gets a lot of female attention. The situation really feeds my historical insecurities unhealthily. We are strictly platonic, have a more familial vibe than anything else, and are both attached to other people (technically he is single/dating around but has an obsessive crush on someone so is emotionally attached nonetheless; I'm *actually* attached). But we are so in synch and adore each other so much that in spite of myself I can't help wishing there was a way to know if he *could* be attracted to me in an alternate reality. I mean, since he's in his full youthful bloom it's kind of logical that I could find him attractive while he just can't yet wrap his mind around the notion of finding 'someone so old' attractive at his age. I guess what's driving me to distraction is if the age barrier weren't in place, would he then?

This is why I refer to another reality, like if when we met if we were both single and around the same age, would we be a couple now or would I have still not grabbed his attention 'in that way'? I file this under 'petty' because I'm soooo not proud of myself for being so desperate to know what I look like through his eyes. Would I be competitive among the others?

Jeez, this has been hard to admit 'on paper', especially since, although it's really a post about my ego/emotional issues, how they relate to my weight issues, and how they're revisiting me these days, I'm thinking it probably reads as me trying to leave my partner for a younger man ...

* Edited to make more explicit the connection to weight loss.

shilowindy wrote: »

I’m tired of being the girl that gets overlooked. Guys I go out with always end things with me and say that I’m awesome and easy to hang out with but I just feel like my weight is a factor in there that they aren’t mentioning. That might just be me over analyzing but I want them to see what they’re missing out on! It’s super petty and definitely not my main reason but I can’t help but acknowledge that it’s there lol

Not petty at all. Sadly true in my book.

nickssweetheart wrote: »

My petty reason is that a doctor said I couldn't.

Seriously, I was referred to an orthopedist of all people, and he said "Let's be real, you're never going to lose the weight" and offered me a card for his friend that does WLS.

From my primary care doctor who knows me and has charted my progress and knows that although I'm heavy I have no blood pressures/diabetes/pre-diabetes issues, and that I gained the last bit of weight during an extremely difficult period while I was on medication and had untreated hypothyroidism, I WANT to be able to have a discussion about my weight. With the guy who is supposed to tell me if I need ankle surgery who also has a physique like Santa Claus himself?

Not so much.

Wow, that doctor is a jerk! That is just terrible. No doctor worth their salt would ever say things like that to a patient. Especially since that doctor has weight problems himself. Probably he's insecure about his weight too, hence why he said that to you (not that it's okay). Nick, good on you for losing weight. Not only are you showing that a-hole dr up but you're going to be in better shape for it too. Double-win!

When I started to lose weight in 2016 I was 250lbs and I was determined to lose a significant amount of weight before getting pregnant with a second child (I had my first in 2015).

Fast forward a little bit...my marriage ended in September 2017 and I am raising our 3.5 year old son pretty much full time.

When my ex and I first split I sat around the same weight of around 185lbs. While I had made a lot of progress since my initial start, I had zero confidence when it came to dating and the thought of being intimate with someone terrified me.

As of today I am 169.5lbs! I still have about 35lbs to lose but I am feeling more and more confident...as my trainer often reminds me....revenge body!

So I suppose my petty reason is that, a revenge body!

My petty reason is being a Mom who still looks good after kids (1 down, 1 hypothetical future kid to go). I don't want to be a "floating head" in family photos. I don't want my childless-by-choice friends pointing a me as an example of why kids aren't worth it. Also I feel like it's hard enough trying to keep my identity together after becoming a parent without having to grapple with my physical body as well.

My petty reasons:

1. I keep running into to people from my past. I’d like for them to see me and think woah she still looks great. I’ve gained about 30 lbs since having my first baby.

2. I’d like shut my mom the *kitten* up. She is a constant reminder of my failures and mistakes. Always naggging. Never approving of any of my accomplishments.

3. Would love to be the hot lesbian friend, cousin, sister, co worker etc