They all but shoved it down my throat!

lind3400
lind3400 Posts: 557 Member
edited October 1 in Motivation and Support
Uggghh so Im doin a summer co-op and theres one lady in the office who every Fri brings in one of her delicious baked deliciacies like theyre amazing....usually I can avoid them cuz she puts them by the coffee maker and I dont drink coffee....but today one of the other women wasl ike "you have to try it!" and i was like "No dont really like chocolate" (which is the truth) and she was like no no its not all chocolate try it and dragged me to the dessert and handed me one....Unfortunately I ate it cuz I HATE being rude, big problem I have...and it was reallly good....how should I handle a situation like that in the future...like next friday haha?
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  • dayzeerock
    dayzeerock Posts: 918 Member
    Ummm...just say no thank you.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Food allergy.
  • wickedcricket
    wickedcricket Posts: 1,246 Member
    try this - 'ok - if you're gonna FORCE me to eat that, you're gonna eat some tofu, salad .. fill in the blank' alternatively, you could take a page from MY book and say 'I'm still on probation for assault on the LAST person who tried to force me to do something'
  • TheTeeWhy
    TheTeeWhy Posts: 186
    Id just be straight up and say you're tryin to watch what you eat. I absolutely know what you mean, my dad will buy some garbage and then is wondering why it isnt getting eaten, because NO ONE WANTS IT. It's crappy. For like 200 calories I can have a decent snack, as opposed to some tiny *kitten* little treat thing I dont want.

    I also hate the notion when people are like "Well you deserve a treat" no, the person who is trying to better themselves gets to say when they deserve a treat or not. One of my biggest peeves now as a healthier/future healthy person
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    Just tell her "No thank you," and change the subject. You don't have to give an explanation as to why you don't want to eat something. If she pushes the issue, just tell her that you're not hungry right now, or that you're avoiding sweets right now, or whatever you like. It's not being rude to tell somebody you don't want to eat something. It's your mouth, you get to decide what you put in it. It's not like she baked it JUST for you or something.
  • zml_mom
    zml_mom Posts: 270 Member
    just say no, your trying to loose weight
  • Say no or explain that you are watching what you eat and ask if someone would like to share one. No biggie.
  • I'm concerned that I may be pre-diabetic and am trying to avoid processed carbs.
  • That use to happen to me constantly at work as well. I made it know to a few of my co workers that I was trying to lose weight and that sweets arent really an option for me right now. Since then, my co workers and bosses bring fruit and other healthy snacks in addition to the sweets.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    I lie. Upset stomach, food allergy, already tried one.
  • sabrinafaith
    sabrinafaith Posts: 607 Member
    or, just say, thank you, but i don't want any. sounds like this coworker was being rude to you by dragging you there instead of respecting your wishes to not eat it. So in my opinion, a little rudeness would do her some good!
  • efarester
    efarester Posts: 135 Member
    I am not sure how your relationship is with your coworker(s). But, you could always be honest with her and tell her you made a decision to eat better and improve your health. You can always add that once you have one "treat" during the day, it sends you into a spiral or something to that effect (humor always helps ease any tension right?!). Let her know you would love to have her support :)
  • ShrinkingNinja
    ShrinkingNinja Posts: 460 Member
    Set it back down and walk away.
  • fatgirlslove
    fatgirlslove Posts: 614 Member
    say "no, thanks. I'm on a diet." I know its really hard, I used to work with really pushy ppl like that.
  • Kristhin
    Kristhin Posts: 442 Member
    next time she puts sweets in your hand just peg her in the face with it. muahahahaha.
  • Kristhin
    Kristhin Posts: 442 Member
    and then say, "get out of my FACE, @sshole!"
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    No means no.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    Food allergy.

    Yes, I was thinking this. "It looks amazing but unofrtunately I'm allergic to chocolate".
  • datguy2011
    datguy2011 Posts: 477 Member
    just say no.. simple isn't it?
  • lind3400
    lind3400 Posts: 557 Member
    LMAO Ur all right I need to stop being a friggin ***** all the time and stick up for my diet! I dont even like desserts and I still ate it so Im really bad!
  • GreenSkinnyJeans
    GreenSkinnyJeans Posts: 204 Member
    Time to be rude. : D.
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    I normally say no sorry I'm trying to watch what I eat or trying to stay away from desserts. OR because depending on the person I don't want them to misinterpret and thing I'm saying I'm better then you because I'm losing weight I say I will later lol then just never have any then if they ask I say yeaaaah yuuuum. The first one is normally best though lol.
  • kmelski
    kmelski Posts: 14
    ajbeans was right on: it's not rude to say no, and you don't owe explanations to anyone. It's all fine and good to "smooth the waters" with little white lies, and/or to offer a simple explanation to people you've got a relationship with, but in my opinion, people (and women in particular) need to become more comfortable just saying "no" instead of acting like it's their job to please every single person they encounter.
  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    This was YOUR choice to put it in your mouth. Say "No thank you." and walk away.
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    Food allergy.

    Yes, I was thinking this. "It looks amazing but unofrtunately I'm allergic to chocolate".

    say dairy or lactose intolerant that'll cover all of it lol
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    No means no.
    Exactly. How is that rude?
  • peanut613
    peanut613 Posts: 438 Member
    I was in a similar situation at a 4th of July BBQ this summer. My mom had purchased an array of Smith Island cake pops, a type of cake which is a local phenomenon but on a stick. She had coconut cake, red velvet, and chocolate. They looked incredible. I wanted to eat about 30 of each! However, I knew that these cake pops were a few hundred calories a piece. Ummm, yeah. Several of the women at the party were eating them like it was nothing (some of them had over 10 cake pops!!!) They kept telling me how I NEEDED to try one, and were borderline badgering me into it. I kept trying to say no politely, but they didn't get the not so subtle hint. Eventually, I just looked at one woman (who is a spin teacher at a local gym and had already scarfed like 12) and said Listen, I'm on a new diet and I don't plan on sabotaging myself today. She shut up! They all shoved another pop in their mouths and walked away!

    Try being polite, just saying no. But if they just don't get it, tell them you're on a diet! And if they keep pestering you with an "Oh it's just one bite" or some stupid remark, just politely excuse yourself to the bathroom or something.
  • For the record, I am a food pusher (OMG you have to try this delicious "x" I made, it is sooooo good) and I do not get offended in the least if someone politely declines.
  • Abigailblue39
    Abigailblue39 Posts: 212 Member
    This is pushy, those kind of people that want to push their opinion on someone else are too annoying. I'd never eat what someone is trying to forcefeed to me, even if I liked it; I'd get pissed instead and say, "you know what, that doesn't work with my nutritional program, thanks but no thanks", put it down, and walk away.

    My mother always goes 5 times: "you want another one?" I say: "I said no 5 times, if I want anything, I am an adult, I'll get it myself."

    I really do that, I'm known as the rude German in my office, but I'm pretty much the only one in shape there, hehe. Now everyone leaves me alone. They know, I do sports nutrition, and as far as I'm concerned, they can get fat from that crap themselves.
  • surfrgrl1
    surfrgrl1 Posts: 1,464 Member
    Okay, I'm less bold then others, so to keep the peace, I would take it back to my desk, and I would make sure that I'm too busy to eat it, then voila, it slowly it ends up disappearing off the napkin into the trash can. And, yes, I'd probably bury it in the trash so no one noticed!! I've had 'treats' that were really gross before, and I did the same thing, they carefully were buried in the trash so I didn't offend anyone.

    I've worked in groups where some people make snide remarks to others for not participating in their fat fests on food day. Idiots!! So I know where you're coming from.
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