Some people just don't get it
Options
Replies
-
I hear you on that. While I am still quite obese, I have lost a noticeable amount of weight since September. A co-worker asked me last week how I was doing it. I told her that I was eating less food. She kind of laughed it off and said well that's no fun.16
-
nicsflyingcircus wrote: »I hear you on that. While I am still quite obese, I have lost a noticeable amount of weight since September. A co-worker asked me last week how I was doing it. I told her that I was eating less food. She kind of laughed it off and said well that's no fun.
This! So much this. I've been maintaining for about 9 months and I still run into people who haven't seen me in a while and they always ask what I did. When I tell them they're almost disappointed, look bored and walk off.
Everyone is waiting for that magic bullet and if it's something mundane as eating only as much as you need they can't be bothered.9 -
I would just say that this is how I can be fit or what I need to do to be slim. Make it your decision about you and let them decide if it might be about their decisions about themselves.2
-
I've never commented on anyone's eating habits until I worked with a tiny girl that ate lunch in the office from 5 different take away places at the same time and because I was the fat one in there people would glare at me and shake their heads. WTF I wasn't even eating at all. I told her she needed to post a warning on the office door that it was her food so people would stop death staring me. (a joke obviously, she was a good friend of mine)6
-
I think I may be guilty of feeding the myth, sometimes.
I'm now retired, and live alone. Most of my meals are at home. My habit (in maintenance) is to eat below maintenance most days, so that if I go out with friends I can eat and drink pretty freely, of special/unusual foods I really enjoy. So, some of my friends mostly or only see me eating kind of indulgently, but staying thin.
If anyone asked (only one person has), I'd describe the process that's working for me. A few others have seen me order a veggie burger without the bun or a salad without croutons sometimes (I'm not a huge bread fan, so it's gotta be super good bread to be worth the calories), so they think I maintain a healthy weight by "cutting out bread" (have said that!). Yet others have said it must be that all my rowing keeps me thin - insisted, in the face of my disputing it, in fact . . . even people who knew me when I was obese, and knew I was rowing just as much then.
Denial is strong.
9 -
honestly.. it is sad if you think about it. You're the lucky one.. you lost your weight and you do get it. You can even eat a tiny slice of a treat and walk away... and that poor thing is stuck in a fat suit, saying obnoxious things on top of it..11
-
born_of_fire74 wrote: »When someone says something like that to me, I go into great detail about why I eat the way I do. I tell them all about it until their eyes glaze over and they walk away. It's better for me if they think ending the conversation was their idea rather than them thinking I gave them the brush off as I have this reputation at work of being unfriendly and difficult to approach. Generally, after a few times, people stop saying anything because they've figured out I will blather on and on for as long as they let me and it's just better if they don't even get me started. BTW, it's not that I'm not unfriendly or difficult to approach, it's that small talk is fake, dumb and boring.
lol..love this strategy...it is how I get rid of people all the time... start talking in detail about what they are annoying you with... boom. they go away.1 -
elisa123gal wrote: »born_of_fire74 wrote: »When someone says something like that to me, I go into great detail about why I eat the way I do. I tell them all about it until their eyes glaze over and they walk away. It's better for me if they think ending the conversation was their idea rather than them thinking I gave them the brush off as I have this reputation at work of being unfriendly and difficult to approach. Generally, after a few times, people stop saying anything because they've figured out I will blather on and on for as long as they let me and it's just better if they don't even get me started. BTW, it's not that I'm not unfriendly or difficult to approach, it's that small talk is fake, dumb and boring.
lol..love this strategy...it is how I get rid of people all the time... start talking in detail about what they are annoying you with... boom. they go away.
Maybe that's why none of the overweight people at work ask me about weight loss anymore, because I use a similar tactic.
Or it could be simply that nobody likes talking to auditors, which I am... 🤔😂12 -
At work there is a girl doing the keto diet. To lose weight specifically. I overheard her talking about when she gets to her goal weight she's going to celebrate by binging and eating all the things she hasn't been able to eat for the last four months. Hmm... Sounds sustainable.24
-
elisa123gal wrote: »born_of_fire74 wrote: »When someone says something like that to me, I go into great detail about why I eat the way I do. I tell them all about it until their eyes glaze over and they walk away. It's better for me if they think ending the conversation was their idea rather than them thinking I gave them the brush off as I have this reputation at work of being unfriendly and difficult to approach. Generally, after a few times, people stop saying anything because they've figured out I will blather on and on for as long as they let me and it's just better if they don't even get me started. BTW, it's not that I'm not unfriendly or difficult to approach, it's that small talk is fake, dumb and boring.
lol..love this strategy...it is how I get rid of people all the time... start talking in detail about what they are annoying you with... boom. they go away.
Same here... lol1 -
You can eat everything on keto, it's still just about portion size.
0 -
tcunbeliever wrote: »You can eat everything on keto, it's still just about portion size.
At the store yesterday I saw one-bite pecan pies. That's exactly what I thought
Except THEN I thought of eating the whole box of 24.
Not sure that is their intended purpose.8 -
My office ALWAYS has treats. My coworkers joke around that new employees gain the "Freshman 15."
I eat plant-based, and am new to counting calories, and it's INSANE how much flack I catch for it.
My favorite examples:
While I'm opening a can of low-sodium green beans for my lunch: "What is that you're eating? Dog food?"
"Wow, that's so healthyyyyy! I really admire people who eat like you!" In a very patronizing tone
Multiple jabs at my refusing little snacks (muffins, donuts, chocolates, popcorn) because it's some special occasion
"But you look fine! You don't need to be watching what you eat!" because I'm not as overweight as some others.
Sigh. 50 pounds to go.
9 -
I think it's funny when people comment on "how healthy" I am because I'm eating a vegetable. lol11
-
cmriverside wrote: »tcunbeliever wrote: »You can eat everything on keto, it's still just about portion size.
At the store yesterday I saw one-bite pecan pies. That's exactly what I thought
Except THEN I thought of eating the whole box of 24.
Not sure that is their intended purpose.
If they are "one" bite pies and you are supposed to chew your food 32 times (according to food myths) you're going to need a bigger box.
6 -
I think it's funny when people comment on "how healthy" I am because I'm eating a vegetable. lol
Yep. On days I bring a boxed frozen dinner for lunch, I also bring some mixed frozen veggies. Nuke the meal, dump it into the veggies. One of the women I work with walked into the breakroom as I was putting it all together and asked me what I was eating. I answered and her response was "Oh, right, your one of those healthy people with the vegetables."
Yep, that's me <sigh>
I also get weird comments for taking a walk outside on my break if the weather isn't absolutely 100% perfect.
And then someone will tell me my Coke Zero is going to make me hungry and give me diabetes.25 -
CarvedTones wrote: »On Fridays, there are generally pastries brought in to the office and today was no exception. A giant apple fritter looked really good. I got a knife, cut it it in half and then cut one of the halves in half and took 1/4; still a few bites, this thing was big. An overweight coworker rolled his eyes - "You don't need to do that. You're skinny." - then took the rest of the fritter. I opened my mouth to say something but words failed me and I just had to turn and walk away.
yep-- that was one of the things I posted in the pet peeves post... People tend to think that thin people are thin because of some magical unicorn metabolism and can eat all the things...um no, we're thin because we don't eat all the things. Deluded people have apparent issues with cause and effect.
It's easier to think that than have any personal responsibility though, isn't it.4 -
It really doesn't bother me that much when other people are ignorant. Their idle social chatter about that ignorance is NBD either. Someone who's persistently and aggressively actually rude to me personally might draw a response, though - in which case, I prefer high road, but pointed, when possible. 1
-
There are two primary factors at play here:
First is the massive amount of misinformation/disinformation out there marketing that metabolism is some fluid and adaptable process.
Second is the issue of personal responsibility which feeds the misinformation campaign. If CICO is true, then excuses are simply that and we are truly responsible for our outcome.
A responsible individual would hope that the problem lies with them...that way they can change the behavior and fix the problem.
8 -
I'm sure I was thought of as weird for taking walks during my breaks, cold & windy while bundled in my parka in Winter, or in the blazing sun in August. But now there's more of us loonies out there on break, and few people openly comment. 😁7
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 391.4K Introduce Yourself
- 43.5K Getting Started
- 259.6K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.6K Food and Nutrition
- 47.3K Recipes
- 232.3K Fitness and Exercise
- 387 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.4K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 152.7K Motivation and Support
- 7.8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.2K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.2K MyFitnessPal Information
- 22 News and Announcements
- 916 Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.3K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions