Ladies- how do you stop comparing yourself?

There are so many more important things in life than what you look like. I consider all the things around me that make me happy and make life worth living. Is it what I look like? No, it's my kids, my husband, my hobbies etc. Sure I want to look nice, I think most people do. But it's not my top priority.

What I do is remember that everyone has imperfections even those that are very attractive on the eye will have their own imperfections and insecurities.

I admire and appreciate beauty in other people as opposed to compare myself to others and remember all the things I like about myself.

And as someone else has said true beauty is so much more than what is on the surface and is also very subjective.

I think personality and interests is also important. I think the essence of a person - and how they present themselves to the world and others is more important than say - how you look in comparison to another in a photograph. You are more than just your body. There are special things about you - that set you apart from others.

I had a problem with this when I was younger. For me self-acceptance was key. Just remembering how different and unique we all are. Something that helped me over-come this bad habit was sort of putting "blinders" on when I went out in a crowd or around people who I felt insecure around. Wherever I felt tempted to compare I focused more heavily on my own little world and the immediate people around me like my children or the task at hand. Focus on accepting who you are. You are a unique individual and outward appearance is only one measure of a person. Don't give it more than it is worth. I'm sure you have a lot of wonderful qualities to be appreciative of. Only compare yourself to what you admire in others and traits that you would like to foster in yourself but always remember you can't be them. You are you!

Honestly, I still do it. It's just one of those automatic thoughts that I can't control when it happens.
What I can control is what I do with it after though. Do I get depressed about soandso seems to have it together? Or do I move along b/c it's not worth wasting my time thinking stuff like that.

Eh, everyone has something about themselves they don’t like. The same women you look at and envy could very well be doing the same thing to you.

I think it’s important to focus on the things you like about yourself. Maybe each day start writing down or saying out loud 5 things you like about yourself. Or each time you see someone and think “Oh, I wish I looked like her” make a conscious effort to tell yourself things you like about you. It may sound cheesy but if you want to change your thought processes you have to put in some mental effort to do it, it may feel cheesy or fake a first but keep at it and it really can help rewire your thinking.

There's nothing wrong with comparing yourself to others. The problem is when you feel you don't measure up to some ideal. So what if she's taller, thinner, firmer, etc. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. People are all different, and you need to love yourself--faults and all. Focus on your good points, and if it helps you can mentally downgrade your comparison. (She's thinner, but I've got a better butt, her nose is big, my clothes fit better, and I would never be with that guy.) If you're going to take inventory, you have to count your strengths as well.

I used to compare myself to the pretty people all the time. What stopped me was learning what was behind the facade. The women I envied had faced challenges I'd never imagined. That skinny beauty had suffered a miscarriage, that tall blonde had lupis, that gorgeous lady had an abusive husband. The people I envied, and thought had it all, had their own share of ups and downs I didn't have. All things considered, I wouldn't trade.

Lastly, confidence makes you prettier. Be the best you. Work it. Stand up tall and proud, and don't tear yourself down. Compare yourself to last week's you, and try to be better than her--inside and out.

I compare all the time.

I can’t help it.

But now that I have lost most of the weight I wanted and am generally much fitter the comparison ceased to be automatically negative. And I feel better most of the time. Still a work in progress but heading there.

There are parts of my body that not matter what I think I could never be happy enough with, but some others parts that have hit the spot now make it good for me.

To strive toward an ideal is great but sometimes you forget where you’ve come from. Do compare yourself to less attractive people too and realise «  I used to be this size, yeaaah go meeee !!! » I might sound petty but sometimes it’s what’s needed.

I think I did that when I was unhappy with myself. I made an effort to find things I liked about myself and I don't care as much any more. I have friends and family all shapes and sizes and what makes them great is not their body being model perfect.
A person is more than looks. Maybe you are nicer, stronger, healthier, have better relationships, a better job, more friends, etc. You don't know what that person is going through so comparing your looks and deciding they are better than you might be a pretty silly thing to do.

Most people have things they don't love about themselves even if you think they look amazing. The grass is always greener on the other side. You are probably someone else's ideal.

There will always be someone better than you and someone worse than you.
I like to have many goals in appearance, fitness, new activities, scales, measurements, recipes, new ingredients, etc. That way a few things are always going well and I don't get consumed with one particular goal.