My Dr. Called me fat...😩
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NashvilleRealtor wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »How tall are you OP? How did this belly pinching come about? The whole situation seems weird....
I'm 5"1 and I weight 135 lb. I certainly don't think that he meant it in a sexual way or anything like that but it was definitely awkward and uncomfortable. The fact is that he said I was overweight and that's pretty much all you needed to say for me to start doing something about it.
After he said I was overweight and I acknowledged it he reached for my stomach, pinched it with his hand, have it two light pulls and he said ".. You have more than you need" and that's the part that made me feel uncomfortable and awkward. I certainly have never had a doctor tug my fat before it was my first time seeing him too. I know people are going to say that I'm weak or easily offended but him going that extra step made me feel pretty bad about my stomach and confidence 😅
Anyway it happened, it's done, and I'm doing something about it 👍👍
I do hope you share with him that you would appreciate a more professional approach, such as calipers and an actual measurement.
If you are silent, he won't learn anything.
If you just walk away, others may be subject to the same treatment.
It's on him, I'm not saying otherwise.
I do think you could do society a big favor by pointing it out.
If he responds well and says, yes, I can see how that could be threatening, he's a keeper.
If not, you know what to do.
Sucks to be in that circumstance, for sure. It's a test/opportunity to find out if it were a faux pas, or a real character defect in the man.
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I don't understand why people are saying my account is deleted.... Did I do something 😳1 -
NashvilleRealtor wrote: »
I don't understand why people are saying my account is deleted.... Did I do something 😳
Changed your username....
I think it was different before?1 -
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ssarzen1976 wrote: »😂 my doctor pinched my stomach and said I was overweight and " had more than I needed"
So that really bummed me out but I decided to finally start using this resource to track my food and get excited about losing weight 😐
Which seems super complected right now.. but in the process I hope to find people that motivate me and I can't wait to read all of your success stories.
So, what's your reason for being here?
The same reason as you, though he didn't need to pinch, it was pretty damn visible
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I am sorry to hear that the Dr. has a poor bed side manner!
Hope you are okay.....?2 -
NashvilleRealtor wrote: »
I was just reminding my kids about not revealing any personal info online. I'm afraid both of your usernames just became an example of what not to do
What your Dr. did was unprofessional and icky. It's fine if you want to lose a few lbs, but I'd lose that Dr. too.7 -
Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
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NashvilleRealtor wrote: »lynn_glenmont wrote: »deannalfisher wrote: »i'd be finding a new doctor - PDQ - that is just unsat - pinched your stomach??
If the doctor had used calipers to assess the fat, would that bother you?
And, OP, your doctor didn't call you fat. "Overweight" is a medical term. It's not an aesthetic or moral judgment. Did you want the doctor to pretend you're not overweight?
No he didn't use the word "fat" it's implied though 😅 I forgot there is always one of ~you~ commenting on people's posts ✌️ I weight 135 and yeah I could lose about 10 bl and... That's why I'm here 😉
One of who?5 -
Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
See, I didn't read it as a 'fairly standard pinch test' at all (is there such a thing?) I'm examining my past experiences with doctors to see if I can figure out why I reacted so strongly and am coming up blank. They've all been thoroughly professional. Obviously something is causing me to read this in a different light as you and several others. Something to ponder...3 -
Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
Not sure what type of doctors you are going to - I’ve never had one do a pinch test that wasn’t discussed and agreed to (which based on the OP’s initial post didn’t seem to be) - and yes I could stand to lose weight and am overweight3 -
NashvilleRealtor wrote: »
I was just reminding my kids about not revealing any personal info online. I'm afraid both of your usernames just became an example of what not to do
What your Dr. did was unprofessional and icky. It's fine if you want to lose a few lbs, but I'd lose that Dr. too.
Heyyyy just in case anyone is looking for a realtor in Nashville 😉 you know who to contact hehe
But I totally agree with you!3 -
deannalfisher wrote: »Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
Not sure what type of doctors you are going to - I’ve never had one do a pinch test that wasn’t discussed and agreed to (which based on the OP’s initial post didn’t seem to be) - and yes I could stand to lose weight and am overweight
And to be totally honest I wasn't even going in for him to check my weight or an annual check-up. It was something completely unrelated 😳0 -
Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
Just wanted to point out that I wasn't going to the doctor for a checkup or anything to do with my weight.. what he did was just odd and nothing like I've ever felt with a Dr. that's all2 -
Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
See, I didn't read it as a 'fairly standard pinch test' at all (is there such a thing?) I'm examining my past experiences with doctors to see if I can figure out why I reacted so strongly and am coming up blank. They've all been thoroughly professional. Obviously something is causing me to read this in a different light as you and several others. Something to ponder...
Yeah, maybe there are doctors here that can speak to this, but I've never heard of a "pinch test", let alone do I think it's "standard". I'm getting the same vibe from it that you got... an invasion of personal space.
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Yeah. I'm not sure I get the outrage towards the doctor to be honest.
I mean he did a fairly standard pinch test and provided an observation, hardly unprofessional. In fact that's exactly his profession. To notice, confirm and advice on health factors so I'd see it as the epitome of professionalism in that he's taking a genuine interest in his patients well-being and not just treating immediate symptoms and shoving them out the door.
I don't object to a doctor noticing my weight is too high and advising me on it (I prefer that to ignoring the issue), but I would object to being pinched without permission. I don't think I would classify it as "outrage", but it would bother me.8 -
My doctor does much more vile things to me. Was his diagnosis right or wrong? Will following his advice add years to your life? Would your reaction differ if the doctor was the same gender as you?6
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I think if nothing else it was a bit unprofessional especially for a first visit and can understand why the OP felt a bit uncomfortable. Doctors need to touch you for a lot of reasons, being fat is not one of them. They can see that and weigh you if they need proof.
The usual thing for doctors in my experience, male and female is they inform you if they are going to touch you and ask permission. E.G. "I am just going to feel your tummy is that Ok? Or I am just going to insert this HUGE needle you may feel a little scratch is that ok?"
On the other hand I wouldn't give a toss if my doctor said I was fat because I am.4 -
135 lbs and 5'1"? You're only technically overweight by 3 lbs...
As for him pinching you, not cool. If he said first something along the lines of, "If you don't mind, I'm going to do a pinch test...", that's one thing. But just pinching someone out of nowhere is inappropriate, I don't care if you're a doctor.14
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