body shaming

Think about how sad their life must be if they have to put you down to make themselves feel better.

My husband loves working out and has never had a problem with weight. He doesnt understood sugar cravings. He use to push me hard. And I'd fall off the fitness wagon, just about always.

This year I'm making my owe fitness routine and taking my time. All we have to do, I think is just continue. Pick ourselves up and continue to our goals.

At least this is what I'm telling myself this year.

It's not easy and it's a long road to having the presence, confidence, and mindset where you can not internalize it when confronted with body shaming. Especially from family, or close people who should and are supposed to be your biggest support system. First, remember it is never about you. Remember that what they say is about their own prejudices, misconceptions, and/or internalized pain and NOT ABOUT WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON.

It's probably their intention to make you feel bad. But you don't have to feel bad. If you can, immediately remove yourself from the situation and go do something that is just for you. read a book, take a walk, make a cup of tea, pet your dog, whatever it is, do something you like, that feels good, and keeps you on the path you are on!

There's the chance that they don't know they're body shaming you because body shaming is prevalent everywhere. If you think they might not know that what they're saying hurts, have that conversation with them.Let them know they're hurting you and how it hurts and why it hurts. If you can't though, don't beat yourself up about that. Just remove yourself from the situation and go do something positive for yourself. Also, it's totally acceptable to get angry about it.

Make a list, write it down and keep it with you at all times focus on these three things: Why are you making changes to your health? (to feel better, to be able to do more things, to be stronger etc) What positive changes have you already seen? ( a change in inches, a change in weight, more energy, better sleep etc) Why do you want to keep going? (to prove to myself I can, to prove to the a**holes I can, I like the way I feel when I'm doing this etc) Pull that list out every time you need it! who cares if you look at it 80 times a day? It'll help you remember who you're doing this for and it's you. Not them.

Chef_Barbell wrote: »

texascarrot820 wrote: »

Its not all of my family an not often do they do it but every now and then they continue to mention my weight

Tell them my weight is not up for discussion. Normal people respect boundaries.

This. Set the boundary firmly and once. If they bring it up again, firmly remind them. If they bring it up again, physically leave. They will get the message. Don't turn it into a negotiation. Don't caught up in having to justify and explain yourself. Just cut off the conversation and walk away. Also, don't talk to them about weight loss, diet, anything along those lines because it encourages them to comment.