Worst "Compliment" Ever...

Sasssy69
Sasssy69 Posts: 547 Member
edited October 1 in Motivation and Support
Recently someone who is very, very thin told me I was "Voluptuous." She said this after I said, "I know you think I'm fat - you make enough comments about what I eat and how much." She said, "You're not fat. You're voluptuous. That's a compliment."

I said, "Voluptuous is the nice way skinny people call fat people fat."

Then I called her a *****...in a nice way. Except that I literally called her a *****. But I laughed so she knew I was "joking."

That wasn't MEAN was it???? :wink:
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  • fridayjustleft04
    fridayjustleft04 Posts: 851 Member
    Lol..gotta love the back handed compliments. I took some clothes over to my friend's grandma (my too big clothes fit her), and she said "I didn't know you were that fat". Gee, thanks.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Recently someone who is very, very thin told me I was "Voluptuous."
    I got "pleasantly plump" from my thin roommate. umm, thanks.
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    At xmas my fiance likes to call me festively plump..
    Im like yeah thanx..
  • hpsnickers1
    hpsnickers1 Posts: 2,783 Member
    I used to use those words to explain me. I used to say my fat was 'evenly proportioned' because I was heavier than I looked. LOL
  • mizpaden74
    mizpaden74 Posts: 3,837 Member
    or when they say - you look SO much better. I'm so sorry I was so atrocious to look at. Bite me.
  • rmdemattia
    rmdemattia Posts: 26
    My Chiropractor called me "fluffy".
  • fitplease
    fitplease Posts: 647 Member
    That's kind of like calling someone "curvy" when you mean fat. I am curvy AND overweight, but curvy means curves in my vocab.

    Ignore the comment. It wasn't well thought out.
  • becky_turcotte
    becky_turcotte Posts: 152
    thats what we call in the south a "sweet Compliment". U know, like when you try to set up your not so cute friend with a guy and he ask you what she's like and all you can say is "She is very sweet". YEAH!!
  • zumba_smurf
    zumba_smurf Posts: 6
    I have to say I was mortified when someone came up to be a few months back, patted my tummy and said you look positively blooming this pregnancy is making you glow! And I replied 'That would be a great compliment but I'm not even pregnant" and her reply was 'oh well sorry I thought you were at least twenty weeks!!!' Another kick up the *kitten* to loose this damn weight!!!!
  • streetnamejim
    streetnamejim Posts: 68
    I always thought "voluptuous" carried a bit of confidence in it. Like a sexy, curvy, confident chick.

    I also think "boobs" when I hear voluptuous.... but I think boobs about a lot of stuff, so maybe that doesn't count. Hehe..
  • Sasssy69
    Sasssy69 Posts: 547 Member
    Jerks - all of them. My sister in law is very thin - and she's great. She says, "I never comment on people's weight. It's mean. Also, just because I'm small doesn't mean I won't some day be in the same boat as a heavy person. It's called Karma." My mom is also great - she always tells me how good I look. But some people...I swear...Like those back handed compliments don't do more to demotivate us than a nice one. With this person, the only time I feel I win her approval is when I start to lose weight -as if being skinny makes one a good person. Ugh...And I HAVE to deal with her. She's family.
  • macylane4
    macylane4 Posts: 224
    I don't think skinny people that don't work to be skinny understand?!?! Haven't you ever did the...when are do you due? and she says she's not pregnant? I think everybody has! I just brush it off as they are ignorant, or it is a compliment in their eyes! I have a friend that is 98lbs...she doesn't understand why I have to watch what I eat...ummm cause I wasn't blessed with high metabolism like you!!!!! Good luck with your weight loss...someday you go back to her and say now I'm ripped!!!
  • katapple
    katapple Posts: 1,108 Member
    not even 20 minutes ago when I was putting together the below picture

    Hubby: "Just goes to show what a lucky man I am"
    Me: What, you weren't lucky back then??
    Hubby: well, you just look better now, I didn't say I didn't love you, (etc, as he tries to dig himself out of that hole)

    god, it's a good thing I love that man ;-P
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    lol, wow...I had almost the exact same conversation with someone a few years ago...almost makes me wonder if it was the same girl! :wink:

    You know, at your current weight I find it very hard to believe that anyone could think you were FAT!

    My ex told me I had a Buddha belly. I'm still a bit bruised about that one. :[
  • JWoodyard07
    JWoodyard07 Posts: 55 Member
    I worked in an inner city school and this one african american women told me,"you're not fat, you're thick. If you were a couple shades darker, you'd be hot". I guess that was a compliment lol
  • jbdowns35
    jbdowns35 Posts: 352
    Lol..gotta love the back handed compliments. I took some clothes over to my friend's grandma (my too big clothes fit her), and she said "I didn't know you were that fat". Gee, thanks.
    I put on an old pair of jeans that I could have maybe fit 2 of me in & showed my boyfriend how big they were. He said - I didn't know you were ever that fat! I actually did take it as a compliment coming from him. It made me feel like he always liked how I looked & my size isn't what he sees when he looks at me.
  • pelleld
    pelleld Posts: 363 Member
    Recently someone who is very, very thin told me I was "Voluptuous." She said this after I said, "I know you think I'm fat - you make enough comments about what I eat and how much." She said, "You're not fat. You're voluptuous. That's a compliment."

    I said, "Voluptuous is the nice way skinny people call fat people fat."

    Then I called her a *****...in a nice way. Except that I literally called her a *****. But I laughed so she knew I was "joking."

    That wasn't MEAN was it???? :wink:


    I'm going to play devil's advocate here......what did you want/expect her to say when you said "I know you think I'm fat - you make enough comments about what I eat and how much." ? Did you want her to say "you're right, I think you're fat"? IMHO, you opened the door with your initial comment to her.
  • suemar74
    suemar74 Posts: 447 Member
    My uncle called me Tunzafunz when I was younger. I was devastated when I finally realized it didn't mean I was tons o' fun.

    He used to be my favorite uncle :)
  • kmumansky
    kmumansky Posts: 119
    two weekends ago someone asked me how I was feeling then followed it up with "You look great!" And I was really confused...SHE THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT!!! I mean I can stand to loose a few lbs, but Im still a size 6....anyway THATS what motivated me to get back on track and loose 20 lbs.
  • DonnaLFitz
    DonnaLFitz Posts: 270 Member
    I often refer to myself that way. It's true -- I have curves no matter how "thin" I get. And I haven't required any surgery to pump up certain spots! I consider it a compliment.
  • MzMiller1215
    MzMiller1215 Posts: 633 Member
    I have to say I was mortified when someone came up to be a few months back, patted my tummy and said you look positively blooming this pregnancy is making you glow! And I replied 'That would be a great compliment but I'm not even pregnant" and her reply was 'oh well sorry I thought you were at least twenty weeks!!!' Another kick up the *kitten* to loose this damn weight!!!!

    OMG! I would've cried right then and there.....and would've wanted to slap her! LOL.
  • HangoverSquare
    HangoverSquare Posts: 128 Member
    I've always loved the enthusiastic "Oh, you don't look as fat in that."
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
    HA... I got "you would be so hot if you just lost weight"
    The one that started my serious weightloss journey was from my dad. He introduced me at a wedding as "the prettiest fat girl you'll ever meet"
    Fail lol.
    Oh well, guess who's dropped the weight and found herself?
  • fuhrmeister
    fuhrmeister Posts: 1,796 Member
    I took so XL cloths to my SIL b/c I wasn't waering them not b/c the were too big or small. She said thanks these will fit I'm teh fattest I've even been, but in that comment she was implying I was fatter....It's hard to explain but it was how she said it....So rude.

    Whenever I give my big clothes away I never say these are way too big on me or anythign like that.

    and voluptuous can be skinny girl code for fat but it doesn't have to be ignor the skinny girl and be proud of your accomplishments.
  • suemar74
    suemar74 Posts: 447 Member
    two weekends ago someone asked me how I was feeling then followed it up with "You look great!" And I was really confused...SHE THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT!!! I mean I can stand to loose a few lbs, but Im still a size 6....anyway THATS what motivated me to get back on track and loose 20 lbs.

    Oh my god! Who SAYS that?!

    I think after all the horror stories I have heard about something like this, even if I walked into a room where a woman had her feet in stirrups with a crowning head visible, I STILL wouldn't ask if she was pregnant.
  • DonnaLFitz
    DonnaLFitz Posts: 270 Member
    My mom used to say "If you can say something nice, don't say nothing at all!" She's the worst though with her compliment wrapped criticisms.

    People should just learn to keep their mouths shut.
  • lt_mrcook
    lt_mrcook Posts: 389 Member
    Heh...He said Boobs!

    When I was in the Navy my B-I-L and his new wife were visiting. One of our friends who was "Voluptous" stopped to say hi and my new S-I-L said "WowW Isn't she a little fat to be in the Navy?" Um, NO! Yeah there were plenty of fat people in the Navy, but just because you have large Boobs (there they are again) and a large butt doesn't mean you're fat...especially not when every other part of you is trim and toned.

    So ask yourself...was she being offensive, or were you taking offense at what she was saying without really knowing what she meant?
    I always thought "voluptuous" carried a bit of confidence in it. Like a sexy, curvy, confident chick.

    I also think "boobs" when I hear voluptuous.... but I think boobs about a lot of stuff, so maybe that doesn't count. Hehe..
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I don't think skinny people that don't work to be skinny understand
    Skinny people are not immune to back-handed compliments. They can be just as sensitive to comments about their weight.
  • TheGreatYaYa
    TheGreatYaYa Posts: 215 Member
    Two years ago at Christmas I was visiting my Mom and she even said, "I've never seen you this big." Thanks, Mom. Just what I needed to hear. And when ever I tell her I've joined a weight loss program, seems like when we talk, she's always more interested in how much weight I've lost than anything else! It really bothers me, so I just don't talk about it anymore.
  • fitplease
    fitplease Posts: 647 Member
    I worked in an inner city school and this one african american women told me,"you're not fat, you're thick. If you were a couple shades darker, you'd be hot". I guess that was a compliment lol

    I believe it is.
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