Side by side photos hurt your fat friends?

whatalazyidiot wrote: »

seltzermint555 wrote: »

Interesting. I have lost (and maintained) a major loss (over 130 lb) and have only shared side by side on social media one time. I took it down after only one day because several people were messaging me things like workout tips and it deeply hurt my feelings. I wasn't asking for their critical feedback, I was celebrating my progress. I chalked that up to me being overly sensitive and didn't do that again.

When I was at my heaviest though (over 300 lb), others' side by side photos were interesting and inspiring to me, not offensive.

However, I did have VERY strong feelings about workplace contests regarding weight loss (the "Biggest Loser" type). I think they are extremely inappropriate and invade employees' privacy. I also think even for those who opt out and do not participate, it creates a terrible atmosphere for anyone who is even slightly overweight and/or uncomfortable with their body for any reason. I really think it's a poor choice for almost any employer to do such a thing. I still feel the same way now as a person who has successfully lost a lot. It's just not appropriate for the workplace!

That's kind of what I'm personally afraid of, and why I refuse to tell anyone on social media that I am losing weight. I will also never post a progress picture (on social media). I will post selfies and if people notice, ok cool, but not making it a thing. I don't need people's constant comments and suggestions.

But to the OP, I have never been offended by someone else's progress or success. I also haven't seen it personally from any of my friends who post that sort of thing. The ONLY thing even remotely close I have personally seen is one person who is very anti-diet who will unfollow/unfriend anyone that talks about their diet/weight loss openly.

hesn92 wrote: »

I didn't get very far into the article because it was one of the dumbest things I have ever read. It's just insane to me. There are a variety of reasons as to why being overweight or obese is damaging to your health. If someone is fat and wants to remain fat, then by all means, that is their decision and I have no issues with that. It's not much different than someone smoking cigarettes and not wanting to quit. Has no affect on my life whatsoever. But the rest of us are not going to hide our accomplishments to protect their feelings. The author of this article needs to grow up.