MY RANT!!!!!

MsCandyLynn
MsCandyLynn Posts: 123
edited October 1 in Motivation and Support
First let me start off by saying I am not trying to offend anyone, however, there are several people on these boards that do exactly that. I browse through these boards quite a bit, and find people all the time who are just starting or even been here for a while and are proud of what they have accomplished or proud that they are able to pick a better food option, however some of you don't see it for that. For example I seen a girl who posted her lunch on here and was extremly proud and it was a healthy lunch however bc of her bread choice MANY of you decided to tell her she was wrong instead of telling her what she did right. yes i know most are trying ot help but they way your posts come off it comes off as more like a put down bc "she didnt eat whole wheat bread" maybe she couldnt afford whole wheat bread at 4bucks a loaf or maybe she doesnt like the taste *i dont know about many of you but i dont like something i wont eat it* but instead of telling her that she did a good job on picking veggies over chips you run her in the ground for white bread..and that is just one example, I see people tellingothers that they are not doing well if they don't wear a HRM..well sorry but some people just flat out can't afford one, and instead of telling them that all there efforts were for nothing howabout saying thats a great job and just leave it at that..What happened to if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all... I know that the majority of you are here to help but it just really bothers me when i see some people thinking they are better than others because they "whole organic" foods homemade never from a can and definatley nothing with HFCS or bc they burned the "EXACT" amount of cals with their HRM..we are all here for the same reason, but we are all different so we will obtain those goal differently just keep that in mind. and no im not here ot put down those of you that use HRM *i do* or eat organic whole type foods i think that is great and if that is for you and it is working then i say keep doing it but just odn't bash those that dont. thank you!! and sorry if i offended anyone
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  • cm2two
    cm2two Posts: 194
    there are *kitten* everywhere...sadly, there's not enough time in the day to give them all a good beatdown.
  • lynnie30
    lynnie30 Posts: 105 Member
    there are *kitten* everywhere...sadly, there's not enough time in the day to give them all a good beatdown.

    This is much nicer than what I was going to say :)
  • teelt13
    teelt13 Posts: 100 Member
    Well said!!!
  • Great Post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    :)
  • theba2il
    theba2il Posts: 548 Member
    *Like* Thnx 4 posting. :flowerforyou:
  • well said and i couldn't agree more.
  • juscallmeb
    juscallmeb Posts: 369 Member
    there are *kitten* everywhere...sadly, there's not enough time in the day to give them all a good beatdown.

    this made me laugh. thank you :)
  • jeffsgal105
    jeffsgal105 Posts: 195 Member
    Thanks for the reminder! A little encouragement can go a LONG way!
  • abby459
    abby459 Posts: 694 Member
    I hear ya....my thought is that at least if they are on this site they are trying!!!
  • runnermel
    runnermel Posts: 278
    agree! get em!! :tongue:
  • Totally agree,there are some idiots on here ,complete know it alls,well they think they are xx
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    there are *kitten* everywhere...sadly, there's not enough time in the day to give them all a good beatdown.

    Can I borrow that? LOL
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    there are *kitten* everywhere...sadly, there's not enough time in the day to give them all a good beatdown.

    :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • karatsd
    karatsd Posts: 35
    EXACTLY! I CAME AND STAYED BECAUSE OF THE KINDNESS AND SUPPORT I RECEIVED MY FIRST DAY BUT LATELY, PEOPLE SEEM SO ....ALMOST POISONED BY THEIR OWN SUCCESS OR SOMETHING
  • avalier
    avalier Posts: 3 Member
    Nice post. Always good to see people who stick up for what's right. I'm new to the site. Been using the Droid app for a few weeks but this is my first time on the site. Haven't seen anything you mentioned yet but sad if it is that much of a problem here.
  • cobarlo14
    cobarlo14 Posts: 582 Member
    I completely understand where your coming from.
    We are living on one salary right now and trying to eat as healthy as possible. Tonights pasta bake is going to have to do as Hubby is home and making dinner(Thank Goodness). As long as I have the calories for it , the scale keeps going down....
    I couldn't give a flying fart in space what any negative commenter feels/ thinks about it...
    encouraging responses welcome and opinions are welcomed, considered and it all comes down to what I/we can do. :)

    No hrm for me....
    no gym membership for me...
    And I am fine with that.

    All good :)

    stay focused and positive!!!
  • Coltsman4ever
    Coltsman4ever Posts: 602 Member
    WORD!
  • hedleyrocks247
    hedleyrocks247 Posts: 185 Member
    Amen!!! And well said!!! Same Journey, Different Paths.....we all have to remember that.....Support, Motivate, Uplift!!!!
  • had3nuf
    had3nuf Posts: 59
    ........and this is why I keep my journal set to private. I make my own food choices..I don't need to run it past anyone for approval...if I eat it and gain or don't lose..hey, that's on me.....and if I don't eat it and lose..or don't gain....bravo for me. Certainly not looking for a pat on the back....and i refuse to have some a-hole who thinks they have it "all together" say "shame on me".....that'll likely result in a cyber beatdown.

    So, I agree with you 100%
  • Kiedrat
    Kiedrat Posts: 8
    Good point and you're very kind to defend her. Some don't realize there are many more obstacles to losing weight than food choice. Having four skinny children and a husband who doesn't believe he's making bad choices it's a challenge just to go grocery shopping.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    If someone gives me their opinion, and I get offended, that's not their problem.
  • sweettoothfairy
    sweettoothfairy Posts: 212 Member
    Great post :smile:
  • Hey there and thanks for sharing your opinion. I am one of those HRM and mostly organic persons. However, with this economy, I certainly know that not everyone can afford the cost of a HRM or to consistently eat organics. Yes, I've heard all the stuff about it's not that much more expensive and that's not true. My food budget went up over 200%. That's my choice. Others don't have the money for that choice. I, too, have seen the snarky, judgemental comments and feel sorry for the persons making them, in that they must not like themselves very much to put down others. Well that and they have the communication skills of a rattle snake :laugh: I only give suggestions when the person is asking for help/support, which is why we are here. Each persons journey is different, each body is different and most of folks at MFP know that thank goodness!
  • lind3400
    lind3400 Posts: 557 Member
    How many of these posts am I gunna see this week....

    Seriously, they're all adults and can fight their own battles.... this site is full of criticism and "meanies"....get used to it
  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    Well said!!! I wrote a blog with a similar rant in which I referred to these whole, all natural, raw, organic, free range chicken toting, hrm people as fitness snobs. Lol....now, I know not all of them are. In a perfect world I would be equipped with all the absolute essentials for optimum weight loss...but hey!! this is the real world! We are not all perfect but at least we are trying.

    And hopefully the fitness gods will not throw lightening bolts at me but..........I ate potato chips at lunch and washed it down with a diet coke. So there, take that!!
  • rodneyderrick
    rodneyderrick Posts: 483 Member
    Heart-rate monitors are so cool. I have one, a very expensive one, but I don't use it. It's part of my GPS watch, and I only use that when I need to time myself. When I think about it, I ran for twenty-five years without one, so I won't suggest you get one unless you really need it, and who needs to spend that kind of money. As far as food is concerned, I love my fruit and veggies. I encourage everybody to eat whole grains, vegetables, and all that good stuff; but I have to be honest, at the end of the day it doesn't matter, because all it takes to lose weight is to eat within your calorie limit. Whenever I post, I hope people take that much from my messages. Log every meal, every sauce, and even the oils, and you'll lose weight without any problem. Therefore, when people eat white bread, I don't cringe. I simply ask, "Did you log it?"
  • withchaco
    withchaco Posts: 1,026 Member
    I think criticism is important and beneficial. You learn a lot from a good critique. The problem is when people care more about correcting an issue than helping the person with the issue. That's when they throw all tact out the window...
  • I think criticism is important and beneficial. You learn a lot from a good critique. The problem is when people care more about correcting an issue than helping the person with the issue. That's when they throw all tact out the window...

    and that was the point that i was trying to make...i think if someone is asking for help by all means help them what you know and works for you however don't tell them they are doing it all wrong because they aren't doing it like you!
  • v_addison
    v_addison Posts: 114 Member
    Thank you so much for your rant!!! Saying what everyone else is feeling. It's comforting knowing that people like you are here to stand up for those people that have been wronged.
  • calmmomw3minimeez
    calmmomw3minimeez Posts: 499 Member
    Good for you girl...I couldn't agree with you more and congrats on speaking out on it!!!
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