March 2019 Self-care Challenge

PKM0515
PKM0515 Posts: 3,089 Member
edited December 19 in Challenges
A new month already! No need to "join", just jump right in and start posting your self-care activities. Let's inspire each other! 🌞
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  • AujCam
    AujCam Posts: 6 Member
    I take a bath most every night and usually put something fragrant and scented in.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,415 Member
    Thanks for this thread! <3

    Drinking hot tea, candlelit and even closed my eyes for 20 min. Resting after work.
  • PKM0515
    PKM0515 Posts: 3,089 Member
    @AujCam, I love taking a bath and haven't done it in years. A goal for 2019, I think.

    @RubyRed427, I like your ideas to unwind and rest after work.
  • PKM0515
    PKM0515 Posts: 3,089 Member
    Today's self care: having my hair colored. I like my hair stylist so much; we had a great conversation today. AND I'm so happy with how my hair turned out. I really needed a lift, and I got it. :)
  • Shortandsweeter
    Shortandsweeter Posts: 1 Member
    edited March 2019
    Heck! I need to think of something. At the moment it's a glass or two of white wine, but I need to find an alternative :/:D
  • ElC_76
    ElC_76 Posts: 3,054 Member
    I think i need to follow quitely in here too... <3
  • ElC_76
    ElC_76 Posts: 3,054 Member
    Shortandsweeter wrote: »
    Heck! I need to think of something. At the moment it's a glass or two of white wine, but I need to find an alternative :/:D

    Hope u are ok,.. go for a drive to a friend's house.. or shops.. maybe a walk.. or mediate to a meditation app.. xo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,415 Member
    edited March 2019
    Self care (also self preservation): Set boundaries for toxic people in your life. I am experience such venom from a family member about my divorce, I am going to set a firm boundary to limit contact.

    P.s. If anyone needs a calming youtube therapist video (advice) for dealing with a difficult person: Search for “ Jerry Wise Relationship Systems”. I am currently watching a video called “Adult Children of Narcissists”.
  • samathes
    samathes Posts: 55 Member
    I always try to fit yoga in on a stressful day
  • happygirly77
    happygirly77 Posts: 9 Member
    I just started Yoga and love it!
  • jmgr9993
    jmgr9993 Posts: 41 Member
    So the family and I went furniture shopping tonight. I got a huge bonus from work and decided I was going to spend it on something I want. Not what everyone else thinks I should do with the money. So along the back wall of one of the many furniture stores we explored my youngest found a reclining back massager. Oh man 20 mins of sitting in this chair I walked away feeling amazing. Not only did it massage it gave off heat too. I am seriously leaning toward going back and splurging on it. My husband said any time someone comes to the house we can charge them to sit in the chair like they do at the mall lol 😂 over time the chair would pay for itself!!
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    RubyRed427 wrote: »
    This week has been better. Setting the boundary with difficult parent is working although she is probably wondering why I’m so quiet.
    Another thing I have tried which has been recommended by @Orphia and some philosophy books I read is to “be an observer” and watch my thoughts float by. I have not reacted poorly or thoughtlessly when slighted by friends on a text group chat. I just sat back and watched my thoughts and calmed myself down. Saying this is not a big deal.

    I also restarted my mantra “Life loves me and I love life”. I have been getting into a “woe is me” rut last week and that has to stop. The more you think you are miserable, the more you feel miserable.

    Finally, I got my eyebrows waxed, teeth dyed, manicure, bubble bath taken, and little tiny things that make me feel good.

    So happy to hear this worked for you! xxoo Wow, you did brilliantly!


    "I have been getting into a “woe is me” rut last week and that has to stop. The more you think you are miserable, the more you feel miserable."

    So true!!!

    I've had to set boundaries with a parent this week too!

    A few weeks ago, I realised a huge cause of me suppressing so much emotion all my life, and it's been quite tumultuous to release that anxiety. So much anger has been letting itself out when I've been sleepless at night and when running and walking.

    I've always been "the quiet/anxious one", and my older sister "the angry/bossy" one.

    The past 6 months we've both been making huge progress in mindfulness.

    I've learnt to be more outspoken, and she's learnt to be more compassionate.

    Both approaches have an effect if you know how to use them appropriately and constructively.

    I sent all sisters and mum an email about many other realisations that have been going on in the family dynamics, and they said it was really good and gave them a lot to think about.


    "Saying this is not a big deal".

    I've got chills. So this.


    Today I had a nice lunch with mum, and we managed a productive conversation.

    I've been accepting that people have a lot on in their lives, and it only leads to disappointment if I expect everyone to give my issues validation.

    I'm so happy to have my psychologist and GP to have been able to talk all this through in depth with this week. And a very dear friend asked me how I was today, and it was such a relief.

    And it's so lovely to be able to sound off in here and get support. Love you.
  • thisPGHlife
    thisPGHlife Posts: 440 Member
    Yesterday I went to the movies with my husband and then to dinner with friends. Such a wonderful day!!! I ended up sleeping really late this morning but I got over 8 hours!! Now if I can just do that consistently but get up at a reasonable hour, haha. The other day I also cleaned out all of my makeup brushes. Saturday I splurged and got some Fenty Beauty concealer. It's a perfect match for me and so luxurious. Definitely worth the money and not as expensive as I thought it would be.

    Earlier in the week my husband and I picked up some hyacinths and tulips. The highest since were in the bedroom but I had him bring them downstairs because they fully opened up two or three days ago. The smell is so amazing and I love that I can be sitting eating breakfast and randomly catch a whiff of them.
  • alrhodes26
    alrhodes26 Posts: 4 Member
    After putting the kids on the bus I did my workout, now having a cup of coffee watching my show before getting started on my online schooling!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,415 Member
    @Orphia Happy you had a nice lunch with mum. It’s taken me decades to realize that my mom still thinks of me as a child. So, it’s time I grow out of that role, and keep her at a distance for my well being. I have to take charge of my mental wellbeing... and continue to see my therapist. (I did today for our monthly session.)

    Self care: therapy, leisurely walk, had gummy bears instead of alcohol, and purchased plane tickets to Florida for a trip. Now to get my body into shape! Xo
  • thisPGHlife
    thisPGHlife Posts: 440 Member
    I've started doing origami and I found a cicada that's easy but super cute. I'm going to make a took if them and start "stabling" friends this summer.
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    skram01 wrote: »
    I've started doing origami and I found a cicada that's easy but super cute. I'm going to make a took if them and start "stabling" friends this summer.

    ???

    Pretty sure predictive text mangled that. :smile:

    xx


    You guys might like this, if you're like me and a while ago decided not to stress so much about relentless self-improvement.

    I'm pretty happy with how well I've been doing, and the things I own, and just want to stay that way.

    https://www.raptitude.com/2018/12/why-the-depth-year-was-my-best-year/

  • dancerlady399
    dancerlady399 Posts: 7 Member
    On the weekend, I turn on my dance playlist and workout / rockout for about an hour—no rules, just dance like nobody’s watching (because nobody is). It may not be everyone’s thing, but it makes my heart happy.
  • _bombshell2be_
    _bombshell2be_ Posts: 39 Member
    I’ve started drinking Celery Juice on an empty stomach 1st thing in the morning everyday and it’s been so beneficial. Eczema has minimized!!! I would encourage everyone to look up the health benefits! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
  • thisPGHlife
    thisPGHlife Posts: 440 Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    skram01 wrote: »
    I've started doing origami and I found a cicada that's easy but super cute. I'm going to make a took if them and start "stabling" friends this summer.

    ???

    Pretty sure predictive text mangled that. :smile:

    xx


    You guys might like this, if you're like me and a while ago decided not to stress so much about relentless self-improvement.

    I'm pretty happy with how well I've been doing, and the things I own, and just want to stay that way.

    https://www.raptitude.com/2018/12/why-the-depth-year-was-my-best-year/

    You are right. That was supposed to be "attacking" friends. Haha. Yesterday I found some motivation for getting smaller. I found a shirt I love on clearance. I got it in a size that should fit me close to goal. My husband and I also went to a talk on training for a challenge I'm going to be doing and I got two pairs of hiking socks. This evening I am going to speak my feet and do my nails.
  • MadisonMolly2017
    MadisonMolly2017 Posts: 11,157 Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    skram01 wrote: »
    I've started doing origami and I found a cicada that's easy but super cute. I'm going to make a took if them and start "stabling" friends this summer.

    ???

    Pretty sure predictive text mangled that. :smile:

    xx


    You guys might like this, if you're like me and a while ago decided not to stress so much about relentless self-improvement.

    I'm pretty happy with how well I've been doing, and the things I own, and just want to stay that way.

    https://www.raptitude.com/2018/12/why-the-depth-year-was-my-best-year/

    @Orphia
    Thank you for sharing this!
    It’s a perfect for my Depth Year to begin: March 20, 2019!
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »
    Orphia wrote: »
    skram01 wrote: »
    I've started doing origami and I found a cicada that's easy but super cute. I'm going to make a took if them and start "stabling" friends this summer.

    ???

    Pretty sure predictive text mangled that. :smile:

    xx


    You guys might like this, if you're like me and a while ago decided not to stress so much about relentless self-improvement.

    I'm pretty happy with how well I've been doing, and the things I own, and just want to stay that way.

    https://www.raptitude.com/2018/12/why-the-depth-year-was-my-best-year/

    @Orphia
    Thank you for sharing this!
    It’s a perfect for my Depth Year to begin: March 20, 2019!

    @MadisonMolly2017 :heart: xxoo :heart: U
  • thisPGHlife
    thisPGHlife Posts: 440 Member
    On Wednesday I was cleared to ease back into activity. I am so jazzed!! Yesterday I went to the outlets and found new hiking shoes for only $50 so I got them in both colors. I will need them since I'm putting in a crap Tom of miles this year!! Today I am back to reduced calories. It is going to be super difficult because I'm dropping 1000 calories per day. But it's where I need to be and I need to stop over eating it if boredom.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,415 Member
    Self care: Nearly every day I have been journaling. Just typing things that come to mind on my ipad. I have also been reading old entries. And having some “aha” moments.

    Painted nails last night. Stood on the cold stoop this morning and did some stretches during sunrise. Will make some juice now (carrot celery). I know the craze is “celery juice”. But I’ll add some carrots too!
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