Gaining Lots of Weight Is TOTES the New "IT" Thing...

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  • This woman gave up.... And she's trying to make it okay. I did the same thing once upon a time. I had gotten well above 300 lbs and felt like 'If you don't like me for who I am, screw you.' I started seeking out the Fat Acceptance communities and touting things like *Fat & Proud!*

    It's just a defense mechanism. You feel like you can't possibly lose all the weight that you've put on, so instead, you decide to go in the other direction. It's a lot less work.

    I feel bad for her, that she doesn't realize that she *CAN* do this. And I don't know about this woman, but I know at least one of those women that's going for the world record has kids - I feel most sorry for the children.

    I couldn't agree more with this. You can see it in her post -- she says she's healthy, but has a lot of medical assistance which she describes as keeping her healthy. Faulty view of health is apparent!!
    If she's happy or not - I dunno - but I definitely see that same thought pattern I had, "can't beat 'em? join 'em!" and "Why is being thin the only kind of sexy? Big Girls Need Love, too!" etc etc...all because I didn't think losing weight was ever going to be a reality for me because it's VERY difficult and takes a LOT of work.
  • NicLiving
    NicLiving Posts: 261 Member
    SMDH She is delusional! Clearly she doesn't know what these words mean: HEALTHY, PAMPERED or DENIAL!!
    Being pushed around in a wheelchair or scooter is not my idea of being pampered. Being morbidly obese is not healthy and if she thinks she's healthy, then she's is in denial.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    Yes, she has given up on herself...which is what one has to do in order to accept being totally dependent on someone else. The thing that I find odd is that she considers her gaining weight as her fetish when really the fetish (or sexual interest) is her partner's. The craving she has is the attention (pampering) she gets from him. For the partners, it's a control issue. I find an independent average-weight woman and she doesn't need me, so I can't be a "man" in that relationship, but if I find an extremely overweight woman (and keep her that way), then she will always need me and I am fulfilled. All fetishes are derived by some unmet need the person has...foot fetishes go deeper than an affinity for toe jam (*joke...sorry, I had to). The sad part to me is that she is even confused about the situation and her part in it. I've read and heard about (mostly) women in this situation and they usually recognize and understand why they're doing it. I mean, they know that what they want is a man who is interested in them sexually, who reassures and appreciates them. Their ideas of extreme sexual fulfillment tend to be limited to slim to none because the weight is usually something they've been dealing with their whole lives that has kept them out of the sexual loop. I don't know...I feel sexier as I lose weight and less so whenever I would gain it back, but I have also never been in NEED of attention, even at my heaviest. I do suppose, however, if you've never gotten the attention and treatment you see other women getting, then you take it when it comes and do whatever it takes (even becoming bedridden) to hold onto it.

    Makes me sad.
  • garlic7girl
    garlic7girl Posts: 2,236 Member
    Yes, some people don't want to exercise or mind being slightly plump but she is a little self-delusional...I think depressed just by statement of 'I am saving money because obese people live shorter' I think a cry for help. Like a kid that is wild and does self-destructive things on purpose but really wants hlep but don't know how or too embarassed to say it.
  • jenny95662
    jenny95662 Posts: 997 Member
    So she goes on and on about all of the health issues she has, and all the medications she is on, and how she needs oxygen and uses a scooter.....but then she claims to be HEALTHY!!!!!!!!!!!! DAMNNNNN. This is definitely at home in the motivation section, as I just got a *kitten* ton of motivation to get up again tomorrow and work out! Delusional people.

    LMAO this was excact thoughts when reading this!!!
  • angiolm
    angiolm Posts: 52
    UnderCoverShyGirl and KnottyJen - you are both smart cookies. Well said - both of you.
  • vicki915
    vicki915 Posts: 38 Member
    1) Welcome to America were there is "Freedom of speech" .

    2) It's EASIER to GAIN the weight !!!

    3) WHY the HELL was she even on a FITNESS/DIET page in the first place?????

    :laugh:
  • Britt2Fitjrny
    Britt2Fitjrny Posts: 558 Member
    I once saw a story about a very large woman (I can't remember how large, but hundreds of pounds large) who dated only "chubby chaser" guys that she found online. She had a relationship going with one of those guys (He was average size) and their combined goal was for her to gain enough weight to where she needed to be bedridden. It was a sexual fetish type thing - as she would need to be completely dependent on her boyfriend for everything once she was no longer able to care for herself due to size.

    I was amazed...

    I saw this!!! I couldn't stop watching it!! It was so sickning! No one is there right mind would ever want that for themself. But atleast it made a damn good TV episode........ :noway:
  • I think any extreme whether it be to lose weight in an unhealthy way, such as anorexia/bulimia, and/or to gain weight is a mental illness. I stand by that. I think (simply my opinion, not based on fact) the women of such big weights have given up and decided to just get bigger since it would be easier than losing the weight - they might as well embrace it. Being immobile and unable to leave your home, that's not living, that's being a recluse and avoiding the reality of your issues.

    I wish people wouldn't be judged but, unfortunately, if you breathe, you will be judged. Especially if you put yourself out there on the internet and make a news story of your weight gain.
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    I understand the draw of bondage and masochism, especially for women. We spend our lives trying to organise and control ourselves and others, so to let go of that, to have no power, can be a huge release.

    However, being bound by your own body is such a mind-blowing extreme. Even a (voluntary) sex slave might have a 'safe word', a way to decide they've had enough. For this lady, changing her mind would not change her situation, rather it would simply make her miserable, so she has to be very determined to stick to her 'dreams'.

    To have found the OPs blog, she must have been trawling the net for the chance to defend those beliefs she has invested so much in.
  • ursy87
    ursy87 Posts: 287
    This actually made me feel quite sad. as if she has 'given up', she knows she is killing herself, and deep down feels its too late for change. All the excuses are a smokescreen, pampering, fetish, sexual fulfillment, as if,' look at the plus points they fully outweigh all the negative', the loss of mobility, need for oxygen, tons of meds, strain on the body.

    I know as an overweight woman myself, I got to the point where things got too much, tired, illness etc and thought, 'NO MORE', has this lady just ignored the voice inside her?
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    Wow. For once I'm lost for words.

    Having just teetered on the edge of obesity myself, I don't see the luxury of breathlessness, discomfort and the inability to do a full range of activity. If it can indeed be labelled a fetish, it is an extreme one that involves deliberately disabling oneself, akin to the fetishists who amputate their own limbs for sexual gratification.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    I think that the people who encourage this behavior (I've heard they are called the feeders or feed-ies) should be arrested for attempted manslaughter.

    More like assisted suicide(can't remember where this is legal...if at all)

    Switzerland.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    I'm suprised at how well written it is... but is hasnt made me think that getting grossly fat is a good idea...! and there are plenty of parts that flag up the possiblilty of a mental illness...

    it really does take all sorts....
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