Would you date someone you work with ?

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  • Mean_Spice
    Mean_Spice Posts: 279 Member
    NO!
    I work for one of the largest hiring organization in the USA and its a no no. I am a manager and the executives would be be on me like stink on a pig.
    Beside it would be weird. My wife for the 47 years might not appreciate it (she might be a tad angry).
  • kali31337
    kali31337 Posts: 1,048 Member
    It depends on the situation.

    When I was younger and a food service worker/bartender, I met my ex of 5.5 years at work. I was front of house and he was back of house. We then worked together at 2 more jobs after that. We specifically made sure that nothing ever affected the job and it worked as we worked different types of jobs. I actually had a boss who refused to hire him herself and made someone else take the blame if it didn't work out. She said we were the only ones that she would hire again because there was no drama. The biggest issue for work was that we would often ask to take the same days off which they didn't like.

    Now that I'm in a career, I think I wouldn't do it again. There is just too much to risk now that I didn't have before...
  • danavelling
    danavelling Posts: 1,224 Member
    I have and married him. We’re still married!!
  • thanos5
    thanos5 Posts: 513 Member
    that sounds like the exact opposite of a good idea.
  • CoffeeAndContour
    CoffeeAndContour Posts: 1,466 Member
    No. I need my space.
  • hunnahs26
    hunnahs26 Posts: 288 Member
    Sounds horrible
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  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
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    I have. Twice. The first time I dated the art director of another magazine published by my company. So while we worked in the same office, we did not work together. We dated a couple of months and ended on friendly terms, so it never really was awkward...even going out together in a group afterwards.

    The second colleague I dated was actually a freelance graphic designer who came to work on my magazine (different company). Our relationship was probably the worst kept secret ever. But it was a pretty incestuous company. Everyone was sleeping with everyone and there were several marriages as well. We continued our relationship even after I moved on to another job. Until he left New York to go to grad school. He was actually my longest relationship up until my current one. But we are still friends now, and have both married other people.

    I obviously don't have a problem with dating a coworker, although I think if it is a direct report or supervisor it can be dangerous. I know a number of people who have met their partners on the job. After all, it is where people spend most of their waking hours, and it does create some common bond.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    yeah, sure... I have. It was cool; no worries.

    *shrug
  • busyPK
    busyPK Posts: 3,788 Member
    No. This response is mainly the fact that I work in HR and for my role I cannot be too close with anyone at the company as I may need to investigate, write-up or fire them. I love my work (and the pay), but it does stink that I cannot really be friends with anyone at work.
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    The only time I did that was when I was younger and just working a job where if things got awkward, I could easily just find another job. I wouldn't do it in a career type of thing...besides, I think my wife may be a bit put off if I had a side piece.
  • danavelling
    danavelling Posts: 1,224 Member
    Wives can be sensitive like that😂
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  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    JustPassingTime wrote: »
    If you wanna date someone, Id say go for it. NO RAGRETS!!!

    Only God will juge me!
  • Keep_on_cardio
    Keep_on_cardio Posts: 4,166 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    JustPassingTime wrote: »
    @TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.

    Would you be where you are now if it weren't for them?

    lmao interesting question
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    😆😆
  • Keep_on_cardio
    Keep_on_cardio Posts: 4,166 Member
    I like separating work from my personal life. Then again, if I ever wanted to cross those lines, I would be fully prepared for a back up plan (new job and or capable of shutting down gossip ect) before I took that risk.

  • danavelling
    danavelling Posts: 1,224 Member
    My husband and I pretended we hated each other when we worked together! It was a shocker when we came out public with our relationship
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    MistressSara wrote: »
    i would but shouldn’t

    I can say this about approximately 83.7% of every single thing I do in life.
  • redfish33
    redfish33 Posts: 6 Member
    Question is moot for me, because I am happily married already. Hypothetically though, NOPE. Two cops dating never works out. Both personality types are generally too competitive and type A to mix. Plus, it's tough if you are both in the same department for scheduling and such. Bosses hate it.
  • StormToday
    StormToday Posts: 46 Member
    mkbrockman wrote: »
    No
    Always leads to trouble. Imagine your co-worker, who’s also your ex talking about how you are in the bed at work

    Why are you talking about how anyone is in bed at work? 🤷
  • newmeadow
    newmeadow Posts: 1,295 Member
    The workplace is the most natural place to meet someone, feel attracted, fall in love and get married. The workplace has always been a hotbed of romance and a natural place to meet a marital partner. It's only the folks under the age of 50 who have become so careerist that they would shy away from a potential love match that got sparked at work in favor of a "career". Eyeroll. Plus it's good because when you work with your crush you can find out through the grapevine whether he or she is a pervert.
  • Nerdswrkout2_1978
    Nerdswrkout2_1978 Posts: 147 Member
    If I worked with Jessica Alba, I could see me dating me someone at work. Just saying...
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  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    Come to think of it, I've never dated anyone I worked with.
    There are many factors to consider, so I think the specifics of the particular situation would dictate the answer.
  • Nerdswrkout2_1978
    Nerdswrkout2_1978 Posts: 147 Member
    CallHerMoonchild wrote: »
    Nerdswrkout2_1978 wrote: »
    If I worked with Jessica Alba, I could see me dating me someone at work. Just saying...

    Same

    <3
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I'm married so speaking hypothetically, but no...at this stage in my life I wouldn't. I'm 42, not a hardcore career person but I do have a job I take seriously and I've been there for 6 years. I wouldn't want to mess that up in any way.

    When I was much younger (teens/early 20s) I dated a few coworkers when I was working in retail stores and other part-time jobs that I didn't take as seriously. Back then, it wasn't a huge deal to date a coworker because neither of us were really committed to the job long-term and if it didn't work out and there was awkwardness, one or both of us could quit. It never came to that but I also never got remotely serious with anyone at work.

    I just think it's too risky. If I were single and truly "fell for" a coworker, I could see dating. But I think in most cases, if it became pretty serious we would be jointly making a decision for one person to move on to a different company. Just my view.
  • Tankiscool
    Tankiscool Posts: 11,105 Member
    Nah I prefer to not *kitten* where I eat.

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