what mindset or tips have made you be successful in losing weight?

Everyone is different, but for me: Log everything! Get a scale and weigh everything until you learn what a portion looks like.

It helps to have lower calorie snacks for particular cravings when you can’t fit certain foods into your calories - for example I eat Greek yogurt with berries instead of ice cream, and salted radishes instead of chips.

Your battle with night eating reminds me of another tip: pay attention not just to food, but to situations, places, and even people which lead you to overeat. I changed my driving route so that I didn’t pass the gas station where I used to buy Icees every day until I stopped feeling a pull every time I drove by. I told my husband, who is a legendarily slow eater, that I was not going to remain at the table watching him eat for a half hour after I finish. I eat, I remain talking afterwards for fifteen minutes, then I leave. It may have been rude but it saved my sanity not being tempted to get seconds or eat off his plate, when I was still hungry but finished with my meal.

I prefer night eating so i save calories/walk extra so i can night eat in bulk.

Also a mindset i struggle with is pack in a solid healthy meal if i am snacky because im way less likely to be making stupid food choices when full of a solid meal of potatoes chicken and brussel sprouts (for example) which i can get in for like 300-350 calories. (before id be hungry and craving chocolate and be like, but if i eat a meal i have no calories for chocolate....and then overeat chocolate and starve because no calories left and its lead to a bad spiral of stupid over a few days where im hungry and it could have been minimized by having chocolate and the meal)

I always put off my meal just a bit longer. Like prep the food and then sit it on the counter chug a glass of water and wait just one more hour before i cook it. Spread it out. I recently found out i love greek yogurt with a smores granola bar crumbled in which i can have for 210 calories between meals. Find a healthy satisfying snack you like to have between meals so you dont feel saddened by vegetables. lol. Eat to fuel your body and making good choices becomes much simpler.

I also walk first thing before i eat then come home and have a solid meal with lots of veggies because then iv started my day exercising and with a healthy meal so im not starving all day and i feel like a grown *kitten* adult and i want to continue to make good choices. Try to think of things you CAN do vs things you cant. There is nothing i technically cant do, But i choose to do what makes me feel adult and healthy and good about myself the majority of the time so that when i choose to do/eat something less healthy or high calorie i dont need to feel bad because i know overall i make more good choices thn bad, And i will continue to move more steps forward thn i do back because of it.

I also decided that six "mini meals" - or kind of always snacking through my day - was miserable for me. It left me never truly full. So I really do eat three large meals per day instead, which allows me to go a few hours without thinking about food.

Dont let one "mess up" lead to a fully messed up day. Eating a large breakfast with friends doesnt need to lead to a huge lunch and dinner and snacks. Eating to much chocolate doesnt suddenly make the day a waste and mise will eat cake to. A bad meal doesnt need to mean a bad day.

Whenever I'm on a health kick and losing weight, I find that I start taking care of myself better. Like using better body washes or a new face cream sort of helps keep me motivated when the weight feels slow to come off. I am more willing to put in extra time on myself and it helps keep me happily on the wagon.

I've also started prepping 500 calorie "snack packs" with berries, nuts, cheese, olives, meats and a boiled egg to graze on in the evenings when I feel a snack attack hitting.

Consistency, not perfection.

I’ve learned how important it is to plan and be prepared.

I quit refined sugar, processed foods and anything that has refined sugar as an ingredient. I don't eat meals that come in a can or a box. I don't eat fast food. This eliminated cravings and reduced my appetite. If I eat out, I eat the same things I can make at home myself, so I know what I'm getting. I eat 98% one ingredient foods.

I've developed a dozen or more 300 to 600 calorie meals with plenty of macro and micro nutrients. I switch them up to prevent boredom. I eat things like beef stew, pan fried chicken, pork chops, sausage and peppers, mixed vegetables, fruits and berries, oats and flax meal, nuts and dates, garden salads with cheese and avocado, and savory soups. I don't take any supplements, shakes or energy drinks.

I look at eating as maintenance. I eat two to three times every day. Because my appetite is suppressed the next meal is not something that is eagerly anticipated. Sometimes I have to interrupt my activities to eat. Sometimes I'll skip a meal rather than stop what I'm doing.

I don't look at food as a reward. I'm not denying myself anything. I'm making healthy choices. I eat to reach my goals. I don't "eat back exercise calories".

I'm developing a regular exercise routine. I walk a mile to warm up, then I spend 1-1/2 hours weight training, 3 to 4 days a week.

I started (this time) the first week of January. Not a week has gone by that I haven't lost weight. I started at 307 pounds and weighed in today at 265 pounds. I don't get hungry, I don't crave, and I haven't stalled or hit any plateaus.

I've lost weight in the past by eating anything I wanted, just in moderation, counting calories. For me it was always unsustainable and the weight always came back. This time I think I've developed a winning strategy that's working for me.