Any ladies or gentleman find true love and a partner after age 30?
I’m about to turn 30 in a month and am single af. Last relationship ended 7 months ago.
My love life has been pretty rocky. My college love/soulmate unexpectedly passed away when I was 23 after 4 years together and I’ve never really found anyone who quite compares in terms of kindness, intelligence and overall awesomeness. A few months after he died, I fell in love again. What started out as a fairytale turned into a 5 year long roller coaster of physical and emotional abuse that finally ended in July 2017 after we moved in and got engaged. I started another relationship with a very decent man in late 2017 that ended very amicably this past fall.
I know i definitely need some single time so I am just concentrating on living my best life and having fun. I’ve started dating again and am getting discouraged that I’m 30 and haven’t yet found the right guy. I recognize I have time and don’t need a man to be happy but I would eventually like to find someone. I irrationally wonder if it’s too late. Anyone been in a similar boat? How did it work out for you?
My love life has been pretty rocky. My college love/soulmate unexpectedly passed away when I was 23 after 4 years together and I’ve never really found anyone who quite compares in terms of kindness, intelligence and overall awesomeness. A few months after he died, I fell in love again. What started out as a fairytale turned into a 5 year long roller coaster of physical and emotional abuse that finally ended in July 2017 after we moved in and got engaged. I started another relationship with a very decent man in late 2017 that ended very amicably this past fall.
I know i definitely need some single time so I am just concentrating on living my best life and having fun. I’ve started dating again and am getting discouraged that I’m 30 and haven’t yet found the right guy. I recognize I have time and don’t need a man to be happy but I would eventually like to find someone. I irrationally wonder if it’s too late. Anyone been in a similar boat? How did it work out for you?
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I'm still single after my divorce. Haven't had the time or opportunity to date. I'm 38. I have 2 kids. I have no options available and may just be past my sell-by date
My ex-sister-in-law got married in Feb at the age of 35 or something. So there is still hope for you.0 -
I was in a ten year relationship from 20 -30. When that relationship ended I was pretty much dating for the first time ever and horrified at how "dating" worked these days (hook-up apps etc). I decided to just focus on exactly what you said, living my best life and having fun instead of worrying about finding a partner. During that time I really learned a ton about myself and through lot's of casual dates I learned what was most important to me in a partnership. A year ago I met an amazing man who I see myself with for the long run. Don't lose hope! Focus on yourself and your happiness and love will find you when it's time.4
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I'm married but always on the look-out for that someone special.13
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My grandma got married at 88. It’s never too late.8
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Keladelphia wrote: »I was in a ten year relationship from 20 -30. When that relationship ended I was pretty much dating for the first time ever and horrified at how "dating" worked these days (hook-up apps etc). I decided to just focus on exactly what you said, living my best life and having fun instead of worrying about finding a partner. During that time I really learned a ton about myself and through lot's of casual dates I learned what was most important to me in a partnership. A year ago I met an amazing man who I see myself with for the long run. Don't lose hope! Focus on yourself and your happiness and love will find you when it's time.
Aw thank you! How old were you and how did you meet your partner? If you don’t mind me asking!0 -
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
...and I found her. A magical redhead whose talents in the pleasurable arts would rival any of Littlefinger's best but whose mind will eventually be revered above Hawking or Einstein.2 -
JustPassingTime wrote: »
Duh, look up. Freakin' aces.1 -
I met my current boyfriend shortly after I turned 29 (it will be 2 years this month). My sister met her husband when she was 30 (5 years this September)1
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I'd say you are more likely to find a true partner later in life rather than you 20s. Gives you time to realize who you are and what you want and need in someone. Been single for a while now and I have really met some great men...maybe the real "one" is out there5
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JustPassingTime wrote: »
I'm Mormon.1 -
Keladelphia wrote: »I was in a ten year relationship from 20 -30. When that relationship ended I was pretty much dating for the first time ever and horrified at how "dating" worked these days (hook-up apps etc). I decided to just focus on exactly what you said, living my best life and having fun instead of worrying about finding a partner. During that time I really learned a ton about myself and through lot's of casual dates I learned what was most important to me in a partnership. A year ago I met an amazing man who I see myself with for the long run. Don't lose hope! Focus on yourself and your happiness and love will find you when it's time.
Aw thank you! How old were you and how did you meet your partner? If you don’t mind me asking!
I was single for 2.5 years after that long term relationship ended. I went on about 100 dates during that time and I always knew by the first or second date that the guy wasn't the right fit for me (or that I wouldn't be the right fit for him). I met my current partner when I was 32 and a half and though I was hesitant to think it I knew after our first few conversations that he would likely be in my life for a long time. Edit to add we met on a dating app (Bumble). He was the only guy that I ever messaged first on a dating app.1 -
Been single since 25 I’m now 30... wondering the same 🥵3
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I was 35 when I met my now-husband, who was 47 at the time.2
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I was married for 16 years and separated two years ago this month, divorce finalized in October 2018. I had no intention of finding love, but it found me in the form of someone who was my complete opposite of what I thought my "type" was. He has literally changed my life, and gives me the support and kindness I never experienced in my marriage.
Stop looking, don't buy into the "type" hype, and let things happen organically. I met my guy when I was 43. I truly believe he's the one I was destined to be with.5 -
JustPassingTime wrote: »Isn't it funny how people work? Some people feels trap and wants out then some are desperately wanting in.
Be sure to get consent before you start feeling up traps, Uncle Joe.2 -
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KinkJarfold wrote: »I was 35 when I got married. Yes, my first. We just celebrated our 38th.
Great looking couple! God bless!
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100% agree with this. I met my now hubs when I was 29 and got married at 33. Dating in my 20s was a disaster, especially guys who were my age. My hubs is 10 years older than me and it was much better dating him than younger/immature men who still just wanna sow their wild oats with anyone they can.I'd say you are more likely to find a true partner later in life rather than you 20s. Gives you time to realize who you are and what you want and need in someone. Been single for a while now and I have really met some great men...maybe the real "one" is out there0 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
...and I found her. A magical redhead whose talents in the pleasurable arts would rival any of Littlefinger's best but whose mind will eventually be revered above Hawking or Einstein.
that’s better ❤️1 -
I was previously married from age 25-35.
But I met my current husband and love of my life at 35.
He was 31 when we met, and although he'd dated quite a lot he had only one *serious* relationship before me and that was at age 21-24.
I think there are advantages to being a little older when you meet. When I think back on my first marriage we struggled a lot with just normal life stuff, navigating jobs and finances and watching our friends "grow up"...so many changes from 25-35. With my current husband, I feel like we have a lot more time & energy for each other and new adventures. We're more stable emotionally & financially. It's great!
FWIW, kids were never in my plans and never will be so I know that does change things in some ways.2 -
Is that even possible?
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I met my husband when I was 30. We've been married 20 years now and are still super happy. 2
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I met the love of my life and husband of 14 years 16 years ago at age 35.1
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I was 36 when I met my wife. I proposed on the second date. We married when I was 38. I will be 65 in a couple of months and I can't picture a life without her. Everything I have achieved has been because of her.
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TheRoadDog wrote: »I was 36 when I met my wife. I proposed on the second date. We married when I was 38. I will be 65 in a couple of months and I can't picture a life without her. Everything I have achieved has been because of her.
Lovely story and couple! Wish you many more years of health and happiness!1 -
tracieknits wrote: »I met my husband when I was 30. We've been married 20 years now and are still super happy.
This gives me hope. Here’s to many more years of health and happiness!
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I was 35 and had just divorced my first husband as he was unfaithful. I moved out with my 2 yr old into a flat and 11 days after my divorce papers came through in the post I met my second husband. I wasn't even looking for anyone so soon.
I'd done it "properly" first time round. Dated for 2 years, big white wedding etc..but it ended anyway.
So second time around I had a what the heck life is short attitude.
Met him on a blind date and my husband proposed after a week and a half of dating and I said yes. I met him June 4th and my son was born June 4th following year at age 36, then another daughter at age 38. So I remarried and had a baby within a year. He has always treated my eldest girl as his own too. We are still happily married at 60.
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I'm 38. No luck yet. But know of a lady doctor who met her other half on a cruise at age 50. Given the issues my younger sisters have had with long term boyfriends/husbands I feel no great loss.
But I am working on improving my appearance. I know you're just meant to be you and others should love you just the way you are, but I'm seriously greying and dress in cheap, cat hair covered jumpers and dodgy trousers. So I'll be getting my hair dyed properly soon, just started wearing light make up again, losing some weight and built up a capsule wardrobe via ebay/ sales. I've used/am using these as treats for hitting weight loss goals as I go along.
I am, unfortunately, just one of the world's plain folk. I'm well traveled and with plenty to share and I'm inquisitive but that doesn't help when you fail at the first hurdle of good old physical attraction. Not bitter. Much like weight loss, it's something I have the power to change so I'm stopping blaming men and getting myself together.1
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