PEOPLE SUCK. NEAR GOAL EXPERIENCES.

PalmettoparkGuy
PalmettoparkGuy Posts: 212 Member
edited October 1 in Motivation and Support
I'm almost at my goal and in the best shape I've ever been in my life. I find it so annoying that people a year ago that were rude or didn't pay any attention to me when I was fat and very out of shape, suddenly want to talk to you and be social. I remember a year ago when I started trying to jog, I would get crazy looks from the fit people that were running, cars honked in crosswalks like I was in the way, don't even get me started with the comments, it was pretty uncomfortable trying to exercise outside. Fast forward a year later, I could run 6 miles and bike 30 and pass those same people like they're standing still. Those people that had an attitude now want to wave when you run past and try to stop and talk. Amazingly, cars have much more patience and always give you the right of way like they're supposed to. People in my community that I've seen for years suddenly are trying to socialize and build relationships. The same people that I've attempted to flirt with in the past are suddenly flirting with me. The funny thing is, I find myself having such an attitude with these people because they just seem so shallow to me. I guess being fat and out of shape is still fresh in my mind. I have to admit, it is very satisfying looking at those same people that in my mind were fit, and now I'm much more fit than they are.
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  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    Run away from those superficial sadistic a-holes!!!!!!
  • rachjones2011
    rachjones2011 Posts: 19 Member
    smh...that's people for ya!
  • Amo_Angelus
    Amo_Angelus Posts: 604 Member
    I vote not forgetting their behaviour when you were fat. There's a reason they care now and didn't back then, it's because they ARE superficial and you don't need them
  • bethdris
    bethdris Posts: 1,090 Member
    I sooo understand where your coming from....People who wouldn' t look my way 6 months ago, now fall in front of me (okay not literally, but you get the point)...Im TOTALLY unimpressed and just laugh!

    My husband of almost 12 years loved me at 283 pounds as he loves me at 158 pounds!! :)
  • minadeathclutch
    minadeathclutch Posts: 375 Member
    GOOD FOR YOU!!! people are freaking mean!!
  • evilbanks
    evilbanks Posts: 166
    Dude, don't let that shiit get to you so much. Enjoy life brother.
  • ChitownFoodie
    ChitownFoodie Posts: 1,562 Member
    Yes they definitely suck. GOOD FOR YOU!
  • russelljclarke
    russelljclarke Posts: 836 Member
    At least you know, now you're 'fit', who's nice and who isn't. The rest of them aren't even worth getting p***ed at. Well done!
  • withchaco
    withchaco Posts: 1,026 Member
    Flirting I can understand; lacking basic courtesy and respect is something else entirely. If they didn't treat you with respect back then, they definitely seem shallow.
  • leilani♥
    leilani♥ Posts: 579
    You did an amazing job on your weight loss. Screw those people that wouldn't give you the time of day. Make new fresh friendships :)
  • TipMcE
    TipMcE Posts: 158
    At least you know them for what they really are. But it's sad that they couldn't look past your appearance. Congrats on coming so far in a year and being healthier and fitter and leaving those jerks in your dust!
  • CaptainMFP
    CaptainMFP Posts: 440 Member
    Run away from those superficial sadistic a-holes!!!!!!

    Sounds like you could lap them a few times over! :wink:

    Sad how superficial people can be, but it's in moments like these that you can see a person's true characters and values; makes it easier to figure out who's truly on your side and who's there as a matter of convenience. Great job on achieving your fitness goals...I'm guessing you've exceeded what you thought you could do a year ago and have new ones, so keep working on that progress. For what it's worth, I don't advocate dwelling on negative emotions, but spite can be a pretty good motivator! :devil:

    Congratulations on YOUR achievement and cheers!
  • Texas501
    Texas501 Posts: 274
    It's human nature. The majority of people favor thin people. Don't get me wrong, there are always exceptions, but it's just the norm. If you shun out the majority of people that think that way, you are going to have a lonely existence. It's just fact that thin/attractive people get the raises, get the promotions, get the friends, etc., etc. You want to label these people as superficial, but they're just being human. It's a natural response. Just some food for thought.
  • Fat_2_Fit_Mommy
    Fat_2_Fit_Mommy Posts: 569 Member
    I agree people are mean... Just forget them they were probably just jealous cause your more fit... Just brush them off!! I hate people some times.....
  • fastbelly
    fastbelly Posts: 727 Member
    People like that don't deserve your time. Its as simple as that.
  • nel0311
    nel0311 Posts: 248
    Just dont change who you are. you do not want to become them. Surround yourself with people what have no idea who you are. You did. Great!!! Good job. I am proud of you.
  • SixCatFaerie
    SixCatFaerie Posts: 690 Member
    Well done!

    Same thing happened to my husband many years ago. (before we met) Women wouldn't even give him the time of day & then he joined the Marine Corps. When he got out of boot camp the same women were falling all over him. He got a lot of satisfaction of saying no to them!

    So don't let it bother you & know that you are worth more than what they think & in the end the only opinion that matters is your own.

    Keep up the great work!
  • KristinaD3
    KristinaD3 Posts: 12
    I was always skinny my whole life until I got pregnant with my 3rd son. I guess as a skinny person I never realized people were like that because I wasn't that way to over weight people. I treated them like I would any size person, big or small. After having my 3rd son that's when I realized ALOT of people aren't so nice or quick to look at someone over weight. It hurt my feelings and now that I'm back down to my prepregnancy weight they are nicer and look again. That right there makes me disgusted since I've been on both sides of the fence and see how other people really are.
  • paulahhhh
    paulahhhh Posts: 283
    What happened to society? I mean yes, we live in a superficial world, but when I was growing up, it wasn't as bad you know? EVERYONE who doesn't know how it feels to be in our world & the journey we're going through will never understand what it does to us emotionally.

    And yes, easier said than done to not let things get to you... But sometimes.. It just hurts, you know? We're only human.
    With that said.....

    Congrats on your weight loss!!!
  • batlou
    batlou Posts: 97 Member
    Wow, where do you live!? When I started running and was way out of shape, bouncing and jiggling everywhere I found encouragement everywhere I went. Parks, streets, work and friends. The runners and athletes I know will often comment that they encouraged by those that are just out there getting started. I know when I see someone that clearly looks like they are just getting going in fitness I am more apt to give them a thumbs up or "good job". Mostly because I find those people to be the most inspiring to me to continue. Perhaps it's because I have been there, dunno.
  • shydaisi
    shydaisi Posts: 788 Member
    I completely understand. That was the hardest thing for me when I lost a bunch of weight a few years ago. I would go through my day to day life with hardly anyone speaking to me, let alone smile or wave (kind of like now). After I went from a size 20/22 to a size 6, everyone started smiling, waving, starting conversations, making offhand comments in the grocery store... It was completely infuriating at times especially when I knew it was the same person. It is not something I really look forward to experiencing again as I likely will. It is hard to see how shallow people are...
  • withchaco
    withchaco Posts: 1,026 Member
    It's human nature. The majority of people favor thin people. Don't get me wrong, there are always exceptions, but it's just the norm. If you shun out the majority of people that think that way, you are going to have a lonely existence. It's just fact that thin/attractive people get the raises, get the promotions, get the friends, etc., etc. You want to label these people as superficial, but they're just being human. It's a natural response. Just some food for thought.
    I'd rather be "lonely" and stick to the exceptional people than be friends with a bunch of shallow people who won't care about me when I need their support more than ever.

    This doesn't mean I can avoid everyone I'd like to avoid. You have to be able to get along with different kinds of people in order to function in this society. Like at work, for instance. But in my own personal life, I won't give my trust to someone just because they seem nice now. I take my time when it comes to building friendship and figuring out who's worth my trust.
  • jogdog
    jogdog Posts: 89 Member
    When I was fit like 7 years ago and then quickly put on weight in a year, my friends and people I went to school with were trying to ignore me and never asked me out anywhere!! It was like they were ashamed to be with a "fat" friend. It really hurt my feelings and I threw some of those people aside. Now that I'm losing weight and it's quite noticeable, all of a sudden those same people are coming out of no where saying we should hang out and they actually try to start conversations with me when I run into them at the store, gym, etc. I just say I'm too busy and already have plans with friends. I only have 1 friend that has really stuck by me the whole time and I appreciate her for it. She was even a good enough of a friend and honest enough to tell me that I should really start looking into getting healthier because she was concerned and has been supportive the whole way (she used to work at a gym and every now and then she would let me in for free). I still have a while to go until I reach my GW, but there's nothing like having real friends that stay by you.
  • cgsr
    cgsr Posts: 113
    You know, while people are morons, I just want to tell you congrats on your success! That attitude you have with them is warranted, and I bet its an awesome feeling to now be able to treat them as they treated you (although that probably isn't the best thing to do! :-) Keep up the goo work, and again, congrats!
  • Scorpiomom222
    Scorpiomom222 Posts: 1,462 Member
    They may have been physically healthy, but they were not healthy socially. At least you can be BOTH and that's something to be proud of! :) ((((hugs))))

    ETA: When I see someone that appears to just be starting out in their fitness journey, I think to myself "good for them!" Maybe it'd make their day if I shared that thought with them.
  • Bluejay789
    Bluejay789 Posts: 176
    Congratulations on your success what a huge accomplishment on your weight loss and your new physical abilities in running and biking.

    Superficial people....... if they did not have time for your last year with your extra weight, then why would they have time for you and really care about you as a person when you are thin?

    I have friends in all shapes and sizes, I judge people based on their hearts and how they live their lives. Not their looks, what they wear, what they do, or how much money they have.

    I know it is frustrating and hurtful to be experiencing this, but forgive them as they do not even realize what they have done to you.

    My husband is the same way as he loves me not matter what my size. That's how your friends should be.

    Let it go, they were not worth your time last year, they are not worth it now.
  • taem
    taem Posts: 495 Member
    First, congratulations on your weight loss. That's always great news! I understand where you are coming from. When I moved to my new place, the landlord saw me at my heaviest (210 lbs) and now that I am 155, and because I was bed ridden from a back injury (he lives above me and knows whether I go out or not), he probably thinks I am on drugs or something, lol.

    Okay, but that aside, from what I understand, people are nice to "fit," "attractive" people because it is part of our human design. We are drawn to people who are attractive mainly because of our need to reproduce and to pass on our genes. So we look for someone suitable, and that is rarely someone sick or unhealthy. So fast forward to today and the definition of unhealthy and sick is pretty much different for all (or is it?). Why do men look at pretty women and say, comment on their "hotness" or why do women like men of a certain physical build?

    I agree that it sucks to be ignored because of weight issues. Congrats again!
  • TMcBooty
    TMcBooty Posts: 780 Member
    Wow.. I am in such awe at all these high weight losses I'm seeing in this thread. CONGRATS TO YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!! You are such a huge motivation to keep going.. and for the person who started this thread.. I say just laugh! I wouldn't talk to them either. SMH


    Do they realize you are the same person or do they think you are someone else? If they know how they treated you before and suddenly are in your face trying to be your friend that's just wrong! .. and by the same person, I mean do they recognise that you were the person they never wanted to talk to.
  • LaDiablesse
    LaDiablesse Posts: 862 Member
    Run away from those superficial sadistic a-holes!!!!!!

    I agree!
  • batlou
    batlou Posts: 97 Member
    First, congratulations on your weight loss. That's always great news! I understand where you are coming from. When I moved to my new place, the landlord saw me at my heaviest (210 lbs) and now that I am 155, and because I was bed ridden from a back injury (he lives above me and knows whether I go out or not), he probably thinks I am on drugs or something, lol.

    Okay, but that aside, from what I understand, people are nice to "fit," "attractive" people because it is part of our human design. We are drawn to people who are attractive mainly because of our need to reproduce and to pass on our genes. So we look for someone suitable, and that is rarely someone sick or unhealthy. So fast forward to today and the definition of unhealthy and sick is pretty much different for all (or is it?). Why do men look at pretty women and say, comment on their "hotness" or why do women like men of a certain physical build?

    I agree that it sucks to be ignored because of weight issues. Congrats again!

    Agree, I would also add that while many of us think we are the same we are not. I read a study about this some time ago that basically found healthy people are generally happier and more confident. Is it possible that while you might believe you are the same person your not? I am more apt to approach or have a conversation with someone that seems confident and happy than someone that's not. This has nothing to do with physical appearance or attractiveness for me and everything to do with not wanting to talk to someone that is a downer.

    Of course I will talk to pretty much anyone that will give me an audience so I may not be the best one to comment on this. :)
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