My first thread! I'm writing to ask people who have struggled with being overweight and/or obese for a long time for their thoughts on how they have managed when they have hit a difficult patch.
My story- I've struggled with my weight for most of my adult life- being overweight- and then becoming obese after two pregnancies. I have used food to soothe myself and I also eat just because it tastes so darn good! Despite being initially very skeptical that I would be successful losing weight this time, I was surprised to find myself down 55 pounds in a year. I gained 5 pounds and then maintained for just over a year- with an overall loss of 45-50 depending on the day. I was actually trying to lose back to 55 or even 60, but I didn't really want to eat any less food, so I was OK with where I was at.
About a year ago, I ran into troubles. A friend died unexpectedly- and I entered a rather stressful period in my life. I gained weight- Over the last year I have moved between an overall loss of 40-30 pounds. I fell back into similar eating habits- eating quite a bit at night- feeling like I can't stop myself and so on.
I have tried a number of things- but I haven't been successful. At the moment, I have decided to try and re-set. I have set myself at maintenance and I am working hard at allowing myself to eat at maintenance and feel good about it. I am also working at logging everything I eat again, and trying to take away the judgement and guilt- as I find that tends to lead me to more overeating and more negative feelings- and the spiral continues.
I am trying to celebrate the fact that I am still 30 pounds down. That I feel better and can move around more easily than when I was at my heaviest. I'm also reminding myself that dealing with my weight is likely to be a life long pattern- that I will have tendencies to go back to eating patterns that haven't served me well.
I am hoping- after a week or two of maintaining- that I can go back to a small deficit and lose that extra 20 pounds- slowly- as life goes on. I thought about posting this in the general weight loss forum- but it feels more like a maintenance issue (even though ultimately I'm trying to lose) as it's a realization that I will always have to be aware and pay some attention if I want to maintain my loss.
I would love to hear from those of you who have struggled what you do to give yourself the best chance at success. I'm hoping to learn from hearing your struggles, challenges and successes.