Partner not interested...

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  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    Jamie2663 wrote: »
    My husband has no interest in losing weight. I just 44 lbs gone. He will sit down next to me with a bowl of ice cream not even realizing what a dirty move it is. He doesn't do it to be difficult he just doesn't get it. That is why I find myself on here a lot...Making friends with people that have similar goals. It helps so much.

    Happens at my house, too. I just say "No thank you" and move on. Recently I've started making a protein slushie as an ice cream substitute. Gets me more protein and satisfies that craving for something cold and tasty.

  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    alteredsteve175 wrote: »
    Jamie2663 wrote: »
    My husband has no interest in losing weight. I just 44 lbs gone. He will sit down next to me with a bowl of ice cream not even realizing what a dirty move it is. He doesn't do it to be difficult he just doesn't get it. That is why I find myself on here a lot...Making friends with people that have similar goals. It helps so much.

    Happens at my house, too. I just say "No thank you" and move on. Recently I've started making a protein slushie as an ice cream substitute. Gets me more protein and satisfies that craving for something cold and tasty.

    I don’t know if y’all count macros or calories but if you enjoy chocolate ice cream, breyers make 70 calorie fudge bars!
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    Jamie2663 wrote: »
    My husband has no interest in losing weight. I just 44 lbs gone. He will sit down next to me with a bowl of ice cream not even realizing what a dirty move it is. He doesn't do it to be difficult he just doesn't get it. That is why I find myself on here a lot...Making friends with people that have similar goals. It helps so much.

    If you count calories and don’t mind having ice cream and enjoy chocolate ice cream, breyers makes a 70 calorie fudge ice cream bar!
  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    rickiimarieee wrote: »
    alteredsteve175 wrote: »
    Jamie2663 wrote: »
    My husband has no interest in losing weight. I just 44 lbs gone. He will sit down next to me with a bowl of ice cream not even realizing what a dirty move it is. He doesn't do it to be difficult he just doesn't get it. That is why I find myself on here a lot...Making friends with people that have similar goals. It helps so much.

    Happens at my house, too. I just say "No thank you" and move on. Recently I've started making a protein slushie as an ice cream substitute. Gets me more protein and satisfies that craving for something cold and tasty.

    I don’t know if y’all count macros or calories but if you enjoy chocolate ice cream, breyers make 70 calorie fudge bars!

    Thanks for the tip, Ricki! I'll look for those. My challenge will be "Just eat one." HAHA! ;)
  • scribblemoma
    scribblemoma Posts: 115 Member
    Oh man I’m so glad my husband and I are 100% on the same page with our fitness plans! We lift and do cardio together and all our macros are in sync (though he eats more). We often work out together at home and it’s a lot of fun getting stronger! If I mention a run outside he drops what he’s doing and laces up to join me and vice versa. I’m not sure what I’d do if he wasn’t on board and we weren’t motivating each other 😳
  • laceygaywilson
    laceygaywilson Posts: 330 Member
    This is my 3rd journey of weightloss. I was big when my husband and I met lost 100lbs. Then gained it back with a baby!! Then lost it all again!! Kept it off for 3 years!! Then another baby!!! When she was born my thyroid went crazy and so did my husband!! He called me fat and made the mental struggle even harder than it was before!! Took 6 years to get off 65!! Last fall I got made and just started working hard lost 35lbs!! Now I lost what I gained in winter and I am pushing for the sexiest I can be!! Hubby stopped calling me fat...but the echos are there. Just like my parents and family when I was young. Made me wanna stay fat just so that none of em would be happy....now I wanna feel better *kitten* what they think and I'm rocking this *kitten* on my own like I always have!!!
  • BuiltLikeAPeep
    BuiltLikeAPeep Posts: 94 Member
    I think my husband is trying to sabotage me- he has a LOT of insecurities and I don't think he's doing it on purpose (I hope he's not doing it on purpose) He's not a big junk food junkie usually- aside from potato chips and cheetos- but all of a sudden (since I've lost 10 lbs and have exhibited a ton of self control that I didn't have before) he wants cakes and cookies and to eat from my favorite Chinese restaurant. I just have to say no (except to the Chinese food- I just measure out servings and put the rest away for another meal. Each plate is 4 servings!) So what I'm trying to say in such a long-winded way, is that you have to do this for yourself, and sometimes by yourself.
  • smoofinator
    smoofinator Posts: 635 Member
    laceygaywilson wrote: »
    ...Made me wanna stay fat just so that none of em would be happy....now I wanna feel better *kitten* what they think and I'm rocking this *kitten* on my own like I always have!!!

    Just a side note: I think it's hilarious MFP replaces dirty words with *kitten* :D
  • JasJaworska
    JasJaworska Posts: 22 Member
    Mine drinks beer and doesn't care haha, he keeps saying he's not able to pick me up so I keep making jokes that this polski will be able to lift him up instead B)
  • OrangeBlossomSpecial21
    OrangeBlossomSpecial21 Posts: 149 Member
    jasminepichor wrote: »
    Mine drinks beer and doesn't care haha, he keeps saying he's not able to pick me up so I keep making jokes that this polski will be able to lift him up instead B)

    Lol
  • InspectorRed
    InspectorRed Posts: 757 Member
    My hubby and I both workout, he focuses a lot more on building muscle and doesn't worry so much about his weight but as long as he's lifting he maintains a healthy weight. It is frustrating to see him gain a few pounds when he travels for work (he's on the road sometimes 2 - 3 weeks at a time) and get home and drop it so fast just by eating the same things I eat. His ability to shed pounds makes me jealous LOL
  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    BuiltLikeAPeep wrote: »
    ... that you have to do this for yourself, and sometimes by yourself.

    True dat.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    alteredsteve175 wrote: »
    rickiimarieee wrote: »
    alteredsteve175 wrote: »
    Jamie2663 wrote: »
    My husband has no interest in losing weight. I just 44 lbs gone. He will sit down next to me with a bowl of ice cream not even realizing what a dirty move it is. He doesn't do it to be difficult he just doesn't get it. That is why I find myself on here a lot...Making friends with people that have similar goals. It helps so much.

    Happens at my house, too. I just say "No thank you" and move on. Recently I've started making a protein slushie as an ice cream substitute. Gets me more protein and satisfies that craving for something cold and tasty.

    I don’t know if y’all count macros or calories but if you enjoy chocolate ice cream, breyers make 70 calorie fudge bars!

    Thanks for the tip, Ricki! I'll look for those. My challenge will be "Just eat one." HAHA! ;)

    I thought so too but they’re actually pretty big for the amount of calories!
  • brittgreenlikethecolor88
    brittgreenlikethecolor88 Posts: 1,080 Member
    I've lost 30lbs. My husband wants to lose weight as well, but is having a harder time getting motivated. He is still super supportive of me though!! All I can do it try to encourage him. We'll see what happens!
  • Jamie2663
    Jamie2663 Posts: 779 Member
    Ziaki wrote: »
    My husband and I both float around in weight.

    At one point we were both trying to lose and it was frustrating because he wanted me to do all the annoying work, calorie counting and stuff for him. It was obnoxious. It's enough of a pain to do it for myself. It's actually easier if we just both do our own thing and I don't have to worry about what he's eating.

    Luckily I'm the one that cooks and does the shopping. So I decide what's for dinner and I can keep myself in control. If he wants something else he can go get it or eat it while I'm at work or otherwise not around.

    We don't keep junk in the house. No snacks (besides fruits and veggies) and no pop. If he wants any of that he goes and gets it while I'm not around.

    I would likely have hit mine in the head with a frying pan :smiley:
  • thenewkayla
    thenewkayla Posts: 313 Member
    My boyfriend encourages me but does not healthy so it can be hard. When I'm eating an apple and he has cake lol but he will go on walks with me and wants us to join the gym next month.
  • MyFreakingNameIsScott
    MyFreakingNameIsScott Posts: 199 Member
    At first my wife was the opposite of helpful and would almost shame me for changing things. Eventually she stopped. I now Meal Prep for the week for most of my meals (I have a weird schedule so it’s also necessary as I also do IF). Every once in a while she will buy things she knows I can’t say no to but for the most part she respects my diet. Me on the other hand....not so much but that’s another thread.
  • OrangeBlossomSpecial21
    OrangeBlossomSpecial21 Posts: 149 Member
    thenewkayla wrote: »
    My boyfriend encourages me but does not healthy so it can be hard. When I'm eating an apple and he has cake lol but he will go on walks with me and wants us to join the gym next month.

    Sounds like he’s starting to make an effort...so that’s good.
  • solieco1
    solieco1 Posts: 1,559 Member
    Weight and body image is intensely personal even with in relationships. You do you, set a good but not judgmental example and love her for her <3.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    @PhilLanides You just do you. Exactly. Do the best you possible, and she'll eventually figure out that when people do the best them, they are the happiest.

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