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rickiimarieee
rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
edited December 20 in Chit-Chat
I NEED HELP, doesn’t matter if your boy(s) are 2 or 40. How do you potty train them?? I’m in a rat race trying to potty train my 2 year old. He’s exactly 28 months old. I put him in undies and he’s peeing in them, not even minding that he’s wet (read to leave him in it for a little bit so he gets uncomfortable with being wet) and I’ve been putting him on the toilet every 30 minutes and have a chart I put stickers on when he sits on the potty, asks to go, flushes, pees, poops, washes hands. I’ve been doing this for awhile and he has yet to go in the toilet. How do I encourage him to take that first pee in the toilet? Once he pees once he’ll know what to do.
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  • AmbitiousButRubbish
    AmbitiousButRubbish Posts: 246 Member
    The only thing that worked for my boys was naked. We had to let them be naked. Anything else is too close to having a diaper on. They yelled for a diaper because they didnt want to just go in nothing. That's when we quickly take them to the bathroom and put them on the toilet. Only thing that worked for us. Gonna be accidents.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    Throw a cheerio into the toilet, tell him to pee on it

    I tried that, he won’t. He’s sitting on the toilet and he leans forward and put his hands on the front of the toilet so he’s not even looking down at his junk.
  • AmbitiousButRubbish
    AmbitiousButRubbish Posts: 246 Member
    Good luck
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    I tried running water, making him laugh, blowing out candles, throwing cereal in there and nothing yet.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    The only thing that worked for my boys was naked. We had to let them be naked. Anything else is too close to having a diaper on. They yelled for a diaper because they didnt want to just go in nothing. That's when we quickly take them to the bathroom and put them on the toilet. Only thing that worked for us. Gonna be accidents.

    I guess that’s what I gotta do. Butt naked
  • LisaHeb1979
    LisaHeb1979 Posts: 219 Member
    With both of my boys. I let them pick out underpants. Then the first day I put them in them, I took them to the potty every 5 mins. The next day, every 10 mins. We had a sticker chart and after about a day of that, they no longer cared. For them it was just consistency in going. It took about a week for them to be completely potty trained.
  • Lift_Run_Eat
    Lift_Run_Eat Posts: 986 Member
    My boy was hard. He was over 3 and it was all on his own terms. Knew what he was going, didn't care.
  • Cassandraw3
    Cassandraw3 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I have heard of several moms having success with the potty training boot camp method.

    https://messymotherhood.com/potty-training-boot-camp/

    My son has only recently been potty trained (for about the last month or so). He turned 3 in January. He knew what to do, he just didn't want to do it. It finally just took bribing him to get the toy he had been asking for (an iron man action figure). I told him he could have it when he went poop on the potty. After that, he has been potty trained (with the exception of naps and bedtime).

    Why the rush to potty train him?
  • katiekonowal
    katiekonowal Posts: 5 Member
    I have 3 boys and I didn’t even start to think about potty training them until they were almost 3... my friends with girls shook their heads at me and had their girls potty trained at two, but boys take more time.. when they were a few months shy of turning three I let them pick underwear and told them they had to go in the potty and only took about a week or so before they were fully trained :) hope this helps
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    With both of my boys. I let them pick out underpants. Then the first day I put them in them, I took them to the potty every 5 mins. The next day, every 10 mins. We had a sticker chart and after about a day of that, they no longer cared. For them it was just consistency in going. It took about a week for them to be completely potty trained.

    He has his favorite shows undies. He has paw patrol undies.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    Every time ours went in the potty, they got an m&m. Potty trained within a week.


    Yeah I plan on giving him a gummy every time he goes pee on the potty but the problem is getting him to go that first time
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    My boy was hard. He was over 3 and it was all on his own terms. Knew what he was going, didn't care.


    Yeah they say boys are a lot harder than girls.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    edited April 2019
    I have 3 boys and I didn’t even start to think about potty training them until they were almost 3... my friends with girls shook their heads at me and had their girls potty trained at two, but boys take more time.. when they were a few months shy of turning three I let them pick underwear and told them they had to go in the potty and only took about a week or so before they were fully trained :) hope this helps

    This. Boys are slower to learn this than girls. My pediatrician told me to not even try till he was closer to 3. At 3 we picked out underwear and I told him he would get a balloon for every day he used the potty. In 1 week he had 7 balloons and was completely potty trained.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    I have heard of several moms having success with the potty training boot camp method.

    https://messymotherhood.com/potty-training-boot-camp/

    My son has only recently been potty trained (for about the last month or so). He turned 3 in January. He knew what to do, he just didn't want to do it. It finally just took bribing him to get the toy he had been asking for (an iron man action figure). I told him he could have it when he went poop on the potty. After that, he has been potty trained (with the exception of naps and bedtime).

    Why the rush to potty train him?

    I’m not trying to rush him, my pediatrician told me to start. He’s been asking to use the potty he just won’t go.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    moreclan9 wrote: »
    As the mother of 11 children, and foster mother to over 100...many of them boys. I learned to not even think about trying until they are three.

    That helps, only reason I’m trying is the pediatrician told me to get on it
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    I have 3 boys and I didn’t even start to think about potty training them until they were almost 3... my friends with girls shook their heads at me and had their girls potty trained at two, but boys take more time.. when they were a few months shy of turning three I let them pick underwear and told them they had to go in the potty and only took about a week or so before they were fully trained :) hope this helps

    This. Boys are slower to learn this than girls. My pediatrician told me to not even try till he was closer to 3. At 3 we picked out underwear and I told him he would get a balloon for every day he used the potty. In 1 week he had 7 balloons and was completely potty trained.

    My pediatrician looked at me like I was stupid when I told him that I haven’t started trying to potty train yet
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    I have 3 boys and I didn’t even start to think about potty training them until they were almost 3... my friends with girls shook their heads at me and had their girls potty trained at two, but boys take more time.. when they were a few months shy of turning three I let them pick underwear and told them they had to go in the potty and only took about a week or so before they were fully trained :) hope this helps

    It does help, thank you!!
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    I have 3 boys and I didn’t even start to think about potty training them until they were almost 3... my friends with girls shook their heads at me and had their girls potty trained at two, but boys take more time.. when they were a few months shy of turning three I let them pick underwear and told them they had to go in the potty and only took about a week or so before they were fully trained :) hope this helps

    This. Boys are slower to learn this than girls. My pediatrician told me to not even try till he was closer to 3. At 3 we picked out underwear and I told him he would get a balloon for every day he used the potty. In 1 week he had 7 balloons and was completely potty trained.

    My pediatrician looked at me like I was stupid when I told him that I haven’t started trying to potty train yet

    You can go to 100 doctors and get about 100 different answers. But overall, most boys aren't ready till around 3. Use your judgement and don't push him. He'll just end up hating the potty. Let him play with it if he wants, if he wants to try let him. Don't push till it starts becoming a real problem.
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    With my son, he was ready when he was ready... probably around 3 years old, maybe a little more. My daughter on the other hand, was fully trained by 2 and a half, but again was based on her readiness.

    That said, once he was ready, he was ready and has never had a non-night time accident and even at night I can count on one hand how many mishaps he had. He is now 8 and a half. don't rush the little man, make him aware and encourage the potty, but I would not put him in underwear for the day until he seems ready.
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    I have heard of several moms having success with the potty training boot camp method.

    https://messymotherhood.com/potty-training-boot-camp/

    My son has only recently been potty trained (for about the last month or so). He turned 3 in January. He knew what to do, he just didn't want to do it. It finally just took bribing him to get the toy he had been asking for (an iron man action figure). I told him he could have it when he went poop on the potty. After that, he has been potty trained (with the exception of naps and bedtime).

    Why the rush to potty train him?

    I’m not trying to rush him, my pediatrician told me to start. He’s been asking to use the potty he just won’t go.

    then put him on it when he asks, to get used to it whether he uses it then or not. but maybe pull-ups day to day, until he starts using the potty consistently.
  • amdsf
    amdsf Posts: 24 Member
    Your pediatrician sounds very determined that you should potty-train. Why? If you don't mind diapers, what is the big deal? It'll happen - kids are different, and boys are notoriously "late" when it comes to potty-training. I have three boys, and they were all three before they were remotely interested in trying. Sounds like you are doing a lot of work, unnecessarily. Which is too bad. It's not like moms have nothing else to do or worry about. :-) If you have no other reasons than the random opinion of one pediatrician, I say relax and try again later. It'll happen. No need to force it and cause yourself stress.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    I waited and waited and waited for Mrs. to potty train my first daughter. She did not. I did.
    I waited and waited for Mrs. to potty train my second daughter. She did not. I did.
    I thought about waiting for Mrs to potty train my third daughter. Fuggetaboutit, I said. I did.
    In order of sequence, their ages were 3.5, 2.5, and 1.5 at the time.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    I bribed our son.

    (really, I did; it worked too.)
  • stemsnpancetta
    stemsnpancetta Posts: 2 Member
    My older boys were a little over 3 and a little over 2 when I started to potty train them (they are a year apart). It was a nice summer day, we hung out in the backyard playing all day and I let them pee in the bushes. When they had to go #2 they asked if they could use the toilet. After that they used the toilet all the time, there was maybe 1 or 2 accidents at night. And no, I never let them pee in the bushes after that! But whatever, it worked for them! They never wanted diapers or pull ups after that day. My 3 year old was so ready to be potty trained, and the 2 year old just wanted to do everything his big brother did, so it was easy for me, I was lucky!
  • julesdechaine
    julesdechaine Posts: 138 Member
    I have three boys (all over the age of 17 now) and a sticker chart worked the best for the first and third one. Every time they peed they got a sticker, pooped two stickers, and at the end of the week they could choose a prize (something small like Hotwheels.) They loved that. The middle son was wicked smart and hated to be wet so he basically learned himself.

    Just over 2 may be a little young; each child will progress at their own speed.
  • motivatedmartha
    motivatedmartha Posts: 1,108 Member
    edited April 2019
    Some are earlier than others to want to use the toilet - my only advice is to wait until he is ready - regardless of whether your paediatrician is ready ;) When he decides it is time it will be over in a flash with very little mess. My son - who was never a supermarket pest - used to cry for me to buy nappies if I even suggested not doing so. The only thing we did to encourage him was to let him follow Daddy into the bathroom - seeing how his Dad dealt with the whole toilet thing encouraged him to show more enthusiasm for the toilet. The only use he ever made of the potty was to sit on to demand another bedtime story! When he did decide he was ready it took less than a week. Don't be in a rush to give up the freedom that nappies can provide - searching for acceptable toilets every time you step out the door for more than 30 mins is a much bigger pain :D
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,744 Member
    boys love to pee on things i think bc mine learned to hold it bc he wanted to pee outside on a tree or on the fence

    then once he could hold it he was fine using potty indoors

    This is what I did for my boys too. I was also saying "listen to your body" constantly. 2 is really early, maybe wait a little while. He's probably just mimicking you when he asks to go potty.
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