Sex after massive weight loss

Hello to all,

I was overweight since my childhood. In the beginning it was like 10 kg more than "the normal". At some point I found my self getting emotionally attached to food, so food was there when I was nervous, when I was sad, and like that even today it covers my emotional gaps pretty often.

Having some struggling through out my studies, at some point while at the university I was 134 kg (1.73 cm height). I always felt bad about my weight but it was a vicious circle. It wasn't the first time I tried to lose weight, I was like a lift for my whole time, getting and losing weight. Thought at 134 kg I was struggling to walk without being exhausted, my social life had disappeared and I was feeling like I don't deserve as a person due to those kilos.

Anyway after many stories like a bladder removal which forced me to give up fat food for some months, I lost 50 kg in total. Now I have gained back 8 but I want to lose them again and lose another 10 and maybe after that I will ok.

The thing is I see that even though when I was 83kg/1.73cm, I wasn't slim but with clothes I had a lot of self confidence, I started having a proper sexual life and stuff like that, but under clothes I was as many of you have probably experienced struggling with fat excess. I had some long term relationships and I think that they weren't affected by that, but on the other hand I had to hide part of my body during sex, by wearing skirts and I always thought its a big problem and still is.

whats your opinions?

Replies

  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    edited April 2019
    Opinion on what, exactly?

    Having sex?

  • ghudson92
    ghudson92 Posts: 2,061 Member
    I'm not too sure what it is you're asking here. Do you want advice on how to be more sexually confident?
  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    I agree with the above I'm not sure what you are asking. If your'e worried what guys think, don't spend too much time on it. Men just enjoy it and will be happy you're indulging them! You'd also be surprised how many men prefer some extra meat on the bones. Aside for that, its a good thing to have lots of! Studies have shown its a great stress reliever and those who do it more frequently are more likely to live longer and be happier!
  • snd4000
    snd4000 Posts: 6 Member
    I can relate... after loosing almost 100lbs, i had a small apron of skin when I sat up. If it really bothers you, try different ways of sitting, laying etc. that smooth out what you want to hide.