If he likes larger women...
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So what you're saying is he likes big butts and he cannot lie?0
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In my experience, they say they like larger women because they love you and do think you're hot and they want to make you feel good about yourself. But they'd still think you're hot if you were a tiny little thing. Unless there's some really intense fetishism going on about weight, most guys would be happy to have the woman they love fat or thin.0
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He'll change his views..0
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No, I have heard of guys who only think a woman is sexy if she is large. I know what you're talking about. To each his own I suppose.......however, if the man loves her, he will stay.0
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He'll get over it!0
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So what you're saying is he likes big butts and he cannot lie?
LMAO!0 -
I live with my ex (we were together for 2.5 years... I have nowhere to go since my family situation is bad so he lets me live here), who is obsessed with big butts. After we broke up he moved out for 3 months, but we still talked. When I told him I was still losing weight, he said he nearly shed a tear thinking my butt was going to disappear, hahaha. Now he tells me it looks great and gets really super mad because I won't let him touch it :P0
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If he loves you, he's not gonna care if you are large or small. Maybe in his mind he may be thinking once you are smaller, fit and hot that you may wonder off.0
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It shouldn't matter. I'm not saying that you're fat but, if you were, would you stay fat and unhealthy to please/keep him?0
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My boyfriend isn't necessarily attracted to larger women. We fell in love when I was heavier than I am now, so I know he doesn't care about my weight. He said he's always preferred women with "a little meat" meaning not stick thin, but I know he won't leave me when I get fit. Especially since I'll be able to do certain things in the boudoir that I can't do now. Just sayin' :bigsmile:0
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Well, mine did...but I also changed as a person too and wasn't a doormat anymore. I really don't think you have anything to worry about unless you have existing marital problems.0
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My husband has always told me he loves me exactly the way I am but I am telling you he is REALLY loving the new and improved me.0
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I like curvy women. Always have.
I love my girlfriend. Very much.
I love her, and she's curvy.
I would love her if she's not curvy.
The love doesn't change if it's real love.
If it's a superficial attraction, then that's something different.
But not real love.
Pj0 -
To bad for him. You are getting in shape for your health and the health of your family.0
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My hubby falls into this category. Since my weight loss he says I am too skinny and he will not look at me or touch me. I told him that's too bad cause I am not going back to the way I was.:brokenheart:0
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I have had the same issue.. My hubby isn't as attracted to me when my curves are gone,it has nothing to do with the love its just his prefrence..(He is just gonna have to adjust)0
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Awe that is heartbreaking...sorry to hear that. :frown: Maybe he is just insecure that you are going to get too confident and leave him? Does not excuse his behavior in the least bit. Sorry to hear that but glad you are standing your ground because your health is important.0
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Ooops I was responding to dawnw30...I guess I don't know how to reply to a post. Sorry!0
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So what you're saying is he likes big butts and he cannot lie?
Well, you other brothas can't deny....0 -
My husband has always told me he loves me exactly the way I am but I am telling you he is REALLY loving the new and improved me.
my husband is the same.0 -
Well, mine did...but I also changed as a person too and wasn't a doormat anymore. I really don't think you have anything to worry about unless you have existing marital problems.
AMEN SISSSTA!0 -
My husband has always told me he loves me exactly the way I am but I am telling you he is REALLY loving the new and improved me.
my husband is the same.
He loves you exactly the way you are, WHATEVER you are at the moment. ;-) <true love>0 -
I think there is a huge difference between loving the person and sexual attraction. IMO the two are not the same. I think there are men who still are very much in love with their wife, but don't feel the same level of attraction when the weight changes, either up or down. It works the same for women.0
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if someone is going to stray because of how you look (too big, too small, or whatever) then he obviously isn't worth wasting your time with anyway, may as well rip that band aid off and get on with it.0
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This.. ^No, I have heard of guys who only think a woman is sexy if she is large. I know what you're talking about. To each his own I suppose.......however, if the man loves her, he will stay.
Don't know if this is exactly the OP's situation but as the person above shared there are men who ONLY want to date larger women and I've noticed they are often small men, it is type of fetish. There's plenty of websites on it and they even have conventions, dating sites, etc. It's not something I understand but it does exist... if that's the case and I have heard of it happening to some, when the weight is dropped they are dropped. Real love? No. It's a fetish they have, some describe it as a Mom thing, others have their own way of explaining it.
These guys typically go for women 300+-600 lbs. Not someone that's 200 and dropping weight from there.0 -
Good morning all,
I am Jen's bf. I have been a member of myfitnesspal for about 6 months now. I read this post and had to chime in.
Jen, I love you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. Whether you are 160 lbs or 260 lbs, it's all the same to me. My love for you will NEVER change. As long as you are happy and healthy, that's all I care about. The bottom line is, you are much more than just a pretty face to me. I could go on and on about all of your wonderful qualities and depth of my love for you; but alas, I will save that until I see you later.\
Have a good day beautiful,
John0 -
:blushing: BUSTED!!!! :blushing:
He is NEVER on here...
NEVER uses MFP...
Has to check in on me TODAY!!!
Anyway...
To everyone who posted. I really appreciate you taking the time and giving me your opinions. My question though... was not about love. I know I will be LOVED no matter what.
My question was.... attraction. We ALL are attracted to different things. Me? I have a soft spot for a guy with nice ink. Will I leave the Handsome Romantic below because he is ink free?? Of course not... it still doesn't stop the shivers down my spine when I see a Tatt I really like.
Body shape & style is a little more in depth I think though than thinking Tattoos are Hot. If your thing is a round *kitten*, curvy hips, and DD's..... Can you be attracted to someone who belongs in a Nike Ad? ORRRRR.... will you see the curvy girls go by and long for the days past.
So for anyone new or old who reads this post.... Answer knowing I am asking about this not from a love stand point, but from a will he still want to tear your clothes off!! :devil:
And Handsome.... you're adorable, now get off my post!!! LOL
Good morning all,
I am Jen's bf. I have been a member of myfitnesspal for about 6 months now. I read this post and had to chime in.
Jen, I love you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. Whether you are 160 lbs or 260 lbs, it's all the same to me. My love for you will NEVER change. As long as you are happy and healthy, that's all I care about. The bottom line is, you are much more than just a pretty face to me. I could go on and on about all of your wonderful qualities and depth of my love for you; but alas, I will save that until I see you later.\
Have a good day beautiful,
John0 -
All my hubbys exes have been curvy - large.
Yet when he met me I weighed SEVEN STONE! I put weight on after the first two children and was a healthy 8 1/2 stone. after having another two children I am 10 stone 2lb, he knows I am not happy, I am not confident, he prefers curvy BUT prefers me happy!0 -
Good morning all,
I am Jen's bf. I have been a member of myfitnesspal for about 6 months now. I read this post and had to chime in.
Jen, I love you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. Whether you are 160 lbs or 260 lbs, it's all the same to me. My love for you will NEVER change. As long as you are happy and healthy, that's all I care about. The bottom line is, you are much more than just a pretty face to me. I could go on and on about all of your wonderful qualities and depth of my love for you; but alas, I will save that until I see you later.\
Have a good day beautiful,
John
:sad: so sweet!0 -
This thread is too funny. He got you!
Ok I'm an admitted curve lover. I've never been into "skinny" girls. I have always and probably will always prefer a girl with at least a little bit extra to her. I've never had a girl lose enough weight while we were together that this was an issue though. Actually none of them have ever lost any weight while we were together...so that could be why.
My current gf is getting more noticeably upset the more weight I lose. I understand the things she's afraid of. She's worried I'm planning to leave her, she worries that if I get in great shape we'll look like an odd couple, etc. etc. She is turned off by guys with a lot of muscle too.
But we have a deal. We stay together, even when we hate each other. So I guess we're good.0
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