Food Allergies and diet
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kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.19 -
When I talked about a balanced diet I was chiefly wondering out loud where you get your variety in proteins. Because if bored with chicken, then, variety. You’ve brushed by any suggestions to try tofu. Or ham outside Thanksgiving.
As you have brushed off with my suggestion to try pasta (eggless of course).
Variety does not equal salad. Veggies also come cooked. Like Spaghetti squash, or anything in the frozen veggie aisle.
Then there’s the fruits.
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.
You asked for suggestions for what you can eat but have consistently had an excuse for why every single suggestion won't work for you. There really is nothing more any of us can do to help you figure out how to change your diet.12 -
kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
OK, there's your solution.8 -
kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
Can you sum up why you will never learn to cook ? I don't mean to shame you but in my experience the quality is higher and the cost is cheaper when food is made at home. For all of us with allergies and intolerances, its a world safer too.
Of course its totally your choice however the food intolerances restrict you but you are limiting yourself way more with this approach.
Just not entirely sure why you are here unless its to vent about how unfair it all is - which is ok because it is
Wishing you all the best OP.5 -
kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
It’s not realistic at all. With wheat and shellfish allergies I have to plan my meals out carefully. I review the menus before hand and make alternate choices in the event I get there and my first choice isn’t available. It is honestly more time consuming than preparing something at home most days.
You are an adult. You are choosing not to cook and you are choosing to be inflexible when alternatives are offered. If you were being realistic you’d recognize that what needs to change is your attitude and approach to the situation.19 -
Dietitians are the best person to ask about these things. I have food allergies and when I got diagnosed, a dietitian is the one who told me what to eat and not to eat. The doctor didn't know a thing beyond telling me what I was allergic to.3
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I don't think what's in bold sounds crazy to many of us. What it sounds is foolhardy and like a really easy way to make your life miserable, shoot yourself in the foot, and set your children up for having no concept of cooking (which is quite for them). You're doing quite a lot of complaining about what you can't have and you have a lot of power to change that. That you don't want to is on you.When I talked about a balanced diet I was chiefly wondering out loud where you get your variety in proteins. Because if bored with chicken, then, variety. You’ve brushed by any suggestions to try tofu. Or ham outside Thanksgiving.
As you have brushed off with my suggestion to try pasta (eggless of course).
Variety does not equal salad. Veggies also come cooked. Like Spaghetti squash, or anything in the frozen veggie aisle.
Then there’s the fruits.
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.9 -
kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
In adulthood we sometimes have to do things we don't want to do. That is what it is. That you would rather suffer through allergy attacks than learn how to make a few simple dishes does seem absolutely incomprehensible to me. Perhaps you should seek out counseling to see if you can identify what the root cause of this issue is. I don't mean that as an attack, but if you are this set against cooking, which even I, a barely functional human in many ways, have learned how to do, something is definitely up.11 -
How can you be fussy and bored at the same time? Eating a limited menu is boring.
Enough with the salad already. Salad does not equal healthy. I am pretty sure your solid favourites can be put together at home allergen free. It will be boring but at least it will safe.2 -
kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
Okay, you mentioned a fiancé who cooks, can you work with that? It sounded as though the fiancé was getting fed up, but maybe a little kindness from you could fix that. It’s possible for only one half of a couple to do the cooking.
How do your kids eat, if you can’t even reheat foods without destroying them? And why on earth would you reheat black beans into a dried up mess? This is not hard. You can read, you appear to be of normal intelligence, in order to be quite this hapless you have to be sabotaging yourself on purpose to prove to yourself that you can’t cook. Cooking is nothing but reading and following instructions.
If you have multiple, unusual, serious allergies you will never find foods you can eat in restaurants or carry out without constant risk of a reaction, unless you are wealthy enough to employ your own chef. That’s being realistic.8 -
My brother is mentally ill and has a learning disorder, yet he can cook for himself. He would have preferred to have eaten out every meal, but couldn't afford to, so he learned.13
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I'm really sorry to have to tell you about a 15 year old girl who was going on holiday from the UK who died. She was known to have a life threatening reaction to only sesame seeds. Her family deemed it safe from what they read on a sandwich packet and boards that she would be safe. As a result of her death and that of another young person at about the same time our legislation on sandwiches and the like bought for haste foods has been changed.
As someone who had only intolerances I would not buy a thing which I did not know the provenance of meaning, my life comfort/health, family meant more to me than buying something someone else prepared even though mostly we can trust our environmental health system over here some companies do cut corners.
Just because you think you will be able to find a company you can trust foods from you can never be sure you are safe. Again quoting one UK over the counter meal related death, the proprietor or leading staff took actions to reduce their costs by changing ingredients, not changing the list of ingredients in each and every item which had changed. The result if I remember rightly, the designated person served time for the death.
Now, like I say, my 2 children, who I support by myself from their early teens, their 9 children between them and the children they have deserve me to do my best to be healthy.
I accept your right to consider others should mind your health for you.3 -
Like you, I never cooked, and had no desire to. Then, both my parents came down with conditions and illnesses. Both of them had to go on salt restricted diets, and my mother couldn't cook anymore. So I had to learn. I had to call my brother to find out how to boil a potato (he was very nice and didn't laugh). I had cookbooks, but didn't enjoy reading them.
And then the three of us discovered the PBS runup of cooking shows on Sunday afternoon (this was in the 1990s, before we got cable). Yan Can Cook! Lidia Bastianich! Jacques Pepin making sandwiches with Julia Child! We watched every single one, and the visuals really helped, and also excited all three of us to experiment.
The first full year was full of disasters, but, for my parents, I had no choice except to learn and succeed. The good thing about failures is that you can learn from them, and now, I can use Sunday to prep food for an entire week, portion it out and freeze. If you do start cooking, yes, you will fail, over and over, for the first little while. But if you keep practicing, and learning from the failures, inevitably, you will improve, and maybe feel little blips of triumph as you begin to succeed.
Perhaps, too, you can get your children involved in the process: when my mother made beef stew, we helped chop up the veggies and season the pot. On Thanksgiving, we all gathered in the kitchen and helped out till the guests came. Maybe getting your family involved in the cooking process will build on several health and emotional fronts.
My mother was a public school teacher, a dedicated, hard-working and respected member of her school; and there are four of us siblings, all eccentric and problematic, so she didn't have it easy. But she was brought up in the old school of always having food in the house and always being able to throw something on the table.11 -
I don't think what's in bold sounds crazy to many of us. What it sounds is foolhardy and like a really easy way to make your life miserable, shoot yourself in the foot, and set your children up for having no concept of cooking (which is quite for them). You're doing quite a lot of complaining about what you can't have and you have a lot of power to change that. That you don't want to is on you.When I talked about a balanced diet I was chiefly wondering out loud where you get your variety in proteins. Because if bored with chicken, then, variety. You’ve brushed by any suggestions to try tofu. Or ham outside Thanksgiving.
As you have brushed off with my suggestion to try pasta (eggless of course).
Variety does not equal salad. Veggies also come cooked. Like Spaghetti squash, or anything in the frozen veggie aisle.
Then there’s the fruits.
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.
Both my 8 year old and 15 year old can cook and bake. My daughter has many champion ribbons. I don’t cook. And yes the biggest obstacle is I don’t want to. Growing up my brother started dinner, and I would choose to do farm chores and milk cows in lieu of cooking. He is an excellent cook. My hatred for the activity is strong. It is like sewing. My mother would make me make an outfit, after many long hours, I wouldn’t wear it because the sight of it aggravated me. Same with cooking. When I make something, I know longer want to eat it. The only cooking I do is heating up pizza or nuggets, frying or scrambling an egg. I consider frying bacon an event....9 -
Now I count three people in your household who can cook. You have a fiancée who is ready to give up because of your many restrictions (I can’t imagine why), and two children. On a rotating schedule and a reheat day it should not be too much of a burden on anyone.
Stock your freezer and cupboards with foods you can eat and set your cooks free.
Let’s see. I know you like the salsas and black beans. You can have rice and eggless pasta. And chicken. Lots and lots of chicken. How about precooked bacon? Dairy is OK I take it? Then you can have sour cream and cheese on hand to jazz up the meals.
I haven’t double checked your allergy list but for the sake of the cooks in your life I suggest you keep egg substitute, vegetable oil, vinegar, lemon juice, soy sauce, some basic spices, garlic, flour, corn starch and baking powder in the house for your cooks.5 -
I seriously don't understand why anyone is continuing to try and help this woman. She very clearly does not want help. She wants to complain. She wants to be a martyr. What she does not want is an actual solution to her problem. Good grief.18
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rheddmobile wrote: »Just read back through this and noticed that the allergies were diagnosed using a skin test. Skin prick tests produce false positives between 50 - 60% of the time. I was told as a child that I was allergic to pork and strawberries and never was even slightly sensitive to either. It might be worth getting a second opinion rather than completely overhauling your life based on information that may not be valid.
Also, if you have liver damage and the doctor is saying stop drinking, for Pete’s sake stop drinking!
Diagnosed with skin and blood tests.
I don’t have any issues with my liver or kidneys. The doctor suggested that stopping would give me a reboot and make the allergies go away. I also have perfect cholesterol and blood pressure7 -
rheddmobile wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
Okay, you mentioned a fiancé who cooks, can you work with that? It sounded as though the fiancé was getting fed up, but maybe a little kindness from you could fix that. It’s possible for only one half of a couple to do the cooking.
How do your kids eat, if you can’t even reheat foods without destroying them? And why on earth would you reheat black beans into a dried up mess? This is not hard. You can read, you appear to be of normal intelligence, in order to be quite this hapless you have to be sabotaging yourself on purpose to prove to yourself that you can’t cook. Cooking is nothing but reading and following instructions.
If you have multiple, unusual, serious allergies you will never find foods you can eat in restaurants or carry out without constant risk of a reaction, unless you are wealthy enough to employ your own chef. That’s being realistic.
I have done things to food that other have tried to duplicate without success. I did read how to cook beans in the microwave and followed the directions.3 -
Whole Foods.... I fear you are right. My suggestion would be for her to at least seek counselling because of her narcissism. This in my view is the only reason for her to hold to the opinion she needs do nothing for herself. Why else would she jeopardise her relationships.8
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Now I count three people in your household who can cook. You have a fiancée who is ready to give up because of your many restrictions (I can’t imagine why), and two children. On a rotating schedule and a reheat day it should not be too much of a burden on anyone.
Stock your freezer and cupboards with foods you can eat and set your cooks free.
Let’s see. I know you like the salsas and black beans. You can have rice and eggless pasta. And chicken. Lots and lots of chicken. How about precooked bacon? Dairy is OK I take it? Then you can have sour cream and cheese on hand to jazz up the meals.
I haven’t double checked your allergy list but for the sake of the cooks in your life I suggest you keep egg substitute, vegetable oil, vinegar, lemon juice, soy sauce, some basic spices, garlic, flour, corn starch and baking powder in the house for your cooks.
Great idea!1 -
I love to cook and I’ve had multiple failures as well. It’s learning from the failures. If you tried to reheat beans and ended up with rabbit turds, you cooked the beans too long. Cut the time next time.5
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Aside from the fact that home cooked meals - ideally made as a family - will be healthier for everyone in the household, what about the very real message you are currently sending your children?? Will it be ok for your kids to refuse to do homework because it is too hard? Will they be allowed to start & quit sports or music or student council because they hit a bump in the road? Dropping out of high school has to be easier than having to work hard or trying tutoring or developing new study skills...
Your children are watching & waiting for your example of how to tackle the challenges ahead!!12 -
@Libby283 sounds like you just want to vent, which is fine. When I want to vent I tell the person I'm venting to and ask them to not problem solve, as that will frustrate both of us.
If indeed you just want to vent, I suggest you start a thread over in Motivation and Support and clearly disclaim "Just venting" in both your thread title and opening post.
Perhaps in a month or so you will be in a headspace where you will be able to act on the advice in this thread.15 -
I don't think what's in bold sounds crazy to many of us. What it sounds is foolhardy and like a really easy way to make your life miserable, shoot yourself in the foot, and set your children up for having no concept of cooking (which is quite for them). You're doing quite a lot of complaining about what you can't have and you have a lot of power to change that. That you don't want to is on you.When I talked about a balanced diet I was chiefly wondering out loud where you get your variety in proteins. Because if bored with chicken, then, variety. You’ve brushed by any suggestions to try tofu. Or ham outside Thanksgiving.
As you have brushed off with my suggestion to try pasta (eggless of course).
Variety does not equal salad. Veggies also come cooked. Like Spaghetti squash, or anything in the frozen veggie aisle.
Then there’s the fruits.
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.
Both my 8 year old and 15 year old can cook and bake. My daughter has many champion ribbons. I don’t cook. And yes the biggest obstacle is I don’t want to. Growing up my brother started dinner, and I would choose to do farm chores and milk cows in lieu of cooking. He is an excellent cook. My hatred for the activity is strong. It is like sewing. My mother would make me make an outfit, after many long hours, I wouldn’t wear it because the sight of it aggravated me. Same with cooking. When I make something, I know longer want to eat it. The only cooking I do is heating up pizza or nuggets, frying or scrambling an egg. I consider frying bacon an event....
At this point your excuses are getting fewer and fewer. You're digging your own proverbial grave. Thankfully your children will likely come out being able to cook so that's a positive. Sure you have food allergies, but you have more than a few ways of getting around this "I can't eat anything!" problem you've created for yourself.5 -
Both my 8 year old and 15 year old can cook and bake. My daughter has many champion ribbons. I don’t cook. And yes the biggest obstacle is I don’t want to. Growing up my brother started dinner, and I would choose to do farm chores and milk cows in lieu of cooking. He is an excellent cook. My hatred for the activity is strong. It is like sewing. My mother would make me make an outfit, after many long hours, I wouldn’t wear it because the sight of it aggravated me. Same with cooking. When I make something, I know longer want to eat it. The only cooking I do is heating up pizza or nuggets, frying or scrambling an egg. I consider frying bacon an event....
You are a grown adult. Start acting like one. We all have to do things we don't like/want to do - we do them anyway. Your obstinacy is going to cause you serious health problems in the long term, if you really are as restricted by allergies as you say.
Don't you want to be around to see your children grow up?6 -
I hate to floss my teeth but I do it anyway.7
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I don't think what's in bold sounds crazy to many of us. What it sounds is foolhardy and like a really easy way to make your life miserable, shoot yourself in the foot, and set your children up for having no concept of cooking (which is quite for them). You're doing quite a lot of complaining about what you can't have and you have a lot of power to change that. That you don't want to is on you.When I talked about a balanced diet I was chiefly wondering out loud where you get your variety in proteins. Because if bored with chicken, then, variety. You’ve brushed by any suggestions to try tofu. Or ham outside Thanksgiving.
As you have brushed off with my suggestion to try pasta (eggless of course).
Variety does not equal salad. Veggies also come cooked. Like Spaghetti squash, or anything in the frozen veggie aisle.
Then there’s the fruits.
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.
Both my 8 year old and 15 year old can cook and bake. My daughter has many champion ribbons. I don’t cook. And yes the biggest obstacle is I don’t want to. Growing up my brother started dinner, and I would choose to do farm chores and milk cows in lieu of cooking. He is an excellent cook. My hatred for the activity is strong. It is like sewing. My mother would make me make an outfit, after many long hours, I wouldn’t wear it because the sight of it aggravated me. Same with cooking. When I make something, I know longer want to eat it. The only cooking I do is heating up pizza or nuggets, frying or scrambling an egg. I consider frying bacon an event....
I'd hate to think about the sort of world we would live in if we all took the approach that we would not do anything we didn't like doing.8 -
rheddmobile wrote: »I understand being grumpy and ill-tempered about having to change your life because of health problems. It’s okay to be angry and grieve for your favorite foods. But then get over it and start doing the things you need to do in order to stay healthy.
Sounds like OP is in a grieving/anger phase. that`s fine. but I know when I am in that phase, NOTHING is good enough and i am in zero way open to ANY ideas. nor do i honestly want actual advice/tips i just want to gets things off my chest.
So sounds like this post was just looking for sympathy.
OP once you have had a chance to grieve and moved on to acceptance, please come back and members can try offering some tips and things to try again. Lots of quick things you can meal prep at home super fast.
in the meantime, i'm sorry you are being slammed with so many food allergies and are so busy you cannot make any foods yourself.
Or just bookmark this thread and come back to it when ready to act on suggestions.5 -
Well, if you’re under a curse, you need help you aren’t going to find on a diet forum!rheddmobile wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »
Is this your complete list of "can'ts"?
"egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts"
Though I think earlier on they could eat pork so who knows.
Honestly, this does not seem that hard to deal with. Chicken, beef, lentils, beans, and tofu all are possible. As are most veggies and fruits and grains. I had to cut out a LOT more then this (look at the IC diet) or I would be in debilitating pain and causing damage to my body. I am also allergic to soy which is crazy hard to avoid when it comes to prepared foods or takeout, so I get that. I really do.
Now for some tough advice. OP, you need to just deal with it. You can not be unwilling to accept the help and advice you have gotten here. You seem unwilling to make the changes you need to make for your own health and well being. Fine, that is your decision, but realize you are just making it harder on yourself and your family by doing so. You need to learn how to cook and you need to get over some of the pickiness. There are a HUGE number of foods you can eat, but you seem to not want to even try if it takes some work.
I will never learn to cook. I will need to find foods I can eat in restaurants or carry out. That is being realistic.
Okay, you mentioned a fiancé who cooks, can you work with that? It sounded as though the fiancé was getting fed up, but maybe a little kindness from you could fix that. It’s possible for only one half of a couple to do the cooking.
How do your kids eat, if you can’t even reheat foods without destroying them? And why on earth would you reheat black beans into a dried up mess? This is not hard. You can read, you appear to be of normal intelligence, in order to be quite this hapless you have to be sabotaging yourself on purpose to prove to yourself that you can’t cook. Cooking is nothing but reading and following instructions.
If you have multiple, unusual, serious allergies you will never find foods you can eat in restaurants or carry out without constant risk of a reaction, unless you are wealthy enough to employ your own chef. That’s being realistic.
I have done things to food that other have tried to duplicate without success. I did read how to cook beans in the microwave and followed the directions.
Seriously though, it’s all up to you. Either you accept that in order to have a variety of safe food to eat, you are going to have to make it yourself or find someone or pay someone who is motivated enough to conscientiously make it for you, or you do without while complaining that the allergy fairy doesn’t deliver allergen free fast food. Eating nothing but grits for dinner sounds really sad. It would motivate me to learn how to do simple kitchen tasks. But it doesn’t seem to be enough to motivate you, since you have made not cooking an important part of your self-image. Fair enough. You are a grown-up, as others keep saying, and that means no one can make you cook or eat things you don’t want to. As long as you bear in mind this is your very own choice that you made yourself.
And if you decide later that you want to make a different choice, no one will judge you for changing your mind. Just because you thought of yourself in one way doesn’t mean you have to stick to that forever. I once thought of myself as a person who would never change another person’s adult diaper, and that was something I had to change about myself when a parent had a stroke. When I was first diagnosed with diabetes I was so squeamish about poking myself that I made my husband do my finger sticks for me, and now I do them without thinking twice about it. It’s amazing what you can learn to do when you have the motivation.
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You might add me and look at my diary to get some ideas. I’m allergic to many things too, not all the same as you.
Nuts
Raw stone fruit, bananas, avocado
Raw parsley
Carrots
Mango, papaya, dates
I also don’t eat most meat, just occasionally, so most of what I eat is vegetarian.
I just started logging this week after my second baby was born, but I logged for pretty much a year solid in 2016 June onward.
I’d recommend pasta bakes with lots of cheese (I just found a recipe for a penne bake with roasted bell pepper, onion and cauliflower and it’s amazing), soups with lentils and sweet potatoes, etc. Mexican food is good- you can have black beans, rice, tortillas with no palm oil, cheese, salsa, sour cream. Add spinach and it’s now a taco salad. Quesadillas, burritos etc have most of the same ingredients. Add corn tortillas and you have enchiladas.
You could have mujadarrah (it’s rice and lentils with carmelized onions). You could have Greek yogurt with jam mixed in for breakfast. Spaghetti, macaroni with kidney beans and cheddar.
Basically Italian, Indian, and Mexican food have great vegetarian options that work well for allergies. Also soup. We make our own bread so it won’t have contact with tree nuts; it’s an easy recipe.
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