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Food Allergies and diet
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Op - how come in your original post you said you can’t have pork and dislike steak but then later said you can have pork you just don’t like it except bacon? There are a lot of little inconsistencies here.
And if your kids both cook - one of them winning several awards - why are you eating out every night? Why aren’t they cooking if they enjoy it and re good at it? And how did they learn to cook eating take out every night?
This whole post makes less and less sense the more times I read through the thread.12 -
Aside from the fact that home cooked meals - ideally made as a family - will be healthier for everyone in the household, what about the very real message you are currently sending your children?? Will it be ok for your kids to refuse to do homework because it is too hard? Will they be allowed to start & quit sports or music or student council because they hit a bump in the road? Dropping out of high school has to be easier than having to work hard or trying tutoring or developing new study skills...
Your children are watching & waiting for your example of how to tackle the challenges ahead!!
That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
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That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
What exactly is that supposed to mean? Are you implying that you are somehow better than other single Mom's? Are you implying that you work harder or are some how worthy of more? Wow. Just wow. I'm not even sure why you are here on the message board, clearly you are too fancy for us "normal single moms" and other regular folks who don't want to own Lamborghinis.
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That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
Wow. Your values are your own. But don't run down people for valuing time spent with and caring for their family (yes, sometimes by cooking for them) rather than piling up physical possessions.
Continue eating every meal out, as you seem intent on doing. I don't think there's anything else anyone could say here to help you that you'll accept.14 -
To be blunt OP, if you don't want to help yourself, don't expect others to help you either. You need to take a hard look at yourself.5
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Well, unless someone else is funding that flight and the country club membership, your idea of SES strata are very skewed.
That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
You're poking holes in your own story.11 -
WholeFoods4Lyfe wrote: »
What exactly is that supposed to mean? Are you implying that you are somehow better than other single Mom's? Are you implying that you work harder or are some how worthy of more? Wow. Just wow. I'm not even sure why you are here on the message board, clearly you are too fancy for us "normal single moms" and other regular folks who don't want to own Lamborghinis.
I am implying that my financial portfolio is different than all the other single moms I have encountered. Am I saying all single moms are broke? No... I just haven’t met any that are in my same boat.8 -
I am implying that my financial portfolio is different than all the other single moms I have encountered. Am I saying all single moms are broke? No... I just haven’t met any that are in my same boat.
What does any of this even have to do with you not wanting help? Was your point just that the example you'd rather set for your kids is that money is more important than anything else?15 -
Not all single mothers are the same. Additionally, not everyone with the same "financial portfolio" lives the same type of life. If you've only known single mothers who are all within one SES then you either live in and don't get out of a very small area or you know a wider diversity of single parents (because clearly all single parents are mothers...) than you think.
I am implying that my financial portfolio is different than all the other single moms I have encountered. Am I saying all single moms are broke? No... I just haven’t met any that are in my same boat.5 -
never mind please delete1
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That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
I don't agree that its a huge leap...it was meant to be a bit over the top to drive home the point! As parents (and for the record I am a full time single mother with a full time job and college degrees - one earned since my divorce & with a toddler) we model that sometimes we are dealt a "bad hand" but we acknowledge that it sucks and then we deal with it! These lessons will take one further than a Lamborghini ever will!7 -
Both my 8 year old and 15 year old can cook and bake. My daughter has many champion ribbons. I don’t cook. And yes the biggest obstacle is I don’t want to. Growing up my brother started dinner, and I would choose to do farm chores and milk cows in lieu of cooking. He is an excellent cook. My hatred for the activity is strong. It is like sewing. My mother would make me make an outfit, after many long hours, I wouldn’t wear it because the sight of it aggravated me. Same with cooking. When I make something, I know longer want to eat it. The only cooking I do is heating up pizza or nuggets, frying or scrambling an egg. I consider frying bacon an event....
How do your kids get the food to cook and bake if you only go to the grocery store 3 or 4 times a year?9 -
How do your kids get the food to cook and bake if you only go to the grocery store 3 or 4 times a year?
As I said earlier, we eat out a lot. Mostly local restaurants. Sometimes pizza delivered to pool. Sometimes Chick-fil-a. We don’t eat at any other fast food places.
My fiancé stops into store to get basics like milk, coffee, tea, drinks, snacks. He cooks sometimes. Like throwing chicken on the smoker.Well and now my fiancé has given up cooking anything because it’s so hard to find things I can eat.
I never thought I would be stuck with eating grits for dinner. But when the choices are that or salad...
I ordered a cheesesteak for lunch, because I just could not do the lettuce, shredded carrots, mushrooms and spoon of black beans... of course I got a reaction. By theory it should have been fine.2 -
First you need to go to a doctor and get a proper allergy test done. It could be how the food is preserved or cured rather than the food itself. If it’s an intolerance then these can sometimes be reversed. Then have a dietician help you once your results are in.3
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That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
Not sure what your alleged financial status has to do with anything? At one point in his life, my father was very weathly (sidenote he lives much more modestly now as wealth can be fleeting so it's not something that's the best thing to build one's self worth on). He ran a company with 5000 employees and lived in a house that wad 2 elevators in it. But even then, when he was around, he always cooked for his family. Cooking: it's not just for the poors.
But if you are of an upper financial status, that provides you with resources to help you tackle this, so your desire not to is even more of your own choice, and your circumstances are of your own making. You could pay for cooking lessons, to learn how to cook. You could pay for therapy/counseling, to address the issues from your past that are preventing you from making this simple and positive change in your life. So you do have plenty of options. But only you can actually do them.12 -
I have tried tofu, ham, actual steak, alligator, venison... I just don’t like it.
Don’t care for spaghetti squash either. Nor sweet potato fries. I have always been picky. This is making it way harder.
I can’t cook. Nor do I have a desire to do it. I know that seems crazy to everyone, but that’s how it is. I have packed a lunch of a salad every day this week from home. Monday I heated up black beans and turned them into petrified rabbit turds. Every day since I have thrown my salad away, and ordered something that I wanted to eat.As I said earlier, we eat out a lot. Mostly local restaurants. Sometimes pizza delivered to pool. Sometimes Chick-fil-a. We don’t eat at any other fast food places.
My fiancé stops into store to get basics like milk, coffee, tea, drinks, snacks. He cooks sometimes. Like throwing chicken on the smoker.Well and now my fiancé has given up cooking anything because it’s so hard to find things I can eat.
I never thought I would be stuck with eating grits for dinner. But when the choices are that or salad...
I ordered a cheesesteak for lunch, because I just could not do the lettuce, shredded carrots, mushrooms and spoon of black beans... of course I got a reaction. By theory it should have been fine.
It's like we don't even have to try to poke holes, they're already there.6 -
Not sure what your alleged financial status has to do with anything? At one point in his life, my father was very weathly (sidenote he lives much more modestly now as wealth can be fleeting so it's not something that's the best thing to build one's self worth on). He ran a company with 5000 employees and lived in a house that wad 2 elevators in it. But even then, when he was around, he always cooked for his family. Cooking: it's not just for the poors.
But if you are of an upper financial status, that provides you with resources to help you tackle this, so your desire not to is even more of your own choice, and your circumstances are of your own making. You could pay for cooking lessons, to learn how to cook. You could pay for therapy/counseling, to address the issues from your past that are preventing you from making this simple and positive change in your life. So you do have plenty of options. But only you can actually do them.
Great idea! If you cant cook, and are independently wealthy, why not take cooking classes?4 -
Not sure what your alleged financial status has to do with anything? At one point in his life, my father was very weathly (sidenote he lives much more modestly now as wealth can be fleeting so it's not something that's the best thing to build one's self worth on). He ran a company with 5000 employees and lived in a house that wad 2 elevators in it. But even then, when he was around, he always cooked for his family. Cooking: it's not just for the poors.
But if you are of an upper financial status, that provides you with resources to help you tackle this, so your desire not to is even more of your own choice, and your circumstances are of your own making. You could pay for cooking lessons, to learn how to cook. You could pay for therapy/counseling, to address the issues from your past that are preventing you from making this simple and positive change in your life. So you do have plenty of options. But only you can actually do them.
That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
I have written 40 books, and, while only a few have ever made it onto a "best-sellers" list, I can still afford to do things like building a brand new home on a few acres of land we recently purchased, and yet, we still sit down for a home cooked meal, as a family, almost every night of the week.
Weird...8 -
So only not-wealthy people waste time cooking for themselves nowadays? Not living in a large, beautiful home myself, I had no idea. This is what happens when you fraternize with the no-hope-of-a-future-Lamborghini masses, we just don't understand.
If we had known there was a country club involved we would all have known better than to suggest the lower-class idea of preparing your own meals. Isn't there a Jeeves there or someone similar who can prepare meals to your allergy and picky eater specifications?
What's weird is this thread started with a very straightforward questions asking for suggestions:I have a few new food allergies to work around. I also mostly eat out. Help! I am struggling to find food I can eat. I had a BLT sandwich with no mayo for dinner.
I can’t have egg, white potatoes, coconut, palm oil, turkey, lamb, pork, strawberries, fish or nuts. I dislike steak and get tired of chicken.
I liked salad with toppings like egg, or chicken salad which are now a no go.
Anyone have suggestions of what I can eat?
I have a feeling with my new limited diet the weight is naturally going to come off me. I already miss potatoes...
And now here we are. I have to question motives and whether any of this is even real, although I can't imagine getting enjoyment out of running a bunch of good Samaritans in circles for 10 pages. <shrug>13 -
That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.Not sure what your alleged financial status has to do with anything? At one point in his life, my father was very wealthy (sidenote he lives much more modestly now as wealth can be fleeting so it's not something that's the best thing to build one's self worth on). He ran a company with 5000 employees and lived in a house that wad 2 elevators in it. But even then, when he was around, he always cooked for his family. Cooking: it's not just for the poors.
But if you are of an upper financial status, that provides you with resources to help you tackle this, so your desire not to is even more of your own choice, and your circumstances are of your own making. You could pay for cooking lessons, to learn how to cook. You could pay for therapy/counseling, to address the issues from your past that are preventing you from making this simple and positive change in your life. So you do have plenty of options. But only you can actually do them.
I used to work for a multi-millionaire. He and his wife both cooked.
Another wealthy employer had a live-in cook.8 -
If none of the above appeals to you, hire a private chef or cook who can cater to your dietary needs.11
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The emphasis on home cooking is not to tie you to the kitchen but to control the ingredients due to your life threatening allergies.
The ready made food industry is not geared to satisfy your preferences.
Restaurants can try and keep their ingredients separate to cater to individual preferences, but they will never be vigilant enough.
This leaves controlling the ingredients and cooking at home. It doesn’t have to be you. You have resources to hire out and you have enterprising cooks in your own home.
If you want to do this grouchy, that’s on you.10 -
That is quite the leap... I have accepted many challenges. One being buying foreclosures, fixing them and selling them by myself. I have always been a lower income single mom, but have put myself in a position that we live in a beautiful large house in an excellent area. I just put my teen on a plane to go to Italy. We belong to a country club. I an afford to eat out....We don’t live the normal single mom lifestyle. That was my how I chose to focus my energy. But you sit home and cook if that’s the lesson you want to give your kids. My son wants to own a Lamborghini at some point. He knows with hard work, he can achieve that goal.
Doesn't the chef at the country club cater to your dietary needs? If so, just eat there. If not, find a new country club.14 -
Eating popcorn that I popped myself.
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If none of the above appeals to you, hire a private chef or cook who can cater to your dietary needs.
This is exactly what I was going to say. You made a point out of saying how much discretionary income you have, so direct some of those funds towards hiring a private chef who can prepare your meals.4 -
The emphasis on home cooking is not to tie you to the kitchen but to control the ingredients due to your life threatening allergies.
The ready made food industry is not geared to satisfy your preferences.
Restaurants can try and keep their ingredients separate to cater to individual preferences, but they will never be vigilant enough.
This leaves controlling the ingredients and cooking at home. It doesn’t have to be you. You have resources to hire out and you have enterprising cooks in your own home.
If you want to do this grouchy, that’s on you.
That's what I keep coming back to. I'm shocked that someone with legitimate life-threatening allergies would feel *safe* eating all of their food prepared outside the home.
Feel too good to cook? Fine. Hire a personal chef. There are lots of people who are happy to take money from people who think that earning means they have to spend it. And they'll be better about it than takeout restaurants who can't guarantee safe-from-cross-contamination spaces.10 -
I'm not sure why you are so adverse to cooking. You can have everything you want if you cook it. It's also strange to me that you are intentionally further restricting your diet because you won't cook and are "picky." I think you need to take a hard, honest look at yourself and decide whether or not you are happy spending hours wandering around the store looking for sweets or hours on MFP defending your decisions.7
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collectingblues wrote: »
That's what I keep coming back to. I'm shocked that someone with legitimate life-threatening allergies would feel *safe* eating all of their food prepared outside the home.
Feel too good to cook? Fine. Hire a personal chef. There are lots of people who are happy to take money from people who think that earning means they have to spend it. And they'll be better about it than takeout restaurants who can't guarantee safe-from-cross-contamination spaces.
This!! My husband is a private chef in the Bay Area. Menus are designed 100% around client preference and need.2
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