Guy friends

TulieRose21
TulieRose21 Posts: 49 Member
edited December 21 in Chit-Chat
Is it possible for guys to be just friends with women, without ulterior motives?

If so, where are they??
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  • Cahgetsfit
    Cahgetsfit Posts: 1,912 Member
    I think so yes? I have guy friends. They have not all tried to *kitten* me.
  • TulieRose21
    TulieRose21 Posts: 49 Member
    Lol. I would definitely welcome some gay guy friends, if any read this.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    just find a guy who doesn’t find u attractive and there u go
    Now I’m conflicted
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Yes! They're all over the place and they normally like other guys........ I kid. yes its possible

    :laugh: you bad
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  • showjefb
    showjefb Posts: 109 Member
    Yes. Probably in the minority, but I’m not looking for hookups or relationship or drama... unless that’s what you want then I’m in. Lol. Joking. Just here for innocent fun, friend, support.
  • CoffeeAndContour
    CoffeeAndContour Posts: 1,466 Member
    The majority of my friends are male, we’re just friends. I’ve not had anything with any of them.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    👋
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    I've had one male friend but he was gay so...
  • dpwellman
    dpwellman Posts: 3,271 Member
    Yeah. I have two examples.
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    I have friends who are men. They are happily married or we have known each other long enough to have a healthy distaste for each other. Or they live too far away to even contemplate hooking up
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Just befriend cats, you can’t go wrong
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    edited July 2019
    I have male friends who have never hit on me and of whom I believe are not friends with me for sexual reasons. They would likely reject me for various reasons if I made a pass at them. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a level of attraction there, but it’s in the background.

    Even among the friends who are interested in sex, that isn’t why we’re friends. Sex would be a bonus if it were included, but the friendship is great without it.

    As a young woman, these kinds of relationships were harder to find, probably because so many of us were single and unattached. I remember being disappointed more than once when I realized someone I thought was a friend “only wanted one thing.”
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    i've been friends with many a male person. they have a tendency of thinking of me more as a little sister.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    iMago wrote: »

    The sex thing always gets in the way
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  • Spadesheart
    Spadesheart Posts: 479 Member
    Depends on the guy really. For me, I have friends that I would be sexually attracted to, but long term it's clear in a relationship setting the personalities wouldn't work at all, so I basically have no interest.

    I think there just has to be good reasons not to. They're (or you are) in a relationship, or long term it wouldn't work, or the setting in which we interact would make anything other than friendship messy. Etc.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Also, I have been friend zoned a lot.
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Also, I have been friend zoned a lot.

    Wanna be my friend? 'Cause I will mount you right now

    I am shocked and yet not surprised at all. 🤣
  • MikePTY
    MikePTY Posts: 3,814 Member
    The vast majority of my friends are female. I have an easier time forming female friendships than male ones to be honest. But I am also happily married and have zero interest in any of my female friends for anything other than friendship.

    Sometimes there can certainly be ulterior motives in a friendship. And some men (I am sure it happens the other way to, but I do notice it more with men) are friends with women hoping there will be "more". But there are also plenty who just want friendship.
  • busyPK
    busyPK Posts: 3,788 Member
    I have two guy friends and it's nothing more than friendship, however I don't find it an easy thing to find. Usually one of the individuals wants more/finds the other attractive and at some point makes that known and then it's just awkward.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    I have male friends who have never hit on me and of whom I believe are not friends with me for sexual reasons. They would likely reject me for various reasons if I made a pass at them. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a level of attraction there, but it’s in the background.

    Even among the friends who are interested in sex, that isn’t why we’re friends. Sex would be a bonus if it were included, but the friendship is great without it.

    As a young woman, these kinds of relationships were harder to find, probably because so many of us were single and unattached. I remember being disappointed more than once when I realized someone I thought was a friend “only wanted one thing.”

    I just want to edit the damn whom out of there. Then we can be friends
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