Better, not older
caco_ethes
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I see a lot of posts about people feeling old, and I’m at the age now where a fair number of these posts are made by people younger than me. We may not all be the same age but we do have one thing in common, every single solitary one of us: we’re the oldest we’ve ever been. And man does it suck on the days you feel it.
But what are some things that have come with age that have made you better? What have you learned, cultivated, or experienced that make the aging worthwhile?
But what are some things that have come with age that have made you better? What have you learned, cultivated, or experienced that make the aging worthwhile?
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I used to feel i had to be perfect to be well liked, when really its our imperfections that make us relatable. Feeling unafraid of being my true self is a freedom i have now that i never had when i was younger, and I wouldn’t trade it7
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Another freedom is in just telling the truth. I used to lie a lot, usually out of fear of repercussions or something. Now I’m able to tell the actual truth and not some version that makes me look better.
This isn’t directly due to aging but i had a conversation with a friend about this and we agreed it was easier now5 -
I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.5
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I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.
Totally get it. And the people who see the real you and stick around are gonna be the ones you value the most anyway.1 -
I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.
Agreed with this / friends or acquaintances or overrated and come and go - some true friends are not overrated and will be there like fam but not all - so I tell my kids if you lose a few don’t sweat it1 -
One of the most important things I realized recently is that there are a very limited number of people in your life who truly love and care for you. People are always there for you when the sun is shinning. The ones that become your light when your world is dark are the people that are irreplaceable. Negative people on the other hand aren't just expendable, they need to be excised from your life. Part of growing older is learning to deal with having less energy. We certainly don't need to be around sullen life draining people that constantly bring us down.8
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I can dress according to my own sense of style without worrying about the opinions of other people. It took me a long time to get to this point. Sadly, I allowed friends to influence me way too much (well beyond the teenage years), and there are still some clothes in my closet that aren't "me".
I'm at the top of my game professionally. My expertise is highly valued. Something that is only achieved with years and experience.3 -
I got nuthin'.3
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My MIL respects me more.
And I respect her more because i get now how hard it is to do this mothering thing4 -
I just care a lot less overall and wow, what a concept.3
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Patience, I had a short fuse when I was younger.
Now, I listen more than I talk.
I’m sure there’s more that I can’t remember, lol.
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I have a greater appreciation for youth.3
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »i’m not great at self evaluation performance reviews but maybe something about how i adopted a growth mindset or realized human potential is not fixed or that while multiple iterations were necessary on the path to final review going forward these changes will provide the information needed to fine tune the final product to best fit the customers specifications
I like thinking that you’re both the product and the customer. ❤️1 -
caco_ethes wrote: »I see a lot of posts about people feeling old, and I’m at the age now where a fair number of these posts are made by people younger than me. We may not all be the same age but we do have one thing in common, every single solitary one of us: we’re the oldest we’ve ever been. And man does it suck on the days you feel it.
But what are some things that have come with age that have made you better? What have you learned, cultivated, or experienced that make the aging worthwhile?
I can outmean, outbitch, outfox, outsmart, outlast, and outwit any of these younger whippersnappers. They only have me beat in the bathroom dept. (I always lose in the "lets see who doesn't pee while doing jumping jacks and laughing and sneezing" contest)5 -
Once I turned 30, I started noticing subtle changes that come with aging like a few white hairs, occasional stiffness, random aches and pains, and I can’t handle liquor any more.
I am 37 but don’t feel or look old. Plus, I’m wiser, more confident, and have my life together now.2 -
Moving into my late 40's; my IDGAF is so much stronger nowadays.7
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Now that I’ve achieved a certain level of maturity I delete more comments than I post.6
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58 and not feeling at all old. I definitely don't sweat the small stuff like I used to when I was younger. All in all I'm probably happier now than I was then🤔😀2
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I’ve learned to think first, react second. I used to be so quick to respond, and it definitely showcased the worst parts of me.1
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Now that I’m older, I’m better at:
1. Reading from the menu at arm’s length
2. Judging whether the feeling of morning after is worth the drinking the night before
3. Making checklists and multi-tasking
4. Binge-watching shows (particularly the ones I’ve already seen)
5. Avoiding dead-end and “remember when...” conversations5 -
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I used to get scared of movies....alien
Stories, ghost stories, etc. but not a darn thing scares me now. I miss that.1 -
pizzamyheart wrote: »I used to get scared of movies....alien
Stories, ghost stories, etc. but not a darn thing scares me now. I miss that.
Ohhh reeeally ? Come to Australia, I think I could find you a few scary things 😁😉0 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »pizzamyheart wrote: »I used to get scared of movies....alien
Stories, ghost stories, etc. but not a darn thing scares me now. I miss that.
Ohhh reeeally ? Come to Australia, I think I could find you a few scary things 😁😉
Heck no! I’ve seen those giant spiders on the Internet! That’s terrifying.1 -
pizzamyheart wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »pizzamyheart wrote: »I used to get scared of movies....alien
Stories, ghost stories, etc. but not a darn thing scares me now. I miss that.
Ohhh reeeally ? Come to Australia, I think I could find you a few scary things 😁😉
Heck no! I’ve seen those giant spiders on the Internet! That’s terrifying.
See, you have it in you to still be scared.. imagine one of those big suckers dropping onto your shoulder 🕷😁0 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »as i cross the halfway point of life and begin the march towards death i feel myself growing closer to god and displaying the wisdom that comes with age and in that way all my opinions and actions become more infallible and god-like, unlike u younger millennials always buying avocado toast and getting liberal arts degrees for no good reason
There is so much irony in this, you sure you aren't a millennial?
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I am younger and better.2
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Tankiscool wrote: »I am younger and better.
Prove it1 -
My "I-don't-give-a-*kitten*-o-meter" is permanently set to 10.
I give zero farks about anything anymore.
I'm 43.
Oh, and other than that, I have decided that telling the truth is always better, even if it sucks to hear. So I no longer make up excuses about already having plans on x day when someone invites me to something I don't want to go to. I just say "sorry, don't want to go". This applies to just about everything. I do always try to say it in a nice way of course, but I just don't make half-arsed excuses anymore. I just say "no" to anything that I don't want to do.2
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