Accountability

Lynda is right. It's up to each individual to want to change. I had a little push from my Dr but that was it. She had no idea that was the spark to get me to lose 60 lbs so far. I see her in two months, she'll be shocked! You can do this, if you really want it! Good luck!

mpowers666 wrote: »

All I wanted was support, not negativity. I am starting to do this all by myself so if you dont want to support people, then dont write on someones post

@mpowers666 I can see where you may be coming from and many of us have done the same. Maybe 50 years ago I was introduced to a phase, "If it is to be it is up to me". That phrase has made life much easier because the power of 1 is huge in these matters.

Best of success.

@mpowers666

I don't think people are being dismissive or negative but rather trying to help you become stronger by changing the question. It's kind of the 'teach a man to fish' theory? The way I see it, if you rely on others they will fail you because they don't make your decisions and aren't there all the time. Can people motivate you? Sure. But motivation only lasts so long, motivation will eventually fail you. If you want to be successful, and I would assume everyone here wants you to be, you need to be consistent and that means eliminating the the thought process of needing something. The way I read it, you're being told that you have that power. You are not dependent on something external to you.

That said, everyone is different. We all need education and even the occasional support of others some days. It is a massive undertaking and confusing, full of dogmatically defended false mythos and slickly marketed pseudoscience. So, while I believe the only way to do this successfully is to change how you view things so that it is part of your identity and not something you endure or need motivation for... let me change the question a bit further. When you say you need someone to hold you accountable, for what are you really asking?

To have some friends who can see your diary, so they see if you're eating right? Some help figuring out how to formulate a food plan? Help figuring out what to eat to accomplish those goals? (I struggled with that a lot.) Maybe a group that posts their progress weekly? How is do you imagine being 'held accountable', because people do all that stuff to help each other constantly. Sometimes, the greatest challenge is figuring out the right question.