feel like crying :-(

You have come to far...

self sabbotage is NOT the anwser...

pick up your spirit and tell yourself, " I AM A HOT MAMA!!!"

You can do it!

Hang in there, as tough as it may seem. A few weeks ago I reached the point where I didn't have to buy plus size clothes and just started freaking out because I didn't know what to do. Then I ate like crap and started sabotaging myself. I think we do it because we are outside our comfort zone and, being heavier for such a long time, we have to adjust to our new "normal".

It will pass, just stick with it. It took me two weeks to get out of my rut, but that is why I use MFP. We all need encouragement and support, whether its online or in real life. You could tell him that your comment hurt you because I am sure it wasn't meant to intentionally upset you.

You are strong and smart and beautiful and so very close to your goal. You will have good days and not so good days but that's why they call it life. Don't give up, you have come so far

I feel like this right now too. I'm working so hard but i'm plateaued right now and it feels horrible. good luck, sweetie.

Aww that is sucky. I hope your other half does something nice for you to help pick up your spirits and to distract you from food while you feel this way ...You look fantastic by the way. How much weight have you lost??

I think we've all felt this at one time or another. Try to think of it more of a lifestyle than a diet. Make sure you eat a few of the things you miss, all in proportion, and hopefully you won't feel you are depriving yourself. As for your other half saying you looked big, blame it on the clothes you happened to be wearing. I look bigger in some things than others. I just feel that much better when I DO put on something I look better in. Hang in there!! You are doing so good!!!!

I understand exactly how you feel. I am told that I am looking better but I still feel like a oinker. I just feel like it is too much right now. I will not give in to that feeling though. :explode: I cannot afford to do that. :noway:

That's exactly how I feel TODAY!. I haven't been this "small" in YEARS and yet I feel like I haven't lost an ounce Plus it's an emotional day anyway. My mom passed away 5 years ago today, so too many emotions in my head.

Yep, things like this really hit you hard..I am so sorry for your loss...its always hard to lose your Mom...you will never get a better friend ;-)

You've lost so much already and '145' is there on the horizon willing to greet you, you just have to reach out as far as you can and grab with your fingertips and pull yourself towards it I looked at your profile and its says the reason you want to lose weight is to prove all those who think you can't do it, wrong - so this is the time to remind yourself of that and remember tomorrow is a new day! Go for it!

Yeah I say get some retail therapy!!!! do something to cheer yourself up that isn't eating.
Maybe do a new exercise class or something.
go out and play with your georgeous little girl, take her swimming or bike riding.
Buy a nice dress or something that you look great in, something you couldn't wear before.
Do something to elevate your spirits.
You have done great its just a hump try not to focus on it and shift your mind past that.

I did some therapy once and was told that negative thoughts produce negative thoughts, its kind of a chemical chain reaction, and thats why positive thinking is so important. So next time you think that positive thought think STOP and visualise something like a red light/stop sign, and then immediately think of a positive thought to neutralise the negative thought.
Like "oh lord I feel so fat and useless today - STOP - but I have got so far and this time next week I will feel completely different.

that was garbled . I'm useless at advice really but maybe that helps!
keep smiling.

we all have these days...hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs. You can do it! you only have 13 lbs to go so don't let it get you down. remember-you probably feel big because you have loose skin. you just need some time for that to go. It's like that with me. I had 3 kids in 2 and a 1/2 years.
I'm so glad you posted your feelings so you can be lifted up. That takes guts. Loosing weight is never done by you alone. Make sure you express to your hubbie how you feel. he wants to support you too. I'm sure he will help you instead of foolishly saying stuff he probably didn't think about. HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

I know what you're goin thru...I didn't lose a lot of weight, but people still noticed....the one person who didn't notice, was the ONE I expected and wanted to notice. It was humiliating...and I felt as huge as ever before..first I thought about not eating ANYTHING..hoping more weight would come off faster, so that he WOULD notice....but then I thought about saying "screw it!!"..and stocking up on Dove ice cream. I know I'm NOT gonna give up tho...because I love the changes "I'M" seeing....whether he notices or not. Maybe by the time he notices..I won't care. It sure woulda made my day though. Stick with it...I am!!!

Sorry you are going through that. The whole weight loss/body image stuff can touch us to the core, sometimes even catch us by surprise.

Wow. You've lost 47 pounds?! You're a new person! Have you gone into the store and picked up a 40 pound bag of dog food? Those are heavy.

I don't know what your relationship is like with your other half, but have you considered saying the following to him in a reasonable, respectful tone? "hey, I don't know what you meant, if you were trying to be constructive or what, but that hurt my feelings. I'm not asking you to lie to me, but want you to know that I'm going to tell you when something you say hurts."

I think withdrawing into yourself (self-sabotage) can snowball and foster poor decisions. I know conflict is awkward for some. But sometimes an honest, frank discussion can get stuff out in the open in a way that makes it much easier to move past.

Anyway, that's a lot of advice from a stranger. If none of it resonates with you, no harm done. I do sincerely hope you feel better and focus on make good choices, moving forward.

Don't give in! You are worth it. Look at what a great job you've done so far!

Let me share something with you. My wife and I ran our first 5K yesterday. I looked around at the start of the race, and even though I'm nearly 35 lbs. down and the lightest I've been as an adult, I turned to my wife and said "I may not be fat anymore, but I'm still the fattest guy here." It was true, too. Then I took on my first 5K...with a goal of running it in 34 min. and ran it in 30:17. I was the median time for the race, finishing 17th out of 33 runners. I may have felt physically big before the race, but I felt psychologically huge when it was done.

We are always are own worst critics, and when loved ones speak out of turn it does cut deep. But it's all just perception, yes? Find your positive spirit and you'll be back on track. Feel hugely successful, 'cause you are!

Hang on in there honey, you have lost a staggering amount.....you are amazing!