Who here has been married more than once??

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
edited October 1 in Chit-Chat
I've seen more and more people say they will never get married again.

I'm curious on your stance - never do it again? have done it again? would do it again?

I'd do it again with the right person. Although It's becoming clear he doesn't exist :grumble:
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  • dreambodin2011
    dreambodin2011 Posts: 166 Member
    Married only once to a guy who had been married previously. Been together 16 yrs this year - all good.

    He had 2 kids when I met him and now I'm a 'step-nanna' !! Something I didn't imagine at this age!!

    He was wiser 2nd time round but hopefully I won't have to try it a second time!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Married only once to a guy who had been married previously. Been together 16 yrs this year - all good.

    He had 2 kids when I met him and now I'm a 'step-nanna' !! Something I didn't imagine at this age!!

    He was wiser 2nd time round but hopefully I won't have to try it a second time!

    Any children together?
  • maryd523
    maryd523 Posts: 661 Member
    Oh, I'm sure he's out there somewhere...

    In my opinion, marriage has become something of a joke. It's just like "dating seriously" with more legalities involved. Once you want to break up, that's what you do.

    What's the point?

    Edit: Despite my cynicism, I still do imagine myself getting married someday. My parents have been married 39 happy years, so I know it CAN work...it just doesn't seem to very often.
  • raevynn
    raevynn Posts: 666 Member
    "A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience" - my second husband.

    And, I'm his second wife.

    We are both much, much happier together. :heart:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Oh, I'm sure he's out there somewhere...

    In my opinion, marriage has become something of a joke. It's just like "dating seriously" with more legalities involved. Once you want to break up, that's what you do.

    What's the point?

    I'm an accountant. Want me to answer that?? :laugh:
  • McBody
    McBody Posts: 1,703 Member
    I originally got married at 21, despite everyone's protests, and then promptly divorced when he started getting physically violent. I swore I wouldn't get married again, and didn't really date much- until I met the right person. We've been married for 8 months now and it gets better every day. It's a leap of faith to get back into a relationship after a divorce... but there are still good guys out there :) Good luck!
  • BecksgotBack
    BecksgotBack Posts: 385 Member
    i'm in the same boat. i'd do it again. the longer i'm single...the older i get....the pickier i get. i refuse to settle. i much rather be alone than jump into something just because i'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. so my search for Mr. Right continues...and i continue to have fun with the Mr. Right Now's.
  • dreambodin2011
    dreambodin2011 Posts: 166 Member
    we have two daughters, 11 and 9. They love their older (half) brother and his son (my daughters' nephew!) - we work well as a blended family.
  • MeMe2grands
    MeMe2grands Posts: 11 Member
    This is my second and it has definitely been better the SECOND TIME AROUND! My husband has no kids and I have two adult sons from my first marriage. Together we have four wonderful grandchildren whom we absolutely adore :flowerforyou:
  • beccarockslife
    beccarockslife Posts: 816 Member
    I'm married currently to the boy I met at 18 :) We have one child together, we got married at (me) 21 and him 24. We hit a bump last year, spent 6 months apart working out personal issues but we are back and stronger than ever now.

    My dad divorced from my mother when I was 6 months old, brought me up then married my teacher (!) when I was 6. He's still happily married to her now (I'm 29). No more kids though.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    i'm in the same boat. i'd do it again. the longer i'm single...the older i get....the pickier i get. i refuse to settle. i much rather be alone than jump into something just because i'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. so my search for Mr. Right continues...and i continue to have fun with the Mr. Right Now's.

    You may be my soulmate.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    we have two daughters, 11 and 9. They love their older (half) brother and his son (my daughters' nephew!) - we work well as a blended family.

    That's awesome :) I have a little dude, and I find dating those without kids to be slightly more challenging than dating someone that has a children of his own.
  • MindyBlack
    MindyBlack Posts: 954 Member
    I am in the never do it again category unless Jon Bon Jovi suddenly finds himself single.
    Serioulsy I have been married twice and both were disasters for very different reasons. I don't see myself doing it again. It would take some sort of miracle to convince me.
    There are lots of wonderful men out there. The problem is they happen to be taken.
  • JellyJaks
    JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
    I've been married twice. Told my current husband that I would be a widow before I was divorced again and he married me anyways so I figure he's worth it :laugh:
  • Dreamingirl80
    Dreamingirl80 Posts: 6
    After my first marriage, I felt like I never wanted to go down that road again. But... I waited and love found me again. I am very happily married now. My daughter from the previous marriage was 4 at the time, but he took us both as a package and never looked back. He legally adopted her and though she is now 10, we just had our first baby together 5 months ago. It's perfect. We always tell eachother that we had to go through the heartache and hurt to get to where we are and find the one we are destined to be with.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    I have only been married once, but my wife was married twice, so we have been together 20 years, so I am glad she did it again with me. I'm glad I have such an awesome wife :-) !!
  • lynnspittal
    lynnspittal Posts: 28
    3 times! A divorce, a death and now hopefully a successful marriage! ((17 years now). Biggest and most difficult issue out of all that are the step parent / child relationships! Not always easy. But worth the effort in the long run. between us we now have 8 grandkids and one on the way. Awesome stuff!
  • JellyJaks
    JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
    "A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience" - my second husband.

    And, I'm his second wife.

    We are both much, much happier together. :heart:

    I LOVE that quote!
  • BecksgotBack
    BecksgotBack Posts: 385 Member
    i'm in the same boat. i'd do it again. the longer i'm single...the older i get....the pickier i get. i refuse to settle. i much rather be alone than jump into something just because i'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. so my search for Mr. Right continues...and i continue to have fun with the Mr. Right Now's.

    You may be my soulmate.

    seriously...i might just start swinging that way. i've been told vag is the way to go
  • kimtpa1417
    kimtpa1417 Posts: 461 Member
    I am divorced once and in a 5 year relationship- he has never been married and doesnt have kids- i have one son.

    I learned alot from my first marriage. I believe in marriage and my honey and I talk about it but he isnt rushing to get there and neither am I.

    To some people being married is very important. To me not so much. My boyfriend and I have so much more together than my ex and I ever had. And we are both happy with the way things are.

    Besides its scary when myself and most of the people I know are divorces or going through it
  • shack1157
    shack1157 Posts: 97 Member
    Married for over 32 years to my high school sweetheart! Met when we were 13 and 14 years old! Only have one child a beautiful daughter who is now 25 and married. As much enjoyment as I have had with this woman and how much I love her, I would not want to get married again if something was to happen to her! I would hate to be back into the whole dating and getting to know someone all over again! So I would just stay single and live every mimute to it fullest!
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Once I separated from my first husband, I was completely sure I'd never live with a man again, let alone get married. I dated, lived alone, did my own thing, found myself, and lived a very full single life. I never in a million years thought that one of the guys I was *very casually* dating would end up being my best friend, a wonderful, supportive partner, and my fiancee.


    Our wedding is set for June 9, 2012. So much for that "NEVER" stance I took on living together and being married thing. But, I was not looking for a long-term partner when I met him, and we dated for a long time before it got serious... and if I had not gone through all of the things I did with my first husband, I don't think I'd be ready for a real marriage this time.
  • ItsMeLori
    ItsMeLori Posts: 346
    My second marriage and hubby's first marriage. I have 3 kids from previous marriage and my hubby and I do not have children together. We have been married 17 yrs.
  • ladycomix
    ladycomix Posts: 104
    I've been married twice. The first time, I was 18, in the military and away from my controlling parents for the first time. We got married when I got orders for Hawaii...and he got orders for Korea. He's not a bad guy at ALL, but we had way too much growing up to do.

    The second time was an unmitigated disaster. Wasn't until he hit me whilst he was drunk and I was pregnant that I got out. It's been 5 years since the daredevil was born, we live across the country (moved from NC to CA) and I can somedays still feel the scars.

    Will I ever get married again? Probably not. I've got too much work to do on ME at the moment to go looking for the elusive right guy. But you know what? I'm happy this way..happier than I've ever been.
  • aegira
    aegira Posts: 201 Member
    Have been joyfully divorced and happily single for 15 years. I made a promise to myself that I would not get involved with anyone until my youngest was 18, well he is now 25 :smile:
    By pure chance or incredible accident I have now met a person when I wasn't even looking. It's his second time around as well, so we are taking it carefully. I am not against marriage again this time however my eyes will be fully opened.
    I think there is good and bad in both sexes, it's finding the good ones that makes for an interesting adventure :wink:
  • june_warner
    june_warner Posts: 126 Member
    I got married at 18 and was married for 14 years. I got a divorce when I decided enough was enough. It was in a bad relationship from the beginning. I stayed for the kids but when my daughter seen the physical abuse that is when I took my kids and left. I have dated and I am in a relationship now. I have been with my b/f for 4 years. I do not plan on getting married to him. I am actually getting a plan in line so I can move on and be ok. I never thought I would want to get married again but I am getting older and I am having that urge to be a wife again, but with the right person. I believe there is someone out there that will love me and respect me as a woman. I am a package deal with my daughters so I know I have to be picky to find Mr. Right!!!
  • grmpy1
    grmpy1 Posts: 462 Member
    On my 2nd marriage... I was previously married for 25 years. My husband was married for 20 years. I have 2 grown girls, he has 2 grown boys. We have 2 grandkids, one from each of my daughters.

    Hubby and I have been married for over 12 years now and each year gets better. We definitely got it right this time.
  • Contrary03
    Contrary03 Posts: 289 Member
    I'm like my father~ 3rd times a charm. First married when i was 19,...beat on me one time that's all it took... i was gone. Second marriage, we lived together for 6yrs and was planning a cruise for vacation, so he said let's make it our honeymoon... we fought the entire time. Stayed 'un-happily' married till he decided he'd rather spend his time in prison than at home with me and 2 babies..(DUI'S) So, i had just about given up on finding real happiness until i ran into someone i had met a long time ago, but we were both married at the time. There was always an attraction... just couldn't do anything about it. His wife had passed away and i was single again. I think it was meant to be. I believe there's someone out there for everyone... it just might mean you have to kiss ALOT of toads before you find your prince charming:)
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm like my father~ 3rd times a charm. First married when i was 19,...beat on me one time that's all it took... i was gone. Second marriage, we lived together for 6yrs and was planning a cruise for vacation, so he said let's make it our honeymoon... we fought the entire time. Stayed 'un-happily' married till he decided he'd rather spend his time in prison than at home with me and 2 babies..(DUI'S) So, i had just about given up on finding real happiness until i ran into someone i had met a long time ago, but we were both married at the time. There was always an attraction... just couldn't do anything about it. His wife had passed away and i was single again. I think it was meant to be. I believe there's someone out there for everyone... it just might mean you have to kiss ALOT of toads before you find your prince charming:)

    I'm totally cool with kissing a LOT of toads...
  • solpwr
    solpwr Posts: 1,039 Member
    i'm in the same boat. i'd do it again. the longer i'm single...the older i get....the pickier i get. i refuse to settle. i much rather be alone than jump into something just because i'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. so my search for Mr. Right continues...and i continue to have fun with the Mr. Right Now's.
    This me except opposite gender, and I can't just DO a woman. Means too much to me. Give my heart before my seed. Haven't found the right one for my heart.
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