Co-Worker's Comments

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It sounds like she was trying to be nice and supportive but said it in a backhanded kind of way. There might be some jealousy on her part that you're actually taking care of yourself and it's working. So as hard as it is try not to let it get to you. You're doing a great job!

I have lost 7 pounds so far and one of my female co-workers noticed today. She asked if I was trying to lose weight or if it was a "happy accident". I told her that I am working towards losing weight and getting fit and toned. Her reply? "Don't be discouraged if you can't lose it all." This really hurt me and it was irritating as well because I consider her a friend. I don't think it's coming from jealousy, but it discouraged me a bit. So far, my loss has been slow but steady and I realize it's going to take a while. However, her comment has made my fears about not being able to do this re-surface. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Sometimes, people don't fully consider how something sounds before it leaves their mouth. I've done this. I'm sure you've done this. And your coworker just did this as well. I would try not to take it to heart -- it sounded mean. It WAS a little mean. But I'm sure she meant it kindly, and not in the snotty way it came out. It was just one of those thoughts that pours out before we have the chance to censor ourselves.

Keep it up! You're doing awesome, and a little coworker-word-vomit isn't going to derail you!

I don't think we always realize just what it is we are saying sometimes; Maybe her remark was a reflection of her own personal experience. I guess weight loss can be a sensitive subject and might bring up some jealousy as she sees you succeeding.

Yes, when I mentioned that a co-worker had said I was looking good to my friend she said 'that's nice,but don't stop there. That's what I did'. I'm sure she didn't mean to be discouraging. Everyone looks at things differently. And she was projecting. Maybe your co-worker was projecting her lack of success on you. So try not to take it personally.

Maybe she's tried to lose weight and was unsuccessful, and was just trying to be supportive in saying that it's ok if things don't go as planned. It's like when your kids are struggling with something and you tell them that it's ok if they can't do it perfectly. Don't be angry at her. It sounds like she was trying to be helpful.

I agree with becky_turcotte, PROVE HER WRONG!!! Make her comments a challenge and a driving force to show people anything is possible.

Grab a hold of the fact you have been succeeding!!! You have lost 7 pounds, not gained it. You have moved forward, not backwards (PROBABLY EVEN WITH UPS AND DOWNS IN YOUR WEIGHT LOSS, YOU HAVE SUCCEEDED) due to that fact there is nothing to fear. As human beings we are capable of far more than we give ourselves credit FOR!!!!

YOU WILL SUCCEED!!! You the affirmation everyday... I will lose it all no matter what, I will, I can!!! :happy:

Have you thought for a second what she meant? When you said that you were trying to loose weight you probably came off as worried and unsure. She probably thought you weren't seeing the results you were hoping for and needed some encouragement. Does this sound like it could be true? Even if that's not what you meant to sound like, could she have thought it?

Now think, what's the one thing people are most unsure about with dieting, the biggest problem? That last 10lbs. So her thought may have been, well don't worry if you can't loose it all. She's obviouly impressed because she's noticed that you've lot some and she's not coming off as jealous. She probably meant it in a supportive way, from a good place. Don't worry if you can't loose it all BECAUE you've already done a great job and she's impressed and will be impressed no matter how much you loose because it's a great acheivement. Does this sound like the kind of thing you'd expect from her? The kind of thing he probably meant to convey? Might it have become a little lost in traslation a you are afraid of not loosing it all and that clung to the words of praise and turned them ugly? It's a very distinct possibility isn't it?

She' you're friend, go over to her and ask her what she meant by it. She'll probably be horrified that she hurt you. It was probably the lat thing on her mind, but she probably didn't understand how it could have been mistranslated.

Everyone around me has told me I dont need to lose weight. I'm 5' 6" and weigh 181 lbs. uuummmm where exactly do they get that I dont need to drop some weight?!?!? My stomach sticks out farther than my boobs!! Most of my weight is in my stomach/back/arms (my legs are smokin hot sexy ~ I have 1 lil tiny area that needs to go away on them but thats it) so to me I can damn sure see it!! I know its a version of being supportive but at the same time I dont like to be lied to or pacified ~ I'd much rather them say that I'm not that big but maybe losing a few lbs wouldnt hurt or something on that order. I mean come on, I know what the scale says, I know what size pants I wear and I damn sure know what I see when I look in the mirror!

I believe she issued you a challenge! Remember what Gen. George S. Patton said:
“Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory.”

Take that, unsupportive friend!

Yep, my aunt recently told me she heard I was getting skinny again. I knew instantly it was a negative comment because they (my aunt's) prefer to see me heavier, they love it when men eat. I told her for most of my life family complained because they thought I was too skinny so when I let my eating habits get out of control and ended up with high cholesterol, blood pressure, and was labeled a borderline diabetic no one was sitting in the doctors office being threatened by the doctor except me! I decided I had to do what was best for me and not to be concerned with the thoughts and opinions of family and friends. I am no longer carrying the weight, being threatened by the doctor, and I feel 100% better! So, to sum it all up...don't take to heart the negative things people say to you, especially when it comes to your health, you have to do what you feel is best.

Congrats on your loss and I wish you much success in reaching your goal;)
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I have a somewhat similar experience, my fiancees co-worker. The guy needs to loose 175 pounds, and constantly eats out, even has us eating out with him, Last night he even made my ghoing for a walk while waiting for a table a joke. It's not worth it.She may have misunderstood what you said, I'd take it with a grain of salt, if it keeps up, then maybe say something.

I have lost 7 pounds so far and one of my female co-workers noticed today. She asked if I was trying to lose weight or if it was a "happy accident". I told her that I am working towards losing weight and getting fit and toned. Her reply? "Don't be discouraged if you can't lose it all." This really hurt me and it was irritating as well because I consider her a friend. I don't think it's coming from jealousy, but it discouraged me a bit. So far, my loss has been slow but steady and I realize it's going to take a while. However, her comment has made my fears about not being able to do this re-surface. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Sometimes, people don't fully consider how something sounds before it leaves their mouth. I've done this. I'm sure you've done this. And your coworker just did this as well. I would try not to take it to heart -- it sounded mean. It WAS a little mean. But I'm sure she meant it kindly, and not in the snotty way it came out. It was just one of those thoughts that pours out before we have the chance to censor ourselves.

Keep it up! You're doing awesome, and a little coworker-word-vomit isn't going to derail you!

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