Wee bit weary

Have you figured out why you keep quitting? Without knowing the why, the cycle continues.

There is no structured "diet" here. Eat the foods you love so you don't feel deprived, stay in a calorie deficit and lose weight. It really is that easy.

If you haven't already, read the stickies at the top of the getting started forum. Very informative and helpful.

Buy a food scale. Weigh everything you eat and log into the food diary.

Good luck with your journey!

Nobodys a lost cause so don't think that although I remember feeling that way when at my biggest. These behaviors will keep you fat and miserable though.
Log everything you eat. If you see it you will be accountable for it. Just start by walking. Its easy, its free, and it really makes a huge difference. This lasts for a lifetime though. Its not a diet if you want a permanent change. Be positive. Get the negative out of your head and youll make it. Good luck.

I hear a lot of self loathing here, couched in deprecating humor. You are me, honey.

Wake up, look yourself eye to eye in the mirror, and tell yourself you are worthy, you are good, you are beautiful, and that your daughter deserves the best mom you can be. Then decide to be that person.

Go outside and look at all the miserable, unhealthy, unhappy, whinging people in their 50’s and 60’s, who are barely making it. My severely diabetic mom- bedridden for six years and it’s everyone’s fault but her own. Decide not to be that person.

DON’T be me and wait til your kids are 27 and 29 and realize you shoulda and coulda done this twenty years or so ago. My girls deserved better. Husband, too.

If you study MFP and put your mind to it, it’s not that hard. It’s snapping your brain into “go” mode and getting on the stick that’s the hard part. Yeah, you may have to devote a few minutes a day to logging, but your days will be better after while if you stick to it and that’s a promise.

Don’t be discouraged! You can do this!!! As others have said stop the negative self talk and tell yourself that you will do this!! I weigh more now than I did after I had my twins!!!! I gained 30 lbs in a year (and was about 20lbs overweight before that) and have yo-yo dieted for 5 years. My biggest lost was a year and a half ago when I lost 20lbs on Weight Watchers. But I gained it all back because the new weight watchers program was too restrictive for me and as soon as I stopped I gorged on all the foods I’d been depriving myself of. This time I decided it really has to be a lifestyle change. I have actually hated when I read that before and always thought, “yeah right I don’t want this to be my lifestyle I like eating sweets and pizza”. But what I realized is that the lifestyle change is that I’m going to have to track forever because whenever I stop tracking I gain the weight back.

This time I started with 3 goals: drink more water, start exercising, and eat less than I burn based on my Fitbit. As long as I eat fewer calories than I burn - even if it’s 10 less calories - I consider it a victory for the day. I log everything into my fitness pal and then at the end of the day I subtract my calories eaten from my calories burned and write it in a notebook. I have been doing this for 11 weeks and I have gone over my calories 7 days in that time because life happens - dinners out with friends, birthdays, weekend getaways and I decided that I’m going to live my life and enjoy it and not stress so much if I go over but get right back to going under. This approach is working for me - I don’t feel deprived, am still eating sweet treats and favorite foods. I added a new goal - to commit to tracking for 1 year without taking breaks for holidays, birthdays, and vacations (because after the breaks It takes me months to get back to tracking).

Figure out what works for you without depriving yourself. You can do it!

You can do it! I have a 4 year old and a 20 month old and a more than full time job and i've lost 40 lbs (20% of my body weight because i'm short!) in the last 7 months. Its hard. Don't get me wrong, its much easier to not make the time for yourself and to keep doing things the way you're currently doing them but believe me, life on "the other side" is SO WORTH IT.

Hating on the way you currently are isn't going to help though. Get out of the negative self talk and learn to love what you CAN do. You have the ability to eat smaller portions, you have the ability to track your food and be accountable, you have the ability to move your body in a healthy and positive way.

As a mother myself i totally understand how hard it is to put yourself first but let me tell you, I'm a much better mom now than I was 6 months ago. I'm not as tired, we get up and we go for walks, i play with my kids so much more than i used to and i'm teaching them healthy habits. I'm also not participating in negative self-talk about myself and contributing to the cycle of body image issues that have plagued me my entire life.

You can find 30 mins in a day to get a work out in. You can find 10 mins a day to log your food. You can be accountable and stick to a calorie goal. You can do this.

I appreciate this might be controversial given wherever are, but honestly, I really only started making progress when I made peace with the weight I was. I made a decision to stop beating myself up about it.

Instead I started changing my habits, to the stuff I knew would benefit me but I wasn't doing.
More fruit and veg, more cooking from scratch, some activity every day. Although to start with I wasn't counting calories I knew I shouldn't be eating packets of chocolate biscuits, so stopped buying them.

I got my hair done, bought some clothes I liked, rather than just ones that fit/were cheap.

I started to feel better, I built up some momentum, I liked myself enough to put the effort in.
I was just under 17 stone when I started, now about 13. Some way to go, but my weight is just one tiny part of who I am.

Your daughter will see how you treat yourself, you are amazing in many ways that have nothing to do with your weight.
Pick one thing to change this week and make a start x