Weight loss surgery coming up

pescadofish83 · October 2019

Hello, so I have weight loss surgery scheduled on Nov 22. I am terrified. Not only because of the potential issues that may arise, but because since I changed jobs in May, I don’t have enough sick time to cover me or any fmla protections (the weight loss surgery process began when I was still employed at my other job). I have about 80-90lbs to lose and I just need some motivation, tips, success stories to show me I can do this on my own since I really don’t want to go through with this, but have many failed attempts at losing weight. Thanks : )

auburngirl06 · October 2019

I think if you have any doubt about proceeding with it then you should not proceed. It is most definitely your decision to make but your post seems you aren’t on board 100%. You absolutely can lose the weight on your own. Start today. Log your weight, pick a weight loss goal per week and get to logging. You CAN do it! I have been on this site for 8 years and have read so many incredible stories of weight loss for 100 pounds plus that are so inspirational! Hop on over to the success stories and read some. You can do it! Slow and steady wins the race 😉

LyndaBSS · October 2019

I agree. Your doubts are shouting out. Trust your gut.

If you haven't already, read the stickies at the top of the getting started forum. Very informative and helpful.

Buy a food scale. Weigh everything you eat and log into the food diary.

Good luck with your journey!

NovusDies · October 2019

Weight loss surgery is not the key to successful weight loss. Far too many people have proven this by either not actually getting to a goal or getting there and then regaining their weight.

The key has to be changing the mindset and habits of the person who gained the weight.

WLS is a tool but no matter what you have to do the heavy lifting. If you lean on it too heavily you are at risk for going through a major surgery for no good reason.

There is an MFP group for people that are started or originally started with 75 or more pounds to lose. You are welcome there regardless of whether or not you intend to go through with the surgery. I do think if you spend some time there reading what fellow Larger Losers are doing and saying you will have more confidence in your own ability.

MFP Larger Losers:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/133315-larger-losers

cheryldumais · October 2019

I've known people who have lost successfully with WLS and people who have lost without it. I tried WLS (Lapband) and failed. A few years later after the band was removed I came here and lost over 100 pounds. I think @NovusDies is correct. Either way it can be a tool but the actual changes have to come from you. I believe in addition to the Larger Losers (which is a great group!) there are also WLS groups. You would have to search under groups for them. They are more likely to be helpful in your surgery journey than the general boards should you decide to continue.

aries68mc · October 2019

I am surprised you are even a candidate for the surgery if you only have 80-90 to lose. I have lost that much without any surgery. So, I agree with trusting your gut.

cheryldumais · October 2019

aries68mc wrote: »

I am surprised you are even a candidate for the surgery if you only have 80-90 to lose. I have lost that much without any surgery. So, I agree with trusting your gut.

I paid for the surgery myself although my doctor was very supportive. I had High blood pressure and was type 2 diabetic.

cheryldumais · October 2019

Also I weighed 251 pounds and am 5'5" tall so I lost 108 pounds. I'm currently fighting a 15 pound weight gain from quitting nicotine. Sigh, the battle continues.

Diatonic12 · October 2019

pescadofish83 wrote: »

Hello, so I have weight loss surgery scheduled on Nov 22. I am terrified. Not only because of the potential issues that may arise, but because since I changed jobs in May, I don’t have enough sick time to cover me or any fmla protections (the weight loss surgery process began when I was still employed at my other job). I have about 80-90lbs to lose and I just need some motivation, tips, success stories to show me I can do this on my own since I really don’t want to go through with this, but have many failed attempts at losing weight. Thanks : )

You need your job to survive and pay the bills. You're 'terrified' of the consequences. Those are strong words and I would heed them. You can always opt for surgery down the road or reschedule it when your circumstances will allow for it. Right now, it sounds like the timing is off. Sit down with someone. Face-to-face. Talk all of this through with your medical professionals and find your alternatives. You have many other options and surgery would be the last one on my list. Research the long term stability statistics with surgery at the two year and the five year mark. There's only a 2% difference between those with WLS and those who opted to edge their way down slowly with CICO.

Start cruising through the backroads of this forum. Find the Maintainers and let them inspire you on a daily basis. The athletes, the fitness gurus, teachers, coaches, mothers, fathers...they're all here. Start here and taking those tiny steps for tiny feet all add up to whopping boatloads of weight loss success waaay into your future.

NovusDies · October 2019

Also keep in mind that being approved for the surgery is not a good reason to do it. I think when you consider it you should be trying to talk yourself out of it not into it. That way if you do decide to do it you have considered it from every angle.

I have felt helpless with weight loss. Scratch that. I have felt completely doomed to always be fat. Not just fat... extremely fat. What I really needed to do was take the emotion out of it and unlearn the things that were holding me back. I have lost over 200 pounds. It can be done. The most common question I get asked is if I had the surgery. I have not.

missysippy930 · October 2019

No matter what you decide, you still have to do the work, eat less calories than your body burns. There’s always a risk with surgery and there are no guarantees, no matter how the weight is lost, of keeping the weight off. It takes a conscious effort to maintain a weight loss long term. I lost 140 pounds without WLS @ age 60. Gained back 50 pounds of that because I went back to bad eating habits. Fortunately, I came to my senses before I gained it all back. It’s simple, eat less calories than your body burns to lose weight, but never easy.

gewel321 · October 2019

As a person who is post WLS let me give a different insight. Do not do this surgery if you are not prepared to change every aspect of your life. It is not an easy quick fix. I am 5 years post op. I was 400lbs when I started. My lowest weight 1 year post op was 198. I did not exercise as much as I should and while I couldn't eat as much food what I was putting into my body were not good options.

I would not have changed having WLS. It was the best thing I could do for me. I wish I had done it earlier. What I do wish is that I had paid more attention to what was going into my body. I am 5 years post op and I have gained 50lbs back. I am working very hard to loose that 50lbs and another 20 to put me at a healthy BMI.

My best friend and I had our surgeries two weeks apart. While I kept my weight in somewhat of a check she did not. She did not change anything in her life and is back to her pre surgery weight and size.

If you have any questions please reach out. I am an open book. Never been one to shy away from my journey with weight loss!

psychod787 · November 2019

I lost 220 naturally. Currently dealing with some effects of losing so much so quickly, getting better with SOME regain. With 80lbs to lose, you might not NEED surgery. I have seen multiple people get surgery, lose large amounts of weight and regain much of it. You have to fix what's upstairs before you work on what's below it. I talked several wl surgeons and they told me, "dont get the surgery!" What it does to the body can be horrid!

daniwon · November 2019

pescadofish83 wrote: »

Hello, so I have weight loss surgery scheduled on Nov 22. I am terrified. Not only because of the potential issues that may arise, but because since I changed jobs in May, I don’t have enough sick time to cover me or any fmla protections (the weight loss surgery process began when I was still employed at my other job). I have about 80-90lbs to lose and I just need some motivation, tips, success stories to show me I can do this on my own since I really don’t want to go through with this, but have many failed attempts at losing weight. Thanks : )

daniwon · November 2019

I had WLS last year exactly and I’ve lost 133lbs in that time. Think of it this way where do you see yourself next year? Are you still struggling with your weight? Are you the healthiest you’ve ever been? I’ve been over weight my whole life and went from a size 26->12 in a year went from 388 to 225 (I lost 30lbs on my preop diet). I never would have accomplished this without my tool (sleeve). Not to say it’s been easy. It’s the hardest thing I’ve done but when I was diagnosed with diabetes at 29 I knew I had to do something! All I saw on WLS pages was people regretting not doing it sooner. I didn’t want to be them but I am I wish I would have done it in my early 20s but I wasn’t ready then but I wanted to have babies and now I feel I can do that safely.

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