I’m a man that almost broke down crying in Walmart trying to find a shirt :-(
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It's very hard-and brave-to write that down.
As wierd and ephemeral as it is, we have a strong support group here. So laugh, cry, rage at life, and we'll be here.6 -
No shame in a man crying. I cry at "Old Yeller" till this very day.10
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Just wanted to reiterate what others have said. You are not useless or a waste of space. You are not your weight. Posting here and being vulnerable took a lot of courage. I admire you for your bravery. You have already made the first step. You got this and we are here for you. You can do this. Many of us have been there. For me it was being in high school and trying to find a winter coat that fit. I would always end up with one in green because that is all they had in larger sizes where I lived. You are not alone and deserve to be here.2
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CardinalComb wrote: »Been there done that, except it was a big and tall store.
You can cure your depression just by cutting calories in half and restricting carbs so you’re not hungry all the time. Lost 50lbs in 4 months and I’ve never been healthier - mentally and physically. Don’t listen to the people saying it’s hard and go slow - pro tip: it’s not hard and losing the weight fast will help with your mental state.
Sorry but this is ridiculous, unhelpful, dangerous advice and you know it. I’m actually kind of lost for words. I’m sure there’s a thread called “The Bad Advice Thread” or something along those lines, maybe you should post there.
Peace ✌🏻
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Please remember that all a scale does is measure pounds. It doesn't measure the size of your heart, the kindness you give others, the happiness other people feel because you're part of their lives, the love you feel.
If you want to, you can change your weight with support, love, inspiration, motivation and a few tools(hint * MFP
)but try not to let your weight be who you are while you travel the journey. You are so much more than a size. Stay here with us and we can help. 8 -
As others said I hope you seek someone out to talk to about your depression.
As for the weight we all came here for a reason. To get healthy and fit. You can do it. Start tracking your meals, get moving. While we know eating fewer calories than you use is what causes weight loss exercise is so amazing for feeling good. I've been laid up recovering from some surgery but a workout today energized me, daily walks have been making me happy.
Don't beat yourself up though....you joined here use the tools, you've already taken the first step now it's time make the new you2 -
Losingthedamnweight wrote: »This is so embarrassing but I’m in a bad place right now. I’ve been depressed and feeling like a useless waste of space for the past year and I’ve just done the same routine. Gone to work, come home. Had a few days off where I do nothing and make excuses to my wife about why we never go anywhere. Then pretend to be happy when my daughter comes over (cause I can’t bear to let her know how daddy really feels) and rinse and repeat.
I’ve gotten so fat that none of my clothes even fit. My wife has asked me when we go out lately “it’s cold why don’t you put on a jacket” and I’m too embarrassed to say because they don’t fit me.
After work this morning I went to Walmart to try to find something that would keep me warm and just trying on things and looking in the mirror I just couldn’t take it. I guess it’s been awhile since I’ve looked in the mirror for more than shaving but I couldn’t believe how terrible I looked. Just fat and ugly and like nothing I tried on looked good anyway. And I kept having to go a size up and I couldn’t believe I was that big. I looked at myself from the side and couldn’t believe how wide I am. I almost broke down in the store right then. I don’t even recognize this person I am. Seeing me like this just broke me.
I found this huge jacket that I couldn’t believe someone like me would ever wear and left and I just feel like why am I even here right now? I’ve struggled with my weight and depression for so long and even though I’ve had phases where I beat it it always comes back. I’m just a mess right now
I did the opposite to boldened. I beelined for the largest sized coats ... They still didn't fit. Committed to one mile a day walk, plus 8 flights to get to our family penthouse apartment then in LA, and eating from dessert sized plates only ( the middle ground of bread vs dinner).
The rude UPS guy woke me up to exactly how massive I was, even after all my efforts. Announcing it to all and sundry, " Hot damn gurl, you're 5 pounds from a tonne. You're 995 lbs" Gave him a one finger salute, and refused to allow ANYTHING to come between me and reaching healthy weight.
Depression hits many of us, manifesting itself and making landing where it isn't welcomed. Speak to your wife. You NEED someone in your corner, through thick and thin. Mine was my sister. Good luck!!
Eta: My sister told me, not to let anyone steal my light. My me. My essence. Me as my first priority.. This is bible to me today, when moments of my human-ness creeps in to weaken my resolve.
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Justin_7272 wrote: »It's very hard-and brave-to write that down.
I love this! It’s so true. You are very brave to be able to write this down. This is the place to be for support. You can absolutely do this, and always remember that you are worth the effort it takes!!3 -
777Gemma888 wrote: »
The rude UPS guy woke me up to exactly how massive I was, even after all my efforts. Announcing it to all and sundry, " Hot damn gurl, you're 5 pounds from a tonne. You're 995 lbs" Gave him a one finger salute, and refused to allow ANYTHING to come between me and reaching healthy weight.
Eta: My sister told me, not to let anyone steal my light. My me. My essence. Me as my first priority.. This is bible to me today, when moments of my human-ness creeps in to weaken my resolve.
Isn't it mind-boggling how people can be so thoughtlessly rude? Have they no filter or sensitive bones in their body??
I used to go bar-hopping a million years ago with a group of friends. I couldn't tell you how many times a bartender would bring up the subject and point blank ask me how much I weighed. My BIL teases my dd whenever she goes to visit him and the man is over 70 yo!! Really?? What are you, 2? Or just a complete *kitten*.
Sometimes I hate people.
Best thing to do is rise above them, take care of yourself, and be who you want to be! 3
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