Fat Loss Timelines
peachvine29
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Do you find that having a timeline/time-based goals/deadline helps or hurts your rate of progress?
I know for my initial goal I wanted to weigh 135 lbs. by November 29, 2018.
I was 153 by that time, and didn't reach 135 lbs. until May 2019 which I still am today.
Now I am wanting to be 125 by Summer 2020, but that is giving me some pressure.
Maybe I should drop the time restrictions?
I know for my initial goal I wanted to weigh 135 lbs. by November 29, 2018.
I was 153 by that time, and didn't reach 135 lbs. until May 2019 which I still am today.
Now I am wanting to be 125 by Summer 2020, but that is giving me some pressure.
Maybe I should drop the time restrictions?
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peachvine29 wrote: »Do you find that having a timeline/time-based goals/deadline helps or hurts your rate of progress? I know for my initial goal I wanted to weigh 135 lbs. by November 29, 2018. I was 153 by that time, and didn't reach 135 lbs. until May 2020 which I still am today. Now I am wanting to be 125 by Summer 2021, but that is giving me some pressure. Maybe I should drop the time restrictions.
Um. It's still 2019 where I am...8 -
It took me about nine months to lose that last 15 pounds. I was hungry, it was two steps forward and one step back. You'll get there. One day at a time.7
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If you set your rate of loss at half a pound per week there is no reason you shouldn't be able to hit that goal by then. I don't see any issue with having a timeline as long as the goal is reasonable and not overly aggressive. With your proposed timeline, it allows for slip ups and the occasional diet break if needed, so I say go for it. Sometimes it does help to have a timeline goal to keep you on track and accountable.4
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My psychic Madame Zelda has predicted the earth will collide with the moon in 2021, so it won't matter what you weigh. But speaking of disaster, trying to be at a certain weight at a certain date is a recipe for disappointment. I say ditch the time restrictions.11
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This is why I started doing dietbets/stepbets with my sister. Just having the goal or deadline didn't matter because there was no consequence for not making it. With the dietbets, I've consistently met my goals because if I fail, my money is on the line. If I make the goal, I get my money back plus part of the pot from the people that unfortunately didn't make their goals. The stepbets mean I have to be more active to win so they in turn help with the dietbets.
**Not promoting anything to be clear. This is just what worked/is working for me5 -
If you set your rate of loss at half a pound per week there is no reason you shouldn't be able to hit that goal by then. I don't see any issue with having a timeline as long as the goal is reasonable and not overly aggressive. With your proposed timeline, it allows for slip ups and the occasional diet break if needed, so I say go for it. Sometimes it does help to have a timeline goal to keep you on track and accountable.
^This. While I don't usually have a strict date, I have a goal month where another goal starts. Otherwise I find I am not as consistent and say " meh I look good enough" (to add: especially when it comes to vanity lbs which is also in your case)1 -
I’m trying to let go of the idea of a deadline for my weight loss. It can be incredibly discouraging at times when I should just be happy the scale is going down but instead I’m unhappy that it’s not going down fast enough to reach my deadline.
There is a podcast I listen to (We Only Look Thin) that talks a lot about how there is no finish line to the weight loss journey. This is a forever, lifestyle change so putting deadlines on your weight loss (which can cause unnecessary stress, disappointment even when we’re losing and making progress, and feelings of failure, again, even when we’re losing and making progress) can be very unhelpful. Even when you reach your goal you have to keep doing everything you’re currently doing to be able to maintain that weight so does it matter if it takes you 6 months or a year? Not really. The important thing is that you keep moving forward.5 -
cmriverside wrote: »peachvine29 wrote: »Do you find that having a timeline/time-based goals/deadline helps or hurts your rate of progress? I know for my initial goal I wanted to weigh 135 lbs. by November 29, 2018. I was 153 by that time, and didn't reach 135 lbs. until May 2020 which I still am today. Now I am wanting to be 125 by Summer 2021, but that is giving me some pressure. Maybe I should drop the time restrictions.
Um. It's still 2019 where I am...
Gah, sorry! Fixed.3 -
peachvine29 wrote: »Do you find that having a timeline/time-based goals/deadline helps or hurts your rate of progress? I know for my initial goal I wanted to weigh 135 lbs. by November 29, 2018. I was 153 by that time, and didn't reach 135 lbs. until May 2020 which I still am today. Now I am wanting to be 125 by Summer 2021, but that is giving me some pressure. Maybe I should drop the time restrictions.
HURTS!
The more relaxed I am about my weight loss the easier it is. Making it easier increases my adherence and lessens my need for motivation, inspiration, and discipline.7 -
Hurts. I do terribly under pressure and tend to self-sabotage. The more I allow myself to fail, the more I actually succeed. Yes, that sounds weird, but it's worked for me, lol. I recall mentioning in another thread that I also keep all my fat clothes just in case, for the same reason.8
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RelCanonical wrote: »Hurts. I do terribly under pressure and tend to self-sabotage. The more I allow myself to fail, the more I actually succeed. Yes, that sounds weird, but it's worked for me, lol. I recall mentioning in another thread that I also keep all my fat clothes just in case, for the same reason.
Works for me too. I do not worry about intentionally or unintentionally going over my calories as long as it is rare. I even have my permission if I have a bad day to eat more if I feel like it will help. All of this makes it easier for me and I rarely go over my calories unless it was an honest mistake or it was intentional like a special occasion.
This is what happens to me when I feel pressured by a deadline:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10762903/how-i-went-from-sustainable-to-unsustainable/p14 -
RelCanonical wrote: »Hurts. I do terribly under pressure and tend to self-sabotage. The more I allow myself to fail, the more I actually succeed. Yes, that sounds weird, but it's worked for me, lol. I recall mentioning in another thread that I also keep all my fat clothes just in case, for the same reason.
Works for me too. I do not worry about intentionally or unintentionally going over my calories as long as it is rare. I even have my permission if I have a bad day to eat more if I feel like it will help. All of this makes it easier for me and I rarely go over my calories unless it was an honest mistake or it was intentional like a special occasion.
This is what happens to me when I feel pressured by a deadline:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10762903/how-i-went-from-sustainable-to-unsustainable/p1
Oooh, I'll check that thread out.
I give myself permission to eat at maintenance everyday, even when I just feel like it (like today, there were cookies in the break room). This has helped a ton, and I've very rarely unintentionally gone over maintenance (i.e. Thanksgiving and Christmas don't count).0 -
Weight loss doesn’t happen at a linear pace. Sometimes, especially when one is close to their goal weight, the scale will not move for 4-6 weeks at a time. Bodies do not always work on the schedules we demand of them, and the number on the scale reflects more than just fat.
My advice would be to get rid of the deadlines and just make certain you are in a calorie deficit. If you’re not losing at your expected pace, tighten up your logging: weigh ALL your food and make certain your exercise calorie estimates aren’t inflated. Be patient and consistent. The weight will come off.5 -
If you manage to successfully put in place and adhere to a flexible process that will eventually get you and keep you there, then you will actually get and stay there!2
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A timeline viewed much like a weight averaging app might help. A strict one probably not so much.
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I find goal timelines, "x pounds by date xx/xx/xxxx", etc., to be very counterproductive and destructive. I end up missing some target due to family or work stress or just the slowing pace of weight loss or any number of other things, and that brings forth bad behaviors. I'm on much stronger ground just grinding it out one day at a time, hitting my numbers most of the time and missing them occasionally. I strongly prefer to have no dates and no final weight in mind.6
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It hurts me. I can’t really control exactly how fast I lose. I can do the work-and provided I’m doing the work, it will all balance out eventually.
But What happens if end up taking an unexpected trip, or need to up my calories to keep up with a training schedule, or I get sick/injured/need surgery and can’t stick to the targets necessary to meet the time goal? Did I fail? Do I regroup?
I choose to set my goals to be to do the things I can control-which means sticking to my calorie goal (whatever it happens to be at that time) and my training plan.
The rest will fall into place. I’ll get there when I get there.3 -
Thank you for the feedback everyone! Very helpful. It seems that all of us are different when it comes to this.Duck_Puddle wrote: »It hurts me. I can’t really control exactly how fast I lose. I can do the work-and provided I’m doing the work, it will all balance out eventually.
But What happens if end up taking an unexpected trip, or need to up my calories to keep up with a training schedule, or I get sick/injured/need surgery and can’t stick to the targets necessary to meet the time goal? Did I fail? Do I regroup?
I choose to set my goals to be to do the things I can control-which means sticking to my calorie goal (whatever it happens to be at that time) and my training plan.
The rest will fall into place. I’ll get there when I get there.
This is what I most resonate with I think. I struggle with consistency with these vanity pounds, some days I don't have a good enough reason not to eat more and I am working through that. I thought a timeline or deadline might help but I don't know if it is. Lately it has been one step forward one step back, I know it is only up to me to commit to my deficit and do it. By the end of December I planned to be at 132.5 average pounds (I use Happy Scale) but am averaging 136, I'm not sure it's possible to get to 132.5 losing half a pound a week and with the holidays and my birthday coming up, and that disappoints me.
I have heard that it is better to focus on what you can directly control, not your weight, but your daily habits that support your weight, such as getting 8 hours sleep, working out, hitting calorie goals. I may start to focus on that!3 -
RelCanonical wrote: »Hurts. I do terribly under pressure and tend to self-sabotage. The more I allow myself to fail, the more I actually succeed.[/b[ Yes, that sounds weird, but it's worked for me, lol. I recall mentioning in another thread that I also keep all my fat clothes just in case, for the same reason.
Doesn't sound weird to me at all. I'm a very process oriented person and I'm all about progress over perfection. This is exactly how I approached my nutrition and fitness and exactly how I've approached my recovery. If I didn't give myself grace, I can guarantee you I'd either be in the same place or worse than I was 4 or 5 months ago. I've seen way to many of my brothers and sisters in recovery have a bad day or week or whatever and just give up because they are overly striving for perfection. The very thought of that stresses me out and actually makes me want to run off the rails.
IDK if I'll ever get to the point of never having a drop again...I'm for sure not there in the process yet...and really, at this point 100% sobriety is some kind of vague and hazy concept in my mind. But what I do know is that I've made a hell of a lot of progress and I'm in a way better place than I was 4-5 months ago. Even when I do succumb to my compulsions, it is not to the extremes that it used to be...I haven't blacked out in quite awhile and that used to pretty much be a nightly occurrence...win. I haven't been able to string 30 days together, but I've been able to string multiple days and a couple weeks together...win...considering before I started my recovery I hadn't had a dry day in years. Last night I went to my home group meeting...I usually feel really strong after those, but I wasn't last night...I told myself that it was ok and I would have a couple glasses of wine when I got home and gave myself grace. I got home and my oldest was snuggled on the couch in a blanket watching the football game...I decided instead that I'd make a cup of tea and join him...I gave myself grace to "fail" last night and ended up with a win.
Every little thing is a small part of a larger journey and process. My journey towards health and wellness started over 7 years ago and has evolved considerably in that time. Just when you think you have one thing worked out, you realize there's more to do. I guess that's why I feel like timelines are sort of meaningless.
Be blessed.7 -
I've tried setting a weight loss by a certain date multiple times only to have it backfire and disappoint myself. It's hard to predict weight loss out over an extended period of time and I learned this the hard way. Best to focus on your day to day goals and let it happen on its own pace.5
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I set a clear timeline that states lose weight before the heart attack hits.7
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peachvine29 wrote: »Thank you for the feedback everyone! Very helpful. It seems that all of us are different when it comes to this.Duck_Puddle wrote: »It hurts me. I can’t really control exactly how fast I lose. I can do the work-and provided I’m doing the work, it will all balance out eventually.
But What happens if end up taking an unexpected trip, or need to up my calories to keep up with a training schedule, or I get sick/injured/need surgery and can’t stick to the targets necessary to meet the time goal? Did I fail? Do I regroup?
I choose to set my goals to be to do the things I can control-which means sticking to my calorie goal (whatever it happens to be at that time) and my training plan.
The rest will fall into place. I’ll get there when I get there.
This is what I most resonate with I think. I struggle with consistency with these vanity pounds, some days I don't have a good enough reason not to eat more and I am working through that. I thought a timeline or deadline might help but I don't know if it is. Lately it has been one step forward one step back, I know it is only up to me to commit to my deficit and do it. By the end of December I planned to be at 132.5 average pounds (I use Happy Scale) but am averaging 136, I'm not sure it's possible to get to 132.5 losing half a pound a week and with the holidays and my birthday coming up, and that disappoints me.
I have heard that it is better to focus on what you can directly control, not your weight, but your daily habits that support your weight, such as getting 8 hours sleep, working out, hitting calorie goals. I may start to focus on that!
This is absolutely my way of thinking. My goal is to end the day inside my calorie goal, hitting my steps, doing my exercise and be at least in the ballpark of happy doing it. I ignore weight loss as much as possible. I prefer to just allow it to happen instead of trying to force it.
A big goal is to set a course but it doesn't drive us to the location. Our daily processes and habits do that. Little by little they accumulate.4 -
I'm fine with ballparking it, but there are so many variables, I am for consistency and personal growth.2
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For me, it works better to focus on the process, as you say you're shifting toward, OP.
Simplistically, if I focus on "X weight by Y date", what happens when I get there?
What I really want is to stay at a healthy weight, plus active, for the rest of my life. The best route to that IMO is to put habits and practices into place that interlink to achieve that: Process. It's never "over"; I'm not "done".
I thought Kimny's thread on this subject was really good, and useful, plus there are good comments from others:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10662287/the-goal-is-the-process/
I've been in maintenance at a healthy weight for more than 4 years now, after 3 decades plus of obesity (and most of a year losing from obese to a healthy weight). There's still a process to work . . . .
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Hurts my goals. My body does its own thing and could care less about time lines . 😑 I do better when I don’t set goals for weight loss/smaller clothing .
It usually goes better when I don’t focus on those , just work on the day to day and small victories -such as being consistent and intentional .
For me ..I have never once finished a program ! Three inconsistent weeks was the most . I can’t even do those , right I’m on a 3 weeks kick and scared I’m going to fall off the band wagon. But seeing the minutes of fat burn zone and calories burned from fitbit has helped motivate me . Working out 5 days a week is huge ! Now it’s a game almost to beat my own records . 😂
If I see I’m 195 calories burned at the end of the work out -I’m going to keep going until I hit 200. 😆 The little things like that !
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I must be the only one. I like the challenge, it motivates me, because I am a competitive person, even with myself.
I get frustrated if I don't make my deadline, but it is a superficial frustration, I know I lost more than if I hadn't challenged myself with a goal.
Then I make a new goal and start the new challenge, determined to beat it this time!6 -
I must be the only one. I like the challenge, it motivates me, because I am a competitive person, even with myself.
I get frustrated if I don't make my deadline, but it is a superficial frustration, I know I lost more than if I hadn't challenged myself with a goal.
Then I make a new goal and start the new challenge, determined to beat it this time!
The part of this that would worry me is that eventually there will be no weight left to lose and I am not sure how this type of motivation translates into weight maintenance. Of course you could get there and develop a different strategy.
I am trying to avoid relying on extra motivation. I want to get to some sort of goal and the only thing that really changes as I switch to maintenance is my calorie amount.5 -
I must be the only one. I like the challenge, it motivates me, because I am a competitive person, even with myself.
I get frustrated if I don't make my deadline, but it is a superficial frustration, I know I lost more than if I hadn't challenged myself with a goal.
Then I make a new goal and start the new challenge, determined to beat it this time!
Nope your not the only one. There’s a whole section on these forums dedicated to this type of challenge. I need the challenge or else I get too laid back with a ah don’t worry I’ll start tomorrow but never really start ever mentally. I always reach my challenge goal. I need that pressure.4 -
Yeah...I need goals. Without them I am an unmoored ship at sea per experience concerning all aspects of life, not just this one.
Aiming to drop 80 lbs. in 12 months is perfectly reasonable when I started out just a few pounds shy of morbid obesity. The key difference this time around is I don't "flip out" if I don't hit any benchmarks set along the way, as long as I am still somewhere on the track. For me, it has kilt the whole self-sabotage of "well I effed up, so mind as well go big or go home" mentality that results in full blown derailments. *knock on wood*
But I need some target to aim for or I have no reason to *not* eat that entire bag of crunchy cheesy poofs in one sitting that a well-meaning family member buys for me (albeit namely so I don't Bogart any from their bag once they open it, lol).
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There isn't only one right way to do it - you have to know yourself and play to your strengths and mitigate your weaknesses.
Personally I'm very goal oriented and approached my weight loss like a project with SMART objectives which included a goal weight deadline. Lost at 1lb a week and hit my goal with only days to spare.
But that played to my strengths of short term determination/motivation and mitigated my weakness of procrastination when I don't have a hard deadline (why put off until tomorrow what you can put off until next week? ). I would guess that's probably a minority strategy but as I'm part of that minority it worked for me.
In long term maintenance mostly I'm happy just to manage any weight drift by making small corrections but for big cycling events I go back to effectively project managing my training and diet to achieve a certain weight by a certain date.0
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