Too many diets in my head

what works best for you? Not which you lost the fastest but what did you feel good doing? What can you do forever? This isnt temporary.

I found eating more and losing a little slower is much better for me. Im not hungry all the time. I still enjoy meals out. I aim for a certain amount of calories and macros daily. Macros inc is a good group on Facebook.

If you are here, you're doing the MFP approach...which is simply sticking to a calorie allotment.

Sure, some people PREFER paleo or whatever, and that's great. Totally fine.

But I think what you're looking for is "I don't know what to eat tell me what to eat" and the simple answer is whatever you like, within the calorie guidelines primarily and aiming for your macros. Which is hard if you want simple answers rather than thinking it out and possibly making mistakes.

I hear you. I was on a structured diet called weigh less (2 years ago) and would lose around 1.2kg per week. It was around 1200 calories a day. I'm trying to do this myself now, eating 1200 calories a day but I'm only losing 0.3 per week and I am measuring and logging everything! I am even doing a lot more exercise than I was back then - I just don't get why my weight loss on my own is so much less than when I was following a structured plan like weigh less? I'm eating the same calories and moving more! I can't follow the WL plan anymore as I've developed lactose intolerance and gluten sensitivity so I don't know what to swop out those calories with?! It's incredibly frustrating - I just wish the scale and my body measurements were moving more - it's disheartening that it's taking so very long.

Everyone needs and has a diet - noun. The entirety of what you eat.

Some people need a diet - verb.
To manage a medical condition or food intolerance for example.
Some people find a diet (verb) simply helpful.
If that's not you OP then don't!!
(It's not helpful to me, it would make adherence harder and less pleasant.)

Concerned about your comment about "failing". Failing a set of someone else's arbitrary rules or what is really important - failing to get good nutrition and hit your goals?

If you had a tough long term project or task at work you wouldn't try to make it more difficult.
Don't cause yourself unnecessary stress, actively try to make something difficult (weight loss) easier, not harder.

you answered your own question in the 1st line of your post. If a balanced diet worked for you, do it once again.

I didn't last a week on South Beach. I had some success with WW, and was looking to do that again but balking at the cost, and my sister recommended MFP.

I'm much happier with MFP than any named diet, which all have rules about what food cannot be eaten that often feel capricious and arbitrary. Don't get me started on the logical failures of Paleo!

I'm sure I'm repeating posts but at least I'm not repeating myself(on this particular thread). :)The easiest method that I've found, has been using MFP. Honestly. It's versatile, keeps me (pretty)honest and I can see right where I need to improve, cut back, whatever. If I see my calories closing in on my day's total, then I either stop eating or turn to something very low calorie. If I choose to fill a day with junk then so be it. But personally I like to see how many gr of protein, sugar, etc. I've taken in. It gives me goals to reach for, knowing every small step is towards better health. I've tried so many diets out there, trying to find THE perfect fit for me, but never did. It all comes down to what everybody says. You have to find something that works for YOU for the long haul because if you stop and go back to your regular ways, you'll gain it all back. You've been there. I've been there. And many others have been there.
So for me, my success stems from being on MFP and having a strong mindset. I wish you the best of luck to find what you need to make this work for you.

Same diet y exercise worked for decades after decades after many more for me.Then after Post Menopause (whole change in my hormones to body) Bam 💥 pregnancy!!! Lost it miscarriage then Bam 💥 mom died then Bam 💥 pregnancy again all in 3months!!!
Hard pregnancy on bed rest whole time then bam 💥 uterus torn apart from a placental abruption! 3months of surgeries to Frankenstein me together again told no exercise or extreme dieting till fully healed! Got doctor to bend a little bit here y there on his rules. 2 1/2yrs to heal up finally can exercise y eat right .Started my cycle all over again Doctor announced I’m back in Perimenopause noooooooo! Not again!! I was through not fair but oh well 😔 !!
Mybody chemistry fully messed up my tried y true diet wouldn’t work!!! Nothing from before is doable or works.Diet makes me gain!! Opposite moment! Exercise I used to do not allowed ever again according to doctors.My procedure he has me on hysterectomy type exercises.

So new plans new start.
Research up a storm found a few I like so combined then eliminated what wasn’t working. Played around with it all till got it figured out for my body.

1.Soccer with baby,indoor walking, when we go out running after a 2yr old is exhausting (my Daughter is 20 so huge gap ), y dancing with baby.

2. Diet- Fresh foods as natural as possible, Keto for cold months (hit a snag my diet wasn’t filling me up like it did this summer), vegan to meat dishes all healthy less sugars ,salts,seasoning,fried anything,etc.
Figuring out ways around issues at family dinners to eating out so it’s sustainable permanently when I move from diet to maintain catagory. Well families learning to deal with it if I don’t want anything but salad with ham on it for thanksgiving or vegan stuffing from a cousin with veggies then that’s what I’ll eat. Trying to discover things restaurants offer on the menus I’ve missed out on so can have better healthier meals. At the moment halfing the meals taking half home for tomorrow but rather just get a plate of low cal options eat all I want not have a doggie bag...researching up a storm.

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I have read all of your posts and your all right (except for the 7 day egg thing haha... funny😉)
I answered my own question in my post. Balanced diet , exercise, calorie deficit. It’s true the white noise of the ‘fad’ diets gets pretty loud sometimes. The pressure to be that perfect body type screaming at you, wanting the weight off so bad you lose sight of what’s actually working. I’m sure I’m not the only person that has the same thoughts and deals with the same issues!! Keep the comments coming. ☺️

I am in much the same situation -lost the weight through MFP, kept it off for over a year, some serious work stress happened and gained almost all of it back. Haven't really been able to get properly back into the swing of things since - I know exactly what I need to do, but just have a hard time consistently sticking to doing it for some reason so trying to work on stress-management side of things more and keep trying at the consistency thing lol.

Hope you find your way back to it!