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Stay at home spouses

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.
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  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    No, I have one of those modern husbands who thinks the woman should work, too. :grumble:
  • ritajean3
    ritajean3 Posts: 306 Member
    I'm a stay at home mum. For the first year of our eldest sons life his dad was the stay at home parent.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.


    Can I have you? But, I want to stay home, too....
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.

    I got one and God Bless her. With my offsprings, it is better to work in the coal mines of West Virginia...lol.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.

    I got one and God Bless her. With my offsprings, it is better to work in the coal mines of West Virginia...lol.


    mommy, I'm scared....
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.


    Can I have you? But, I want to stay home, too....

    That's just... not gonna work *LOL*
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    I've got one, but could always use another. :wink:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*
  • Leslie2273
    Leslie2273 Posts: 152 Member
    I tried to be one, but he would make daily 'to do' lists for me AND I did his paperwork in his home office because his was a realtor so if I didn't get my work done by the time he got home there was hell to pay. Needless to say I left....eventually I prefer being a single working mother than an abused stay at home wife that can never do anything right.
  • Froggy1976
    Froggy1976 Posts: 472
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*
    My husband and I have both been stay at home parents, at different times of course. We now both work, it keeps the sanity in the house and the bills paid.
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*
    Quite easy in fact...As long as DCF does not find out about previously mentioned children working in coal mines, anyone can do it...Just kidding people. I won't send my children to work in coal mines of WV when there is a sewage plant right down the street.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*
    Quite easy in fact...As long as DCF does not find out about previously mentioned children working in coal mines, anyone can do it...Just kidding people. I won't send my children to work in coal mines of WV when there is a sewage plant right down the street.

    I adore you.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    My daycare was $11K per year. I rejoiced when he started school last week *LOL* But I'm a single mommy so none of this really applies to me, but I struggle w/ one income. I applaud those that can make it work.
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    I'm actually a single stay at home mom (of 2) who I looks after 4 children during day. I have my own mortgage and just bought a new van. Its all about the budget baby! I'm extremely good with money, (I have no choice) and we don't live an extravagant lifestyle. I have a great ex-husband who does his share and is very involved. I hope someday to be a 2 income family again - its sooo much easier! lol
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I'm an at home mom. We homeschool too. I don't know how we make it either! :D Our cars are old but have no payments, we have some cute clothes but that's thanks to the thrift store and we make almost all our food from scratch. Better for us and less expensive. We also live somewhat rural so our house payment isn't ridiculous. Oh, and our house is itty bitty but we're all in here!

    I wouldn't trade the life we have for anything. :)
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I tried to be one, but he would make daily 'to do' lists for me.

    Oh hell no.

    I'm not sure if I could do the stay-at-home thing. If I had kids, maybe I could, because at least I'd be busy. I guess I could have a CPA practice at home. I'm just one of those people who prefer to keep work life and home life totally separate. It really bugs me when I have to bring work home because it makes me feel like work is invading my personal life.
  • thegymbunny
    thegymbunny Posts: 602 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    My daycare was $11K per year. I rejoiced when he started school last week *LOL* But I'm a single mommy so none of this really applies to me, but I struggle w/ one income. I applaud those that can make it work.

    Also a single mommy who will be glad when BOTH kids are not in daycare anymore.
    Of course it's STILL $85 a week for aftercare.

    It never ends.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    I'm actually a single stay at home mom (of 2) who I looks after 4 children during day. I have my own mortgage and just bought a new van. Its all about the budget baby! I'm extremely good with money, (I have no choice) and we don't live an extravagant lifestyle. I have a great ex-husband who does his share and is very involved. I hope someday to be a 2 income family again - its sooo much easier! lol

    This is not judgmental, but an honest question... Where do you get income from?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    My daycare was $11K per year. I rejoiced when he started school last week *LOL* But I'm a single mommy so none of this really applies to me, but I struggle w/ one income. I applaud those that can make it work.

    Also a single mommy who will be glad when BOTH kids are not in daycare anymore.
    Of course it's STILL $85 a week for aftercare.

    It never ends.

    Yup. We really had to do private school which is only $2400/year, though. And before/after care is $150/month. Still a HUGE savings. YAY!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I tried to be one, but he would make daily 'to do' lists for me.

    Oh hell no.

    I'm not sure if I could do the stay-at-home thing. If I had kids, maybe I could, because at least I'd be busy. I guess I could have a CPA practice at home. I'm just one of those people who prefer to keep work life and home life totally separate. It really bugs me when I have to bring work home because it makes me feel like work is invading my personal life.

    I have a kid and couldn't do it *LOL* I'd actually go stir crazy. I'm not cut out for it. I need a stay at home wife, though *LOL*

    Accountants unite, BTW!!! WOOT!
  • KateHubb
    KateHubb Posts: 366 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    I stayed at home for the first year of my son's life. It got extremely boring, and annoying when my husband came home from work and expected a big hot dinner on the table, clothes folded, floors swept etc. Yeah, I get that if I'm at home all day I can keep the house clean, but just the point of him expecting that stuff to be done got under my skin. So anyway, now my husband and I both work. My son's daycare bill is about $380 per month and I make more than 5x that amount... so yeah... it's worth it for me to work and not just stay home. My paychecks pay for his daycare, our rent, car payment and a few other bills. BUT it will be amazing when he starts school in a year and that daycare bill is gone, but there will be after school care to start paying for as a previous poster mentioned. It doesn't ever end.
  • thegymbunny
    thegymbunny Posts: 602 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    My daycare was $11K per year. I rejoiced when he started school last week *LOL* But I'm a single mommy so none of this really applies to me, but I struggle w/ one income. I applaud those that can make it work.

    Also a single mommy who will be glad when BOTH kids are not in daycare anymore.
    Of course it's STILL $85 a week for aftercare.

    It never ends.

    Yup. We really had to do private school which is only $2400/year, though. And before/after care is $150/month. Still a HUGE savings. YAY!

    Any savings is better than none! Especially huge!
    It's just nearly impossible to make it on one income in todays society.
    Oh well, makes it interesting!!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,145 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.
    I'm more interested that you can shoot a gun.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    How many of you are or have a spouse that does not work outside of the home?

    If you do not, would you like one? I cook... I cook very well. And, I'm easy.... Win:Win.
    I'm more interested that you can shoot a gun.

    Shockingly accurately as well....
  • Rachaelluvszipped
    Rachaelluvszipped Posts: 768 Member
    I'm a SAHM.... and have a college kid, 2 teenage twin high school boys, and a 4yr old.. Hubby works, the three older kids have extracurricular activites..hubby is a basketball coach on the side..its just a matter of budgeting and getting things done a certain way.. haha, gotta be creative!

    Rachael:flowerforyou:
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    Thank you for this! Good god.
  • 42hockeymom
    42hockeymom Posts: 521 Member
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*
    Quite easy in fact...As long as DCF does not find out about previously mentioned children working in coal mines, anyone can do it...Just kidding people. I won't send my children to work in coal mines of WV when there is a sewage plant right down the street.

    Dang! We have neither here in the NE Wisconsin town I live in. BUT we do have a great slaughter house about 20 miles away! I'm gonna have to look into that!


    No, really, I'm a SAHM. Our kids are 21 and 14. Obviously, my 21 yo does not need me like the 14 yo does. When our yougest was born, we did the math and it was going to cost us MORE than if I stayed home. I did work for more than 8 years on an Ambulance service which was perfect, but then had to find other employment. When I started to work full time at a hospital an hour away, almost everything fell apart for our youngest. Hubby found a great job but is gone 3 - 4 weeks at a stretch and we decided that it was time for me to "come back home" and it wasn't fair to our oldest either, she doesn't have to be raising our youngest, help yes, but this was going beyond help. Some people don't think I should have done this, she's a teen girl, she'll be fine. HOWEVER, her grades went from crap to honor roll, and her behavior improved dramatically. I wouldn't change this for the world. When she's older, when she can drive herself around, I'm going back to school. We're using this time to save up for my tuition. It's tight, sure, I coupon, we shop at the consignment shops and whatnot. But we're all happier. If you can do it, then go for it! I know what it's like to be on both sides and I know there are people out there who can't make the choice I did. I have the upmost respect for single moms. I've been married to a truck driver for 24 years, I sort of know what it's like to be a single mom, and I do this by choice! God bless the ones who don't have the choices I do and make it work so beautifully. They are truly the heroes of this world!
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

    Because the cost of daycare is more than what the jobs the second spouse can find, pay. You have to manage.

    I'm actually a single stay at home mom (of 2) who I looks after 4 children during day. I have my own mortgage and just bought a new van. Its all about the budget baby! I'm extremely good with money, (I have no choice) and we don't live an extravagant lifestyle. I have a great ex-husband who does his share and is very involved. I hope someday to be a 2 income family again - its sooo much easier! lol

    This is not judgmental, but an honest question... Where do you get income from?

    I get roughly a normal 'outside of the home' income by looking after the 4 other children, plus I don't have to pay for childcare which would be about 250$/week, plus I get child support, I stay away from using credit (only having one not maxed out credit card - who needs interest??? gross). I live in a small city in Canada where my Mortgage payment is decent and we live a low key life. Its really quite easy, just be determined. Of course I would love more money and I plan on going back to school (my degree was money well wasted, lol) once my 3 year old is in school. We want for noting because I plan ahead and make it work. I see a lot of my friends that have two income households struggle because they feel that they have the money they should just spend it. I see my money and think about where it has to go and then use what is left over.
    I also pay for one daughters life insurance and RESP and my own RRSP and their father pays for our other daughter. Its all about balance! xo
    Ps - I also make my wine in batches and avoid the liquor store! lol
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,145 Member
    Stay at home dad, but I do PT about 1 to 2 hours a day. My wife brings home the bacon.................I just have to cook it, clean, do laundry, take out the trash, do the yard work, and best of all take care of our daughter. Honestly I really like what I do right now and wouldn't change it.
    As for living off mostly one income, it's about not having any credit or loans active. Our van gets paid off next May, and then all that's left is our mortgage. I'm a cheap *kitten* so I look for savings any way I can and don't need to have the latest gadgets or technology to enjoy life.
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