Human nature or not?

rickigageby wrote: »

So I’m curious for the female, males you can answer to, when you see someone your same gender do you often compare yourself to them physically? I mean I know I have my insecurities but I’m often finding myself “checking out” (comparing) women. Just curious to see how people think.

Definitely, and it was a source of insecurity for many years when I was younger.

Eventually I did develop an acceptance, and occasionally even appreciation, of my physical attributes. I won't ever be "curvy" or have much of a bust or butt. I am what I am, and that's okay.

I am guilty here. I compare myself to attractive women. A lot.
Sometimes I find inspiration and motivation but mostly I just end up feeling like I’m never going to compare to what they have and I feel worse about myself. I don’t ever tear them down but I definitely attack myself at times. Eh, well, I guess sometimes I get irritated at how some will flaunt and display their bodies when I’m walking with my hubs because I feel like it just points out how I’m not that and even if he isn’t comparing, he sees them though and I am comparing what he sees.

I haven’t figured out the acceptance of me part and I’m 41. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Motorsheen wrote: »

_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »

I don't compare myself to others but I do like to look at butts

Yes.

Just yesterday, there was a butt, that I casually observed at the grocery store, that stopped me in my tracks.

It was quite magnificent.

This is honestly where I observe about 90% of them 😂

Yep, just this a.m. I had to look up Cindy Crawford's stats, just to compare. Can't even remember why or what silly thought prompted me to. But I found out she weighs 8 lbs. more than I do. So why on earth don't I look like that???
I agree, comparison is evil. But we all(or at least the majority of us) do it in one way or another.

CntryGirl78 wrote: »

I am guilty here. I compare myself to attractive women. A lot.
Sometimes I find inspiration and motivation but mostly I just end up feeling like I’m never going to compare to what they have and I feel worse about myself. I don’t ever tear them down but I definitely attack myself at times. Eh, well, I guess sometimes I get irritated at how some will flaunt and display their bodies when I’m walking with my hubs because I feel like it just points out how I’m not that and even if he isn’t comparing, he sees them though and I am comparing what he sees.

I haven’t figured out the acceptance of me part and I’m 41. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Now I see a woman with a nice body clearly displayed and chuckle to myself and think, "Well damn, if I had that butt I'd probably walk around in skintight yoga pants too"

I definitely check out other women

I compare myself to similar bodies - girls with similar stats, and it always amazes me how different we can look.

I appreciate body types that are nothing like my own, but I don't compare myself to those women, just admire (some) of them.

I am envious of certain characteristics of other people (great hair, height, bone structure etc - things I can't change).

I am critical of myself, but I think that is a good thing, trying to "be better". I can improve physically, mentally, intellectually, creatively...and it feels good to look towards!

Yeah sometimes...if someone has bigger boobs, nicer hair etc then I do think I wish I had her boobs/hair etc