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"No offense, but you're getting kinda big."

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  • JruzerJruzer Member Posts: 3,426 Member Member Posts: 3,426 Member
    Now contrast this with other posts that say "I didn't realize how big I was getting. Why didn't anyone tell me?"
  • killin_tymekillin_tyme Member Posts: 93 Member Member Posts: 93 Member
    Jruzer wrote: »
    Now contrast this with other posts that say "I didn't realize how big I was getting. Why didn't anyone tell me?"

    It's all in the delivery, my friend. Sensitive subjects can be delivered (should be) with kid gloves.
  • JruzerJruzer Member Posts: 3,426 Member Member Posts: 3,426 Member
    Jruzer wrote: »
    Now contrast this with other posts that say "I didn't realize how big I was getting. Why didn't anyone tell me?"

    It's all in the delivery, my friend. Sensitive subjects can be delivered (should be) with kid gloves.

    Sure, you're right about that. But it could be in the reception rather than the delivery.

    And I feel where the OP is coming from. When I was near my heaviest, my great uncle told me straight out in a room full of people that I was the "fattest one in the Jruzer family", and that obviously was not meant as a gentle encouragement. It sucked, and hurt. But I wasn't about to insult (or punch in the throat - really?) my 80-year-old WW2-veteran great uncle, either.
  • killin_tymekillin_tyme Member Posts: 93 Member Member Posts: 93 Member
    Jruzer wrote: »
    Jruzer wrote: »
    Now contrast this with other posts that say "I didn't realize how big I was getting. Why didn't anyone tell me?"

    It's all in the delivery, my friend. Sensitive subjects can be delivered (should be) with kid gloves.

    Sure, you're right about that. But it could be in the reception rather than the delivery.

    And I feel where the OP is coming from. When I was near my heaviest, my great uncle told me straight out in a room full of people that I was the "fattest one in the Jruzer family", and that obviously was not meant as a gentle encouragement. It sucked, and hurt. But I wasn't about to insult (or punch in the throat - really?) my 80-year-old WW2-veteran great uncle, either.

    You are absolutely correct. I was simply addressing your first statement.

    I have been on both sides and I know first hand how painful it can be to hear such damaging comments. They have the ability to damage you as a person, and certainly not for the better.

    I'm sorry you had to endure such painful words. One can only hope that you understand it's not you, it's them. Your self worth can never be determined by a number on the scale.



  • jm_1234jm_1234 Member Posts: 218 Member Member Posts: 218 Member
    I would just say something like "I know, [insert reason]". Like... "I know, this lockdown was hard for me. I will lose it if covid comes back and we do another lockdown."
  • Hollis100Hollis100 Member Posts: 922 Member Member Posts: 922 Member
    Zoomie402 wrote: »
    Then the other day she called to ask what size I’m wearing now 🙄

    "Not as big as your mouth."

    >:)
  • WildlyCurlyWildlyCurly Member Posts: 151 Member Member Posts: 151 Member
    Just ignore it and say, "thanks for noticing"... Sometimes I like to throw in "I am working on my winter body." Life is too short to give any Fs.

    I have been called fat so many times by family members, even to this day at only 124 pounds and a size 4/6... When I introduced my fiancé to my family, one cousin asked me if he was blind, and another said that I am so lucky thick girls are trending. Just last week my mom said she was concerned that I wouldn't be able to find a wedding dress in my size, and questioned if the church was large enough for me to fit down the aisle. I used to be obese and I think people like family still see me that way, but even when I was a size 18/20 I would still be able to find a dress and certainly fit down an aisle. WTF? Once my Aunt even questioned if I was able to fit through a subway turnstile in NYC, and that was when I weighed 145 lb. I bet she still thinks I can't fit. Geez... So moral of the story, just ignore all comments about your size.
  • Diatonic12Diatonic12 Member Posts: 5,424 Member Member Posts: 5,424 Member
    Don't let any of those comments grind you down. Try to keep it in neutral and not be swayed by flattery or wounded by harsh criticism. Super-egos enjoy making others feel small. I can spot them a mile away.
  • JustCallMeWhateverJustCallMeWhatever Member Posts: 125 Member Member Posts: 125 Member
    JenG20 wrote: »
    Recently got this comment from a family member. It definitely caught me off guard. Not sure if anyone has been in a similar situation. If so how did you handle this?

    Challenge accepted.
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