Sexy in Six **Closed Group!** Week 3 Chit-Chat

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?

You bet your butt. People are nicer, it was easier to get a job, everyone is more talkative... It's a sad sad thing that our society is still so focused on outer appearances. I have lost friends tho as well simply because they aren't interested in being friends with a "skinny B!tch". Sad sad sad.

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?

I haven't really noticed much difference. There is a lot of support. With the exception of my one friend who told me I need to stop dieting and eat healthier. WTH did she think I was doing. Besides I think she is the last person I know to give anyone healthy eating advice. So anything that comes out her mouth in regards to healthy living I take with a grain of salt. Unless big macs and 12 hours of tv watching per day is healthy if and on that day I will take her advice. Most people I know though are very supportive, are motivating and very nice. I was never treated anyway by society but always carried my weight well. I do think society in general finds overweight/obese people lazy but I have never seen someone be treated like crap for it. It's not healthy to be overwr deight, it's not healthy to be under weight. At the end of the day the size we are thin or not is a direct reflection of how we live and what we do or do not do to remain that way. People make the conscious decision everyday to be the size they are (even if they are unhappy) so I really think no one is in the position to make someone else feel bad about themselves. After all it's not they're body, people need to just focus themselves. My mother always told me if people go out of their way to make someone else feel bad the problem isn't the other person but solely the one who is speaking. After growing and maturing she couldn't be more right. Now when I find myself getting a little catty I give myself a reality check and focus on me. I'm the only one I can change.

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?

YES! When I was 30 pounds heavier no one really noticed me that much, I was pretty much invisible.:grumble: Growing up as a chubby kid I had a neighborhood "friend" that was really just a bully to me and made fun of the way I looked all the time and told me how me and my family were all fat, lazy people! :explode: Hehehe well guess who's the fatty now! :devil: (I'm sorry I shouldn't feel happy that my childhood bully is now fatter than me...) ANYWAY! 30 pounds lighter I had more attention (it was my senior year of high school) and more guys were noticing me..**correction**..more CREEPERS were noticing me!!! :sad: Two guys followed me home from the bus stop (one asked if he could come INSIDE the house when my parents weren't even home!), one guy I never met before followed me to class :noway: ...it was just not the attention I was looking for UNTIL I met Santiago and we've been together for 2 years now!

As society goes I will just quote Fat *kitten* from Austin Powers: Goldmember..... "When you're an overweight child, in a society that demands perfection, your sense of right and wrong, fair and unfair will always be tragically skewed..."

I think what he is saying is true and relates to what everyone is saying about this topic. Society continues to focus on the importance of appearances rather than health! It doesn't matter if she has to be put on medication for the rest of her life, look at her arm jiggle! Yes it's not good to be overweight, but it's also not good to punish people for being overweight by being mean and making fun of how they LOOK. And it is WRONG to not give someone a job because of their appearance and NOT because they lack experience! Society does not try to help overweight children become healthy adults, they teach them to hate themselves and hate the way they look, giving them a low self-esteem and low confidence in themselves. I read somewhere that overweight girls in high school were less likely to go to college because they feared they would be judged by their appearance. That just makes me sad.
This was a great question to ask everyone.

Tuesday's QoTD: We've had a lot of questions about food, but what about exercise....what is your favorite type of exercise? Have you tried something new since you've started the weight loss journey? Do you have a routine/schedule that you follow or just do whatever?

I am seriously a zumba addict!!! I go to at least 3 1 hr classes a week.

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?

As I gained the weight my future in laws would constanly discuss it. I.E. are you exercising yet, you need to watch out your blood pressure is going to go up and then you'll end up with diabetes and a heart attack. Those kinda things. I have been steadily losing inches and not necessarily lbs and on Monday they saw me and for the first time ever they said wow you're looking good, losing some weight there. It was kind of bittersweet in the fact that they made rude comments previously.

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?

I have lost about 70 lbs over the course of the past few years, starting at a size 18-20 now I am pushing a size 8 - HUGE difference in perception. But I try not to focus on it, because again it was previously noted that the biggest difference was how you treated yourself, and that is the biggest key right there. It started with a much different level of attention from the opposite sex which I have to admit was really pretty fun, but after that wears off, its just great to feel good about yourself and how you look.

well yeah people are treated differently when they are overweight. i myself find it very concerning to walk in to a nutritionist office and see the nutritioinist and their workers all larger. Something they are doing isnt right and i sure dont want to do it if thats what im going to look like.

Thursday QOTD: What are some roadblocks you face in your journey and how do you counteract those roadblocks?? for example: long shifts, over time, illness, weather, money, people, anything that steers you off your intended path.

I have faced some really crazy roadblocks to my health and fitness journey, but no more so than the horrible feeling of NO TIME. I feel torn between my kids/studying/gym almost daily. I usually try and counteract this by jogging w/the kids in the jogger or taking them to the gym w/me (they love the child watch area) to lessen my guilt, but some days it just becomes overwhelming. I usually need someone else to verbally encourage me at that point. Of everything I have encountered, the no time dilemma is the worst one for me.

Can't wait to read some of your responses!!!

Thursday? I'm off to bed now!!!! And I know our Singapore friend is already fast asleep...... Well , Good luck everyone for the weigh in - especially Team Purple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tuesday's QoTD: We've had a lot of questions about food, but what about exercise....what is your favorite type of exercise? Have you tried something new since you've started the weight loss journey? Do you have a routine/schedule that you follow or just do whatever?
I think my favorite exercise is weightlifting. I love seeing the progression of increasing weight and seeing the muscle definition. I have tried plenty of new things on this journey. For instance I got a HRM and now I am a lot happier to do things like run or Insanity or P90X because now I don't have to guesstimate my calories. I definitely follow a routine. I try to do cardio on Tuesday and Saturday and Sunday. I ride horses on Thursday. I lift on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

Wednesday QoTD: Has anyone experienced different treatment by others as you have lost or gained weight? , and if not how do you think our society treats "overweight" people in general ?
I think people treat me differently. I'm not sure if that is really because I look that different or if it is because I see myself differently. I guess in some ways I still feel like the fat friend. But I'm coming around to the thought that guys might come over to the table to talk to me as well as my friends. This thought is easy to conquer because I have awesome and supportive friends.
I think in general society thinks of overweight people as lazy and slobs. If someone has never been overweight than they do not know how hard it is to get back in shape. It's hard for people to find time once they have jobs and families and such. However I think that if you want something bad enough you will do whatever it is to get there. Therefore if you want to get skinny bad enough you will do what you have to to cut calories and lose weight.